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  1. Lundi

    Studying for until late 20s to the detriment of dating/social life

    I think that my situation is a bit known here, so I will skip it. Anyway I spent most of my life, since age 4 or 5 up to age 28 studying hard, to the detriment of both my dating and social life. If you can call it that, because usually I have had no dating nor social life. In high school I was...
  2. Lundi

    Unable to tolerate casual touching (dating)

    I have heard over and over how touch is key in the dating world, and that no touch means no attraction. However, as a 30 year old male, I never felt comfortable with casual touch. When I was 14 in high school, a girl kept trying to talk to me. Eventually, one day, when I was eating lunch alone...
  3. Lundi

    Is eating alone in a restaurant now a big taboo?

    Since I am quite a solitary person, I tend to eat in restaurants by myself instead of with friends, and obviously without girlfriend/wife. If I travel I do the same, just table for one. However, I notice that here where I live people really seem to dislike people who eat alone in restaurants...
  4. Lundi

    Excess maturity instead of excess immaturity

    If I understand correctly, a stereotypical symptom of Asperger's is seeming or looking younger than one's actual age. But I have the opposite problem, and have not seen it discussed explicitly. I turned 30 last month, but before that in most of my 20s most people whom I met thought that I was...
  5. Lundi

    Extreme naïveté

    I have had this problem since I was a small boy. I tended (tent?) to not only interpret everything literally, I also trusted in everyone and believed that everyone was 100% right and 100% trustworthy. When someone told me something, I had to believe it, because I believed that what everyone...
  6. Lundi

    Problems modulating voice volume

    Ever since I was a small child, I always had a problem adjusting the volume of my voice. It did not help that I have always been very socially awkward, but I often am accused of mumbling or talking too low that no one can hear me. So in order to talk louder, I would raise my voice. Often I would...
  7. Lundi

    Virginity problem running in the family

    I am a 30 year old American male. My first thread on this forum was written when I was 29, about my fears about turning 30 and being a virgin. Not by choice, not by some sort of religious belief like abstinence, but rather just it happened that way without my wanting it to. I did some research...
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    • asperger asperger dating aspergers and women dating family social anxiety social awkwardness
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    • Forum: General Autism Discussion
  8. Lundi

    Do normal people really act like this?

    I am the guy who made a thread about being worried about being a virgin at age 30. Anyway, at age 26, I started attending meetups and social gatherings in my city to make friends, and perhaps if things went well, maybe find a girlfriend. So during all of the meetups since then up to now, I have...
  9. Lundi

    Friendship/dating sites and forums for atypical people

    Following my first thread on the forum about being single/virgin at 30, I was wondering if there are friendship and dating sites and forums for people who do not fit into the societal norms or expectations of "normal". As an example, I have ASD, several anxiety problems, OCD and sometimes get...
  10. Lundi

    Strange or non-standard use of language in ASD

    I was told quite often whilst attending meetups that my use of language is odd or "off" compared to a normal person. In worst-case scenarios people just call me "autistic" like an insult. But it is because I refuse to use contractions and other things when speaking English. I also use strange...
  11. Lundi

    Interacting with family members from third world countries who think that ASD is fake

    I am not sure how to explain this, but on both sides of my family, but especially my father's side, most of extended family believe that any form of ASD is just a hoax, and that those with the disorder(s) are just acting weird on purpose to deliberately vex people or get sympathy and attention...
  12. Lundi

    Adapting to being single for life

    Following my very long first thread here about being single/virgin at almost age 30 (my 30th birthday is this Thursday), I was wondering about choosing to resign myself to be single for life. It is another path, but I was thinking about how I have a lot of quirks and difficulties that would make...
    • Lundi
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    • asperger asperger female dating dating advice dating an aspie lonely single single forever
    • Replies: 30
    • Forum: General Autism Discussion
  13. Lundi

    Is dating harder for men with ASD compared to women with ASD?

    I have noticed throughout my life that I have met a lot more men who have some degree of autism or Asperger's who are single, compared with women with the same condition. Given that men are still expected to do all of the approaching and initiating, no matter how far society has advanced in...
  14. Lundi

    Should men on the spectrum follow neurotypical advice for dating women?

    Following my first thread about myself being a 30 year old male with Asperger's who has always been single plus a virgin, I was recommended a few websites and YouTube channels about dating advice. But I find that the advice seems to be much more geared towards neurotypical men. For example...
  15. Lundi

    Feeling depressed due to being single at 30

    Hi everyone. I am a 29 year old male with Asperger's from San Francisco, California, USA who has never been able to have a girlfriend and am still a virgin despite not wanting to be. I turn 30 in October. Since as of today there is only one month and one week left before my birthday, I am...
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