FeatherBird
New Member
Long story short, the event went well...until it didn't.
We had a 5 minute mini date with various attendees (the event lasted 2 hours; that means lots of 5 minute mini-dates). The mini-date part was the part that went well.
Then for the final 10 minutes of the event, the event became an open floor event (meaning anyone could mingle with anyone, we were encouraged to exchange contact information if we wanted, etc)
At the very beginning of the final 10 minutes, I asked about exchanging contact information with a woman I thought our 5 minute mini date went well with. I got turned down. I then went to talk to the woman I had my very first mini date with (as she was the only other woman who was by herself at that point). I never asked her for contact information (but I thought she might offer). No such luck.
There are a few other female attendees I wanted to ask (and my inkling tells me they might have said yeah). But they were already being swarmed by other men.
2 main problems that come with these type of events:
1. The gender ratio isn't in our favor (there were more male attendees than female attendees)
2. When the event becomes an open floor environment for the final 10 minutes, all that serves to do is humiliate those of us with ASD
We had a 5 minute mini date with various attendees (the event lasted 2 hours; that means lots of 5 minute mini-dates). The mini-date part was the part that went well.
Then for the final 10 minutes of the event, the event became an open floor event (meaning anyone could mingle with anyone, we were encouraged to exchange contact information if we wanted, etc)
At the very beginning of the final 10 minutes, I asked about exchanging contact information with a woman I thought our 5 minute mini date went well with. I got turned down. I then went to talk to the woman I had my very first mini date with (as she was the only other woman who was by herself at that point). I never asked her for contact information (but I thought she might offer). No such luck.
There are a few other female attendees I wanted to ask (and my inkling tells me they might have said yeah). But they were already being swarmed by other men.
2 main problems that come with these type of events:
1. The gender ratio isn't in our favor (there were more male attendees than female attendees)
2. When the event becomes an open floor environment for the final 10 minutes, all that serves to do is humiliate those of us with ASD
