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is it necessary for me to tell my friend i think she has aspergers or similar?

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I'm pretty sure my friend has aspergers, but I'm no expert, I could be wrong. Although I did feel comfortable enough to tell her that I think her son is, and she went and got him help along with the aspergers diagnosis. I don't know how to do paragraphs on this tablet thing I'm writing on. She talks non stop, she has very perfectionist thinking, only me and one other friend, stooped posture, kind of light almost tip toe walk, doesn't even notice that I'm talking sometimes, my friend just committed suicide and she didn't even ask how I felt, just re told a story of a suicide she dealt with years ago. Anyway, I think she has aspergers, but is that any of her business? Just think her knowing might give her a sense of relief, as I know she feels different. Other wise, she might get confused, as she is only just learning about aspergers, and doesn't seem to realise yet how high functio.ing it can be, or just like nt's, everybody is different.
Oh, that's how to start a new paragraph! Lol!

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It might be something if you are a good friend to bring up to her gently when you think its the right time. Obviously she learning about it all on her own right now with her son being diagnosed sometimes it takes a kid being diagnosed to get the adult diagnosed too. Maybe see what she thinks and if she responds to what people are saying and suggesting about her son.
 
If she already knows about it in relation to her son, she might eventually be able to realize on her own, whether or not she also has it.

I don't think it's important to tell her now. She probably has to learn more about it first.
 
I would not recommend telling her that she has Aspergers. You don't want to overwhelm her since she will be focusing on the son. In the process of helping her son, maybe she will see things within herself that matches Aspergers. If not, wait until this becomes a new normal for her then tell her your suspicions. I would do this in small steps by hinting and over a period of time.
 
I agree with Historianthomas. For one thing, she may not take it well and you may lose a friend. Instead of trying to "label" her, it might be better if you gently focused on the behaviors (one at a time) that are interfering with your friendship. However, keep in mind that to be an Aspie is to be constantly criticized and seldom praised, and for that reason I would tread carefully.
 
Spinning Compass;bt2246 said:
I agree with Historianthomas. For one thing, she may not take it well and you may lose a friend. Instead of trying to "label" her, it might be better if you gently focused on the behaviors (one at a time) that are interfering with your friendship. However, keep in mind that to be an Aspie is to be constantly criticized and seldom praised, and for that reason I would tread carefully.
I disagree with spinning compass, I don't think you are trying to label her I think that you have seen what you saw in her son and are trying to be helpful. Spinning compass is wrong, we are not constantly criticized and seldom praised. I am often praised for doing a job well...so that being said taking her experiences and my professional opinion. I would recommend talking to her about it but focusing on the good aspects. Focus on how it will help her son, and focus on you being her friend. There is no reason not to talk to her about it. Especially if it is interfering with your friendship.
 

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