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Frustration

Once again, I have been asked about finding a home for a cat. This time it was "I rescued this kitten from a man who was going to kill it, but I can't keep it due to whatever, so could you take it in for a while?" Arrgh!

I do not know why people seem to think that I am the go-to person for unwanted cats. Is it because I am single and apparently don't have a life? You know, the stereotypical cat lady? Does this happen to other cat owners?

I would not mind so much, perhaps, if these same people would keep me in mind when it came to doing fun things like going out to eat or to the show or even shopping. But to be thought of only when they have a problem animal to get rid of and they can't be bothered to do their own legwork is rather insulting. Because these people are trying to get something for nothing. Well, I have news for them.

You want me to take in your cat just for a short time? Fine. Then, just like any other kennel, I have the following requirements. The animal MUST be up-to-date on its vaccinations and certified FIV, FIP or FLV-negative. No animal comes in my house who has not passed a veterinary health exam. Yes, I realize what kind of money we are talking about here. That is exactly my point. Do you really expect me to do this on my own dime? Oh, by the way, if your cat is sexually mature or soon to be sexually mature, it needs to be neutered. I am not dealing with unplanned feline pregnancies here.

It's been a while since I boarded my cats so I am not sure what the going rate is now, but let's say it is $10 per animal per day. After all, Fluffy has to eat. Again, that money's coming out of my own pocket. I barely make enough to cover my own expenses as is. I think it only fair that you chip in.

Since Fluffy's stay is only supposed to be temporary, someone has to take responsibility for finding her her new forever home. I take it that it will not be you. Therefore, if you want me to do the legwork of calling/e-mailing shelters and rescue organizations, I feel it is only fair that I be compensated for my time and gas. Many of these organizations are not open after I get off work, which means I have to take time off work to deliver Fluffy to her new quarters. So I am requesting an hourly rate that is slightly more than my hourly pay to make up for the loss of income. No, I am not joking.

At this point you may well walk off in a huff and say, forget it, I can do it myself. Be my guest. I don't mind helping people out but I will be damned if I let them take advantage of me and that is exactly what you are trying to do. You are trying to dump your cat on me, hoping I will take it off your hands for nothing. Times are hard, you say. Exactly. So why are you trying to add another burden to my load? I am not running a goddam cat charity. I don't get donations from the public or any other source. Certainly not any from you.

I am thinking about getting business cards printed up with my schedule of fees just so I can hand them out when asked, which happens about 3-4 times a year. I don't expect to get any takers but it might get people to think about just what they are asking when they ask me that. It's not a small thing and that's why it annoys me so.

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I think what you are saying is fine, just be a little nicer about it. I think you should be assertive & tell some or all of what you said here(again, a little more nicer). I think getting business card is fine if that is what you want. You have to do what you have to do Compass. Just be assertive to these people & tell them you don't have the resources to continue doing this unless you get paid for the time & effort.
 
1 or 2 Winters ago I rescued 3 animals-2 cats and a dog. They weren't being fed so I fed, watered them and walked the doggie. He was a beautiful chocolate colored Boxer type. Called up Animal Control & they immediatly took the dog but left the abandoned cats! They refused to take the cats. 1 cat was a grey male with white chest/belly. The female was a racoon colored fluffy hairy tiger striped.

After MANY phone calls, red tape from all the largest animal nonprofits, town hall etc I went online, emailed & called volunteers. After a week? of phone calls some volunteers came here & scooped up both cats! I had been feeding them for several weeks-a month till I got help. Both were in bad shape & one was being chased by a guy.

Also a few years ago at work I was feeding cats outside in my companies parking lot. One I tried to rescue but someone else got that kitty :-(
 
Oh, I'm not as rude as that in real life. Especially in the particular setting that I was in. Which may have been why she (and it is always a she) sprung that trap. I was just venting.

I can well relate to your troubles placing your animals that you rescued, Spartacus--this is the same situation I would be in if I had said yes to any of these requests. As my boss likes to say, what she has learned from a millionaire friend is that time is valuable and it is finite. The time you spent on legwork trying to place these animals is time that you could not spend doing something else. I happen to have better uses for my time and resources than to spend it being taken advantage of because I have a kind heart.
 
That is very kind of you to care about cats! But I understand what you are saying. Once I volunteered so much it drastically affected my life. After taking a huge hit in my personal life for volunteering too much, I decided to take a break. PEOPLE CAME OUT OF THE WOODWORK to ask me to volunteer for the flavor of the moment!

When I told them no because I had volunteered too much, it was as if I had turned on a water faucet! They went into overdrive trying to make me feel guilty. After awhile I basically had to tell them to go f*ck themselves via a friendly "this is what I have done for ___ and that___ groups" now leave me alone.

Happens to a lot of volunteers and I feel that you have put your time into this cause. Your millionaire friend is right. Time is finite and we never get it back. Well that was my pleasure to help those animals. But I know exactly how you feel. People don't care & will use you when they can especially when you have a kind heart!
 
What I've found is that most people are caring only to the extent that it doesn't inconvenience them. Sure, they "rescued" a cat or kitten, but as soon as they realize they have to do something to help it, they want to dump the whole thing on someone else. Rescuing animals is a lot more work than picking them up off the street. I think making up a rate sheet and list of requirements would be an excellent idea.
 

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