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    I want to make a new friend - ideas?

    Joining a sports league or looking for a meetup based on one of your interests at www.meetup.com are things you can do to try to build.
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    an annoying acquaintance

    They are NTs, yes. I'd had people on the spectrum behave like this with me too. Maybe less common, but people on the spectrum do this too. If they were originally interested in me as a potential date or fwb and then changed their minds, instead of being able to be honest about that, they...
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    an annoying acquaintance

    I've been in this review community for 4 years now. I've only made one "almost" quality friend and another "half" friend. Everyone else I'm neutral with or they don't bother me or make false promises. I've thought about quitting, but I enjoy the events and freebies themselves too much. If I...
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    an annoying acquaintance

    Friend told me I should tell this person in-person and keep it light unless asked for specifics. I agreed with friend that this person probably doesn’t realize I am upset but my friend also completely understands why I am upset too.
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    Is it okay for me to feel off about this non-friendship?

    I declined a Discord "friend" request and unfriended the guy on Steam and it made me feel better. I don’t want to know the games someone has if I can’t spend quality time with them. It’s all unnecessary noise. Your supportive piece of advice help me make that good decision for myself. Thank you.
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    Is it weird that I consider the idea of me making new friends not realistic?

    While each person is different, and while I can say this is definitely and overgeneralization, I can understand why most super introverted people will not work well with you. They tend to want to go at a real slow pace and many people in general are not always open about their true intentions...
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    Is it weird that I consider the idea of me making new friends not realistic?

    Amethystgirl, sometimes I feel the same way. The fact that you're being offered a support worker to help you, as long as you don't have to pay anything extra, you have "nothing to lose" pretty much. If you have a decent social worker, they might try to help you with specific survival needs if...
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    an annoying acquaintance

    There's this person I knew in undergrad decades ago. We didn't clique and moved on in our own lives. Many decades later, I was chosen to be in an online review community with privileges, and I've encountered this person again. With the re-introduction of us in the fold again, I slowly opened...
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    Going to things vs. Spending time with friends

    If there's an event you already plan on going to, say you can't go to friend's event and invite them to the car show. If you have to be alone to enjoy it, let them know this in advance. I love how you value your social connections. It's good for you to sacrifice a little, but if they are...
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    Is it okay for me to feel off about this non-friendship?

    I feel upset about social stuff. I have 3 good friends but they don't always have time and neither do I honestly. I am bsuy enough- so that's not a problem. The president of a convention I staff for asked me to vote for specific people for the board a few weeks ago. it caught me offguard...
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    Weird online “date”

    Thank you all for giving me what I needed to hear! I hope I can do better, sooner rather than later as it has been 6 or 7 years. Not that I'm trying to force anything, but. . .
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    Weird online “date”

    Matched with a guy who was verified and seemed close to me distance wise according to the app. It seemed all the convo was was basically him making fun of my physical features. He tried to make it sound flirty but it only made me want to meet him sooner in-person for physical touch if he was...
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    Reasons why I can’t let go of wanting a relationship

    Besides independence, having a sense of your own hobbies, what you can be open to, and a good balance of trying to get to know and be together with another but also being able to balance that with establishing your own boundaries as necessary too. Hope that helps. It's never easy- that's for...
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    Reasons why I can’t let go of wanting a relationship

    The people you've tried to match up with, do you know if any of them were homeless or on welfare? I have to admit maybe I've encountered people on welfare without knowing for certain. I have been attracted to a few homeless looking people but they could've really been drug addicts from rich...
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    Reasons why I can’t let go of wanting a relationship

    Do you work full time as a librarian? If not, potential partners might feel you aren't able to support a family financially enough and a lot of women want some degree of financial stability. Librarian might be considered an unstable career too.
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