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On Longing to Belong and on Love

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I went to an Aspie meetup the other day in my town and they told me it's not worth it getting diagnosed! I feel like an Aspie but still struggling to understand whether I fit the criteria. Obviously, there are some criteria that I don't fit.
Does it mean that I don't belong here? Probably not. I understand people here, and people here understand me and can relate so much better than most people I know. So even if I never receive my official diagnosis, I still feel part of the Aspie family. This is the closest human expression I have found that fits me like a very comfortable dress.

I have also been watching videos/audios by Abraham Hicks. No praise, no drugs, no drinking etc helps you be happy with yourself as much as doing it from deep within does. The audios and some videos are available all over Youtube. These are spiritual teachings that are at the root of many religious and psychological techniques.
It starts with how to get what you want, but the main point isn't that. In the process of re-tuning yourself (and I have been there a few times), all that you want stops being urgent! At the same time, what you want + more flows into your life, and you don't feel like you need it so much anymore...So strange! You simply enjoy being yourself and giving love, and I swear some of my autistic traits let go (such as some neuro-sensory issues and extreme mental pressure). Example:

I am naturally resistant to any external inputs and find it extremely hard to intake information (and especially process it in real time) such as instructions, texts, music, other people's intentions towards me etc etc - unless I am already internally in tune with it, which is super rare.

*** Touch your legs after shaving*** - a Youtube commercial popped up right here when I was writing this, hahahhaha.

Back to the topic - it becomes somewhat easier to intake external information!! Because my body/brain stops being so rejecting to the outside world because the world stops being outside. It is amazing.

***Touch your legs*** has popped up again. Is it trying to tell me something or what? Should I touch my legs???

Anyway, I hope this has lightened up someone's day. Because it has lightened up mine! :)

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Don't worry too much about not getting a diagnosis - the community here is in no way elitist about diagnosed/non-diagnosed, and you should only do it for yourself! Personally it helped me understand myself a lot more and answered a lot of questions for me, but definitely not a necessity for everyone.

The videos and audio tracks sound really useful, I'm tempted to try something similar to help with AS-related anxiety/stress.
 
My only warning with these videos will be: do not depend on them and do not rely on them to "save" you. I have noticed that people following AH blindly have had negative experiences from idolizing and putting in a lot of effort (I mean, idolizing often brings destructive results). Definitely rely on your personal common sense and intuition. What I learned from AH: the peace of mind comes as a result of accepting the self and others, not judging and not blaming. And also that you can only truly help someone if you are emotionally in a good place yourself. It's not about getting money, buying houses or finding the perfect lover. Just acceptance.
 

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