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Asperger's & Autism Forum

Zain
Zain
Recently, I've been excited about a potential opportunity. With context, the idea of being rejected is unbearable. Then I realised that acceptance would make me a 'winner', which I'm not meant to be among or categorised as. I was chasing something unattainable, something that I'm not meant to have by fate, circumstance, or whatever you call it. Realising this, I'm finally having a feeling of complete peace.
Zain
Zain
Also, isn't this 420 max character limit a bad idea to anyone else?
tree
tree
You might consider Blogging or making a Thread if
you find the status update character limit too
confining.
Zain
Zain
@tree Thanks. Will do in the future.
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Steelbookcollector217
another reminder that, even before i joined this forum, i knew i was going to hear guys, men, disclose their case or situation about reaching a certain age and having never been in a relationship before, it sadly just comes with the territory in regards to autism, even lots men without autism are like that too. Going to assume you are in your later 20s, or 30s and above
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FilterFreq
It's interesting that we are born into a certain 'status' (of sorts) and normally remain there for our entire lives. Obviously things can always change, but recognizing where you are can be a huge step toward acceptance
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FilterFreq
Nobody is a "loser", though. Play enough metaphoric 'games' and you will absolutely win a few.
Zain
Zain
@Steelbookcollector217 I watched a few dating shows featuring people on the spectrum. Noticed that the girls had a relationship history and the males didn't despite how extreme their personalities were (or would seem to others). It also got me worried - "Is that how I appear to others most of the time"?..
Yeah, I saw that coming.
Zain
Zain
@FilterFreq Fine, I'm a loser in many important areas of my life, haha. I don't mind accepting it. It's just fate. From acceptance comes peace.
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thejuice
if you're a loser you could redefine the game to.one where you win? A lot of artists or men who accomplished great things were sexually frustrated. I think there is a term for it in psychology, 'sublimation' of the sexual drive into something else. Success with women is definitely not the only way to win. In fact taken to an extreme, being a serial womaniser is probably a guaranteed way to end up miserable and alone.
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Steelbookcollector217
Zain, are you referring to the show love on the spectrum? and yes why am i not surprised by that pattern.
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