Learning triggers that help avoid emotionally fueled meltdowns is a win-win for everyone. Before learning them I'd react to everything. People would often be scratching their heads wondering what had happen.
Most of my triggers go into alert when some sort of social interaction is planned to take place. I notice hours before a trip to town, friends or family visiting, I get very anxious and moody. That's one of my triggers to be aware that something is making my antennas to vibrate. I know if I don't pay attention to it worse is to come. My wife Bobbi, who also has spectrum challenges, is very supportive in helping me through these times. If we're in a checkout at store she suggest I go to the car and read, or listen to music.
If we plan on going out to a restaurant I'll have thought about it days before. What route will we take? What's the best time? I'm at the age now where I'm pretty good hiding everything, but younger years were reacting ones. I said things out spontaneous thought, uncaring who I embarrassed, more less myself. I get a feeling like I was being trapped into a corner.
Seems like a lot of energy being spent on such simple things to people that don't understand. But it is what it is. We have to find what works, for our own sanity.
Sensory issues do it the most for me, and breaking a routine. What triggers do you feel and try to listen to? What tricks do you have that help? Always interested in what others use in helping themselves. Thank you.
Most of my triggers go into alert when some sort of social interaction is planned to take place. I notice hours before a trip to town, friends or family visiting, I get very anxious and moody. That's one of my triggers to be aware that something is making my antennas to vibrate. I know if I don't pay attention to it worse is to come. My wife Bobbi, who also has spectrum challenges, is very supportive in helping me through these times. If we're in a checkout at store she suggest I go to the car and read, or listen to music.
If we plan on going out to a restaurant I'll have thought about it days before. What route will we take? What's the best time? I'm at the age now where I'm pretty good hiding everything, but younger years were reacting ones. I said things out spontaneous thought, uncaring who I embarrassed, more less myself. I get a feeling like I was being trapped into a corner.
Seems like a lot of energy being spent on such simple things to people that don't understand. But it is what it is. We have to find what works, for our own sanity.
Sensory issues do it the most for me, and breaking a routine. What triggers do you feel and try to listen to? What tricks do you have that help? Always interested in what others use in helping themselves. Thank you.
