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Postpone Following Interests in Aspies - Good or Bad Advice?

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I looked up for a management guru - himself a 40-year veteran in business training and a management consultant - and he gave me the not-quite-helpful-but-really-thought-provoking advice:

"Quit accounting if you can, and do marketing".

I myself am a student doing accounting and finance in my 3rd year.

:(

He's absolutely right, though.

He really makes me think, should I do my interests, depending on a combination of the generosity of the rich, sheer brilliance of doing something of exceptional competence or governmental welfare (which, unfortunately in my country, is utopian thinking, but is the reality in other countries such as Austria or Japan), or should I follow money and delay following my dreams and visions? Postponing interests, as what my parents and a few older Aspie friends advised me, just don't seem to work. Life is short, in my favorite quote by Kurt Cobain, I feel better not being appreciated, or maybe 'hated for being myself' and my interests than being 'loved for what I am not'.

So I seek for 'help'. So what, humiliation? I don't care, so long as I add value to my world, which supports and feeds my family... That's just me, though, eventually, my family will need some assurance that they're well taken care of, and so, I'll do my best to reconcile my ideas of a fun, happy, supportive world for all, which may not be immediately recognized now, and my family's needs.

I know Aspies are encouraged to do STEM. I cannot deny the benefits of STEM. As someone who did at least 1 Economics course in College, I even think the Aspies with the technical expertise should do STEM. It is not just good for the economy to expand its capacities, it's even better for the Aspies with the technical expertise and the 'luck' to have cultivated interests, because of the lower costs of opportunity cost. In plain English, many Aspies have little to give up if they do STEM, for people will always need science and engineering to do things. The next best alternative would be - hmm - unemployment, doing nothing but to think about equations, I guess? Indeed, Aspies do get training, and employment, in STEM, as I noted in fellow Aspies living in Singapore. Aspies have great successes doing IT and Engineering, and even graduating from such fields.

However, far too many Aspies I know can't really do STEM. They aren't interested in science, they have other interests they really really love that others are willing to pay top dollar or recognitions (such as PhD degrees?) So as long as they give up very little by not doing STEM, in their next best alternative, good that they don't do STEM. And also, I hear a few Aspies who did STEM and failed - even 2 Aspies I know quite well in my city-state.

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And what if everyone will do marketing? You'll end up in the same situation, why I partially opted out of doing something IT related. Back in the late 90's everyone was doing computer science. Quite a few of those people from my class have a hard time holding a job still. Unless they went to university thereafter, and that wasn't in the cards for all.

Later in life... in 2006, I thought about what I wanted to do and I thought about graphic design. Everyone and their mom started doing that. On top of having a degree you probably need to be really, really talented as well, otherwise you'll end up doing work you don't like as well.

Currently our government is limited the number of admissions for certain studies, because... there's wat too much people doing study X. One of the more prominent ones is art school. A lot of people enroll, and a lot get denied now, because... we need people who know economy and all, an not just people who can paint.

Much like STEM, we define studies differently here. There's alpha, beta and gamma studies. Beta being the STEM studies... Alpha would comprise art school, performing arts and the like. Gamma is psychology, sociology and in general "human studies". And in general we're running out of Beta's... because people want to do said Alpha studies. Add in there's also Gamma, which is fairly evened out, we have to force people to actually enroll in sciences, which they have no clue how to work. And that's the big problem.

In a way it's a bit of an extension of a previous response to your thread, more and more we want people who only get A's. If we're forcing people to actually learn things which they can barely relate to, you can't expect perfect results, which are expected. Surely, there are exceptions, but usually those exceptions do come with issues sooner or later.

I'm all for doing whatever you like. If you do what you like you'll do way better than doing something you hate. Though eventually you'll be judged on "terrible" performance, or even get told "you don't belong here"... well, clearly, but there's nothing else I can do. And I think that this is a bigger issue for aspies (and other people who might have obsessive interests)
 
Given that most Singaporeans are somehow averse to get out their comfort zones, I don't think everyone will join marketing :P But, well, who knows what happens in the future?

We should do whatever we like, because we can create value doing in our unique ways.
 
I think it all depends on one's attitude. I certainly did not set out to choose the career that I did. In fact, I got into it by accident. I needed a job; they were hiring; and I've been there ever since. Is it my dream job? No, but it pays the bills and frees me to do the things I do like to do.

I guess I am a little unusual in that I have never looked to my job for fulfillment. Yes, I like my job and I enjoy what I do; but I don't live for it. If circumstances were different and retirement were an option, I think that I could find plenty of things to do to keep me happy. As long as you aren't miserable at work, that's the big thing. Sometimes I think some of this stuff has been overrated and people's expectations raised.

There was a story on the news today about a middle-aged woman who has worked her entire life at McDonalds. She didn't set out to make McDonald's her career but that is the way things worked out for her and she is happy. Most of the people who commented on the article didn't think she ought to be happy. Granted McDonald's is not the greatest of pay and she doesn't have a lot of things that supposedly you need in order to be happy, but it is her life. I bet she's pretty good at what she does there and I bet her customers appreciate her.

This idea that you have to have a job that is personally fulfilling is actually a fairly recent one. Where my family comes from there were not many choices. Mostly there was the mine. If a kid told his dad that he didn't want to follow him down into the mine because he just didn't think it was for him, he'd better have a good Plan B in place because I can tell you that his Dad would have something to say about that. My father said that when he was growing up the lucky kids got a one-way bus ticket out of town for high school graduation because then they had a chance to make something of themselves. If you stayed you went in the mine because everyone pulled their weight. So that is the kind of work ethic I was brought up on, to be thankful to have a job even if it isn't the one you really want at the time.
 
However, we can't just simply force a fit onto someone else to do STEM or accounting. That someone has to show the level of competency to perform tasks well. :)
 

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