Living a more normal/typical lifestyle makes me more eager for romance. My new "friends" are cool, but they aren't really true friends yet. True friends are committed to each other for life. This is why I desperately want romance, someone I can lean on and have lean on me with complete trust. I'm only human.
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Zain
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Zain, my man, I don't know you and I do not mean to step on your toes with this; I personally don't recommend it at all, alcohol can become dangerous for several reasons very quickly, but I'm not in charge of your life and your decisions are yours to make so I'll just say, for the love of God and all He created, be careful man.
Zain
I just want to use it as a tool. Nothing more.
Raggamuffin
I'd recommend the book Drinking, Drug Use & Addiction in the Autism Community.
You'll see that a lot of addicts initially used drinking as a "tool" to help alleviate social anxiety and feel more relaxed and confident.
It soon becomes a crutch, take it as someone who did the same, and ended up an alcoholic.
I'm 5.5 years sober now and have less social anxiety sober than I ever have previously in life.
You'll see that a lot of addicts initially used drinking as a "tool" to help alleviate social anxiety and feel more relaxed and confident.
It soon becomes a crutch, take it as someone who did the same, and ended up an alcoholic.
I'm 5.5 years sober now and have less social anxiety sober than I ever have previously in life.
Zain
@Raggamuffin Whilst you can list all the negatives, you haven't talked about the positives. You may be where you are now crucially because of alcohol. The connections you made, the choices made from the confidence boost, etc.
Raggamuffin
I drank alone. I began drinking because I started medication for mental health and side effects meant I couldn't sleep. Sleep was one thing that hadn't been affected by my journey with mental health. So I began to drink. And then I quit the meds, but didn't quit the drink. You can romanticise alcohol if you wish - many do. Fact is, it's a literal poison to the body.
Zain
@Raggamuffin I'm not a healthy person in my current state. I desire romance. It's biological. I must do whatever to achieve this. I understand alcohol is poisonous. I'm just adapting to my circumstances. There is logic to my decision.
Raggamuffin
Unhealthy person seeking relationship is quite selfish to any potential future partner. It'll likely end up with you being co-dependent, and thinking/hoping any potential partner will resolve your issues. Which they won't. Same as alcohol won't fix anything. If you rely on intoxication for confidence, that's a slipper slope, and an unhealthy coping mechanism.
Zain
@Raggamuffin Expecting a flawless partner is just absurd. Having flaws and being unconscious of them is much different than having flaws, being conscious of them and sharing them honestly and sincerely. I dislike the assumptions you're making about me.