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Our Journey through Asperger: A Spouse Perspective
- Author BlueSky Aozora
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Having an undiagnosed aspie husband, and being weird myself (aspie? adhd? or just plain lazy?), I'm kinda aware of how our way of life is kinda burdening the people around us, when other people of the same age contribute so much to the people around them and society.
I do agree that many aspies...
The office I worked at regularly posts the birthday wishes for the staffs in the chat group.
But they always overlooked my birthday but not other people.
I don't want to celebrate birthday except with my family - it's the same as any other day, except maybe we buy cake and pizzas (NTs in...
I burst into tears this evening, several times. I have no actual reason to cry, if thinking logically. I dont have any serious illness, or serious financial issues, or lose a job or a loved ones or anything.
I think maybe I have a burnout.
But the reason for the burnout is so stupid: my...
I have this 'not good' tendency to not record or write much about good stuffs that's happening. Maybe that's why you would find my blog to be kinda negative most of the time.
Anyway. So, my aspie husband passed the preliminary interview! Hurray!
Maybe he's got lucky - because I heard they...
Hi, i actually just want to rant. This stuff has been in my head for months. I tried to google if there's anybody else has ranted about the same problem, but i couldnt find it, only can find 'informational' stuff about this.
Okay. I've been assigned as a committee member for a conference event...
Okay, he couldn't sleep for two nights before the interview day. That sucks, we kinda argued because I will get tired too when he's insomniac.
Like, I asked him many times about how about you wear a necktie; then he said no need and said I was nagging him. But when we reached the place, he...
Okay, I prayed this evening that I wish God gives my husband friends..
And when he went to the usual prayer hall after sunset, I noticed he doesn't come back yet.. usually he already home after 30-40 minutes. Then we will go to the usual stall to have our dinner (he complained he's already...
This post is saying what I am feeling:Men expect women to take all the decisions: What to wear, what to eat, why to buy - even where to live | Daily Mail Online
Well, I'm not the dominant-type woman, I prefer to feel safe with someone reliable.
And I think Aspies are like that too - except...
Okay this may seem too radical to be posted here, but this is my blog so anyway.
Aspie/autism is okay and such, but the problem appears in marriage. In a marriage, the ASD will live with the partner 24/7. So it's impossible to mask.
And another thing is, the ASD subconsciously actually want a...
I've been net-searching research fellow/postdoc/scientist jobs in my small developing country in my husband specialization to no avail. This country doesn't have that many research institutes, let alone any in his field. Seriously, there's no research job in this country for post-phd except for...
He picked me up at work today, eventhough he was having headache and gone home earlier. We watched a movie about the series he loves on his phone. Even though he said he cant make a move about finding job or contacting other people, he seems happy to watch the movie.
Then he goes to daily...
He cannot fall into a deep sleep for weeks now. Sleep for about 1 hour, then suddenly wakes up from midnite until 3,4 am. After that also, not falling into a deep sleep.
So, the next morning he will be depressed and have headache, also bad mood. Cannot do anything.
Maybe this is a vicious...
I was kinda in bad mood this afternoon, because I walked so much in the main area of this uni this morning, tending to several matters inefficiently.
Then my husband called. Saying something I dont understand about what he doesn't like about the pair of glasses he just fetched this afternoon...
That's hard! Without the aspie's cooperation, or if he's not interested in anything that the society there has, what to do?? When I asked him, he said to me, "Make one." Who's the one who need to MAKE that place of belonging for him? Is it me? How is that possible without his cooperation?
The...
Previously, since my Asperger husband sacrificed his research career to move to my developing country (where nobody here doing his particular field of research; but there are teams doing this in his developed country, he supposed to join the team, but he sacrificed it to move here.. so sad), he...
Instead of letting things jumbling up into a tighter knot in my mind, let's just jot what are weighing my mind down.
The problem of our marriage is a combined set of several problem sets.
My husband's:
Asperger
Foreigner
International marriage
Moving to a foreign land
Moving to wife's country...
Actually I wanted to write a blog last week, when he's surprisingly seem happy in his daily life... for a week.. which sadly only lasts until last Sunday.
After his previous work contract ended 2 weeks ago, he continued to come to the institution where I'm working (he's unpaid now; he's been...
I think I have a problem (or many), but I don't know how I'm supposed to tell other people about it. Since, if I'm going to tell other people, usually it always sound like a too-simple problem. The only solution is for me to work harder. And i sounded like i'm only whining.
Which is actually...
My spouse relocated to my country.
We have at least three languages used here; I repeat, THREE LANGUAGES!!
English for work (we are not from English-speaking countries),
Another local language for communication with the locals,
And another foreign language for religious culture purpose...