Blog # 14

Isn't this the case with a lot of "potential" criminals. Unless something goes wrong, they cannot do something about it. And actually I wonder how legal it is to track him. Sounds a bit like everyone is a suspect for whatever reason. Maybe I'm a big gullible here but I don't think it makes sense to track potential criminals down (since everyone can be a potential criminal). Besides; what makes someone potential?

Is this becoming an age where I have to become so inhibited and live "within my mind" because others might spy on me and prosecute me for whatever I'm thinking (let alone plan, but might not have the courage to do).

I don't advocate paedophilia in any sense, but I think there still is a difference between thinking about it and actually enforcing such fantasies. But because a lot of these things happen, dare I say, everyday, even the slightest hint that reeks of sexual interest towards children is being perceived as a high potential criminal.

I do however understand your worry here, but actually this is why society in general worries me way too much. For what it's worth everyone in the streets can try and rob me, especially since I had a similar run in in my life once. So perhaps I have trust issues and perhaps I'm slightly paranoid, but just because I'm not part of the any national intelligence agency, I don't have a complete file for every stranger in the streets. (on a sidenote; in The Netherlands that would be easier to come by, since our equivalent of the CSIS lost USB-drives with confidential files... multiple times!)

His behaviour is worrysome though. But on the other hand, if his behaviour is troublesome for waiting at a school to potentially pick a kid up, I'm always wondering how (mostly) men aren't being perceived as potential rapists as well... especially if you stare at a woman for say... 10+ seconds.

I for one think that the discussion about paedophilia should be more out and in the open. If I already feel threatened to touch this subject with a therapist, let alone with friends or family, that's a cause for concern as well. I honestly believe some people with these urges are rather cured from this predicament they're in. But I don't see such a topic becoming less of a taboo. For what it's worth people aren't even up to discuss rape in a proper way and that involves adult people predominantly.

In this day and age it's worrysome that a person can strike fear into a community by potentially being something rather disturbing. The most rational solution would be to be around your child 24/7 until he/she's old enough, but with that, comes the 21st century, where parents both work and don't have time for it (and if they do, they might lack financial resources). In an ideal world one could say "they should just keep their hands off our kids"... but in that same world there would be no rape, no gun debates (and clearly no causes for that), no poverty and the evening news would be the best 30 minutes of the day.