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I feel like I'm never noticed enough on Facebook... :(

So,yeah. I put my all into my reputation and my Facebook,and everything of the sort. I made two pages on the site(one for lesbians and one for people recovering from self harm,etc),and neither of them get much activity. I spent all this time updating the pages-even making a website for the recovery one,and still nothing. I take nice pictures of myself wearing new clothing,I'll usually only get like 1 or 2 likes. If I'm lucky,maybe 7. Other people,who arent always the nicest ,get like 50+ likes on their stuff. i wonder what's wrong with me....am i not pretty enough,do I not go out and attend events enough,am I too shy,or do I just have bad luck in that department? :(
I need some friends who actually respond to me and like my stuff on Fb. After all,I spend almost my whole life on Facebook,as sad as it is.
Sorry for ranting,everyone....have a good night! :)

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First off; your likes do not define you.

But; I found that people that have a lot of friends, generally get more likes. That's just simple odds. Also look at how facebook works with their likes and how it shows up in newsfeeds. You like something of someone whom your friends now, it shows up on top of their newsfeed. If you're not that popular (simply put) you wont even make it to your (as well as their) newsfeeds a lot. And the more you show up in newsfeeds, the more people read it and the more people are inclined to like it.

You can also wonder; do you perceive these other people as "not nice". Do others perceive them like this? Or do they perceive them as the coolest people they know?

There's a facebook thread on this forum and people posted there before asking if anyone was interested in befriending them. So if anything and you just want some friends on facebook that might interact with you (and you somewhat know from here) you can give that thread a shot even.
 
I have 355 friends on FB,half of them,ive never met. And these people judge others all the time,they are all about "swag" and "bitchezz". They think they are the coolest,an others love them too. or pretend to. idk.
and is the facebook thread in the friendships forum? :)
 
This would be one of the threads; http://www.aspiescentral.com/off-topic-discussion/3188-anyone-facebook.html and here http://www.aspiescentral.com/off-topic-discussion/1646-facebook.html

355? That's about 4 times as much as I have going on, lol. I know most of them in person though (except for a few people from here).

Perhaps you should also wonder why you need these people as friends (or how you came about to them). Do they add anything to your life, except make yourself wonder how facebook and friends work?
 
Well,some became really close friends. Most of them are from LGBT pages and stuff. A few are from Tumblr. About 1/3 of them are people ive met in real life though. idk,some of them help me a lot. some...make me feel intimidated.
 
I'm not on Facebook (not really interested) but a while back I put up a dummy site in my cat's name because someone I worked with told me she had been corresponding on FB with me for several months! I said, now don't you think it odd that we work together and not once have I mentioned any of our conversations? She insisted it was me. Well I don't know who she was talking with but it was not me. So I made a dummy site (yes, I know the FB people don't like that but too bad). And I found that there were several people with the same name as myself on FB (it's not a common name). One of them sort of looked like me but the address should have been a dead giveaway right there.

Anyway after I made this dummy site (which I never visit and is totally inactive) my cat has been gettting "friend" requests from all kinds of people that neither she nor I have heard of. This amuses me and bothers me. I am of the old school that when you say you are my friend and I say you are my friend it actually means much more than checking a box on a website. That doesn't mean that you can't build online friendships that aren't meaningful but I guess I am more interested in quality versus quantity. I'd rather have one live flesh and blood friend than 300 people who don't even know me but want to add my name to their list like it was some kind of trophy.
 
I was looking for a tumblr thread and came across this blog posts :) when you just starting up with pages and website etc, you shouldn't really expect a lot of action. And it's not really about people liking you or your posts, it's about them needing or not needing what you provide. Some people naturally drag a lot of attention towards themselves, usually those are typically likable people (people can be likable if they make others feel important for whatever reason). I'm just starting out with the pages, blogs and, hopefully, get my websites out soon. I know people will not very likely run and jump on my stuff, like they are the most important things in their lives :) I will probably need spend some cash on adds, or go above and beyond to spread the word among as many people as possible. At this point I don't worry about this too much, because I'm still working on publishing my 1st book, products and concepts development. My major problems are: lack of ability to organize myself - concentrate on what matters the most - and TIME. You should mention your pages and website more often. I am personally a very curious person, I always check other people's creative works if I see a link. I can't say I'm always interested but I don't expect other people like my stuff either: if they're interested - great, if not - that's ok. Building audience requires lots of time and effort, so don't worry. If you work hard on it, see what other people do to build an audience, you'll succeed.
 

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