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Is Autism/Aspergers an excuse? (addendum)

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A situation came to mind regarding the entire notion if autism is an excuse. And if it?s not, then how would one define this behavior.

A while ago on a forum about miniature wargaming and painting someone started a thread where someone asked him (I blindly assume it?s a he, but it could just as well be a she) ?how do you manage to paint all of those figures? Where do you find the time??

A lot of people responded and as such, so did I.

My response was something akin of this;

?I make time for it. I tend to be somewhat dedicated to it. I can easily go 16+ hours on a painting session. I don?t have a bunch of friends. I choose not to have kids and I don?t have a wife as such. Because of that I actually have this time to do all these things. I don?t go out as much. On Friday night when you?re all out drinking with friends, I?m painting. On Saturday I?m painting in the evening? and on Sunday, when y?all are hung over from partying with friends the day before, I?m painting again. Because of that I don?t have unpainted figures and because of that I won?t complain ever I?ll have unpainted figures and don?t have time.?
And this behavior for my personally, isn?t just on painting. When I was in college or uni, it went on the same studying for said courses.

To me, it sounds like a perfect introvert and probably with added obsessive tendencies, a loner and to some this wouldn?t be a stretch to state ?that?s someone with autism?. Clearly it?s a blunt statement, but go from there, add in some actual tests regarding autism in terms of body language, empathy, social difficulties and you?ve got someone as stereotypical aspie with specific preoccupations as they get.

I didn?t mention anything about my condition. I just went on to state how I take care of my stuff (which perhaps might come across as the creepy guy in moms basement; I don?t live in the basement, but anything else, perhaps)

Yet; the responses I got to my post weren?t that positive. I?ve got berated for being weird, antisocial and that I needed to get out more. My behavior was unhealthy.

I didn?t end up responding to the thread anymore and at some point stopped reading.

The thing that bothers me is when I don?t state something about my condition; people are probably less understanding. And much like I touched earlier in blogs; if I?m not autistic I?m a weirdo with an unhealthy interest and lifestyle (which might be true), I'd be antisocial, introverted and probably a slew of pathological other disorders, but due to how my mind works, it?s perfectly viable to keep mental stability.

And while It?s not an excuse, I think for some it?s a lifestyle (or at least a way of dealing with things) by itself.

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I definitely believe it can be an excuse for things of that nature. The only time I don't htink it should ever be used as an excuse is if,for example,someone shot someone,then said,"oh,i'm autistic and i cant control my behavior". Because thats not true. Autism doesnt make someone do terrible things like that. Its usually some underlying issue that causes that stuff. So,in a general,everyday sense,yes,it is an excuse. :) This is just my opinion.
 
Your response about making time when people ask you about finding the time to paint reminds me of something I get told a lot. "Oh, you are so smart. I wish I were as smart as you." What they don't realize is that "being smart" is a choice that I have made. Yes, you have to be born with a certain amount of intelligence, but what you do with it is up to you. I happen to choose to fill my brain with things of an intellectual nature. And in my neck of the woods, for a woman to do that is well, rather odd to say the least. Ever seen "Stepford Wives", the scene where they are all at a book club meeting and Bette Midler's character talks about reading a biography of Lyndon Johnson, only to be interrupted by Glenn Close who holds up a book on Christmas decorations and says, "Girls, now this is the most important book you will ever read . . ."? Yeah. I can relate. Big Time. That's how it was at my old church. Thank God it is NOT like that at my new one.
 

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