Such is the game of life to figure out. I never liked how in the society of our world, we tend not to be open enough in a 1-1 context when we should be. Everyone shops around for acquaintances and true friends alike. It's generally not socially acceptable to just tell a person you only want a certain level of friendship. Plus, there's also the idea that we may want to change our minds one way or another as time develops. For the most part, once you degrade a certain level of friendship, people don't allow any kind of substantial friendship to build up no matter what.
I can't say I fully follow these things myself, but I can say that I do try when and if I feel the time is right if necessary. Some people may not take my actions the right way, but you can't please everyone. Sometimes it seems hypocritical that they do not accept a certain reaction or non-reaction to a situation, but yet it's "okay" for them to do similar type things to you.
Boundaries that are impossible or near impossible to work with with close minds include people under-aged understandably so unfortunately, parent and non-parent, independent and non-independent, married and not married.
and maybe to a lesser degree race possibly, socio-economics (celebrity versus non-celebrity status as a subcategory that sticks out, understandably so, because you don't know who you can trust)
20s and 30s year olds,
No time in the world would work either.
Instead, you provide other hints to do this. I hate this game of hints. Even though it's socially acceptable, sometimes it can feel morally unacceptable. I know that people usually don't play this "game" for it to be a game- that's just a defense mechanism that is used. It depends on the context case by case, and this is what makes life so difficult.
I'm not expecting any solutions. I'm not expecting people understand. I just wanted to put this out there because that's what I am thinking about now.
The most important things people can do for themselves is as healthy a balance as possible between confidence, trust, initiation, reciprocation, and thinking about actions and consequences at least somewhat, but not worrying about making wrong decisions too much, but dealing with those situations instead.
Anyone who has an easy life the entire time is naive and hasn't experienced true life.
Also, don't worry too much about who did what when. Just focus on your survival, growth, and happiness.
I can't say I fully follow these things myself, but I can say that I do try when and if I feel the time is right if necessary. Some people may not take my actions the right way, but you can't please everyone. Sometimes it seems hypocritical that they do not accept a certain reaction or non-reaction to a situation, but yet it's "okay" for them to do similar type things to you.
Boundaries that are impossible or near impossible to work with with close minds include people under-aged understandably so unfortunately, parent and non-parent, independent and non-independent, married and not married.
and maybe to a lesser degree race possibly, socio-economics (celebrity versus non-celebrity status as a subcategory that sticks out, understandably so, because you don't know who you can trust)
20s and 30s year olds,
No time in the world would work either.
Instead, you provide other hints to do this. I hate this game of hints. Even though it's socially acceptable, sometimes it can feel morally unacceptable. I know that people usually don't play this "game" for it to be a game- that's just a defense mechanism that is used. It depends on the context case by case, and this is what makes life so difficult.
I'm not expecting any solutions. I'm not expecting people understand. I just wanted to put this out there because that's what I am thinking about now.
The most important things people can do for themselves is as healthy a balance as possible between confidence, trust, initiation, reciprocation, and thinking about actions and consequences at least somewhat, but not worrying about making wrong decisions too much, but dealing with those situations instead.
Anyone who has an easy life the entire time is naive and hasn't experienced true life.
Also, don't worry too much about who did what when. Just focus on your survival, growth, and happiness.
