What I have found is that I have a different umwelt than the doctors (and actually everyone else). That means that they cannot understand what I am requesting. It's not their fault. They don't have the same umwelt to be able to comprehend what I'm saying.
I have trauma level sensitivities they simply cannot relate to.
One is the feeling that my ownership of myself is denied or disregarded. Their testing, treatment and evaluations, etc. all make me feel like I am their property, as if I am a piece of livestock or lab rat. This is extremely traumatic to me. I try to express this and it has always been dismissed. This made me dread any medical visit even when the next visit was a year away. Additional anxiety was added with each visit, regardless of the time span between visits. It was a life threatening issue because I am a type-1 diabetic thus I am dependent on a doctors visit for insulin prescriptions. Earlier in life, this was not a problem because insulin was affordable and available over the counter. a prescription was not required. Then greed became the trend blackmailing me to pay for doctors visits if I wanted to continue living. I did not need the visits as many years passed with no doctor at all. I was doing just fine. I just need to be able to buy my insulin.
A couple of years ago, I decided to try something. I wrote and mailed a letter to my
new doctor. It was a four page letter. Everyone told me it was a waste of time, because no doctor will take the time to read a four page letter. My thought was that if a doctor does not have the time or interest to learn about me, then I don't want them as my doctor anyway.
The letter explained about my sensitivities and listed the things they could do to alleviate the trauma. When I arrived for the scheduled visit, I was astonished to find that the doctor did indeed read the letter -
thoroughly. She asked questions that proved she read and studied it with interest. She was totally compliant and would not do anything without discussing it with me to ensure it would not be a trigger. If it was a trigger she would simply not do it or do something else that was not a trigger. Then I found that not only did the doctor read the letter, but that all the nurses, staff and even the office staff read it. The doctor gave me a big thank you for helping them understand to better serve their other autistic patients.
Then I did this with my dentist - with the same result. It's now a pleasure going to my dentist.
Unfortunately, this did not work with my optometrist.
I should point out that my doctor is not a classic medical doctor. She is a lifestyle doctor. A Lifestyle doctor receives the same schooling and training as a classic medical doctor, but with
extra training on the
causes of illnesses instead of only treatments. I feel she is the only "
real" doctor I have ever visited.
What is your experience in how providers have handled your autism?
What do you wish your providers knew about your autism?
What things would help you in meeting with providers?
What do you think they should be educated about?
What is your experience in how providers have handled your autism? - see above.
What do you wish your providers knew about your autism? That autistic's have a different umwelt and sensitivity levels. They have differences in their parietal lobes (the sensory level regulating part of the brain.)
What things would help you in meeting with providers? For them to understand my sensitivities and respect me as a person and to not act as if they are the owner of my biology.
What do you think they should be educated about? thorough education in umwelt and the parietal lobes regulating functions. They should understand everyone's perceptions are not all the same and they should
respect that.They should understand that due to their own unwelt, that they cannot understand,
but they certainally can respect.