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    Being repressed

    I can often come across as boring and repressed. I think this is because in my masking I am often dampening down alot of my personality but I am not replacing it with anything else so its just coming across as like I have no personality. For example I find situations where people are having fun...
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    Manners/being polite

    I struggle to view what is normally just considered good manners as anything other than manipulative. I can say please and thankyou without this feeling but once I start faking what I'm really feeling or what my thoughts are in order to keep someone happy and make a situation go my way I feel...
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    Being too radical

    I feel like an issue I have with communication is that the ideas themselves I am trying to communicate are too radical to even be able to be conceived off. It seems like the difference is like in online games when you can talk to other players. In some games you can open a text box and type...
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    I can't take initiative

    I've always known this but an interaction today really drove it home. I was meeting my girlfriend at her house then going a walk. She said she was looking for a bottle to fill with water to take with us and asked if I had one I could bring. After I told her that I did have one and I'd bring it...
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    Communication styles?

    I feel like when I talk to others on the spectrum and even observing discussions on here I am seeing communication that seems to be as effective as what I am seeing from NT's. I had thought, perhaps wrongly? That autism almost always included a deficit in communication. I'm not sure if I am...
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    Always wanting to explain myself

    I find that often when I am in an argument/disagreement with someone I have a very strong sense that if I could just explain myself they would instantly stop being annoyed and we would both laugh about how we nearly had an argument over a misunderstanding. It feels to me like the thing they...
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    Being too purposeful

    Once I have decided to do something (for example make a coffee) I leap out of my chair get to the kitchen, get it made and get back in my chair. However in public I would notice myself putting in a lot of effort into slowing the process down so it doesn't look weird. I would maybe slowly stand...
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    Explain this interaction?

    So I was with a colleague at work and there wasn't much to do we were talking for a while but I don't think the conversation was following the normal rules so I'm trying to figure out if I was doing something weird. Basically she was talking at length telling me various stories and I was barely...
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    Disclosing autism

    I am trying to figure out how "safe" it is to disclose autism. So far I have not told many except those close to me. There have been times when the situation/conversation would have made it relevant to bring up and I would want to if I thought it would be received okay. My main question is what...
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    Being misundertood

    I have this reoccurring problem where when I ask a question people often seem to be responding to a different question to the one I'm asking. Even when I tell them that thats not what I'm asking and try to explain what I mean they almost always just keep giving that same original response and...
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    First principles reasoning and asking too many quesions

    I've been wandering if there is a theme where autism lends itself to first principles thinking. I know Elon Musk talks about it alot and has previously said he has aspergers. I certainly feel this way of thinking is how I approach almost everything. It leads to causing me trouble for myself by...
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    Expressing anger/upset without coming across as "having a go"?

    I've been struggling to find a way to express how I'm feeling when I'm angry or upset to my girlfriend that doesn't seem like I'm having a go at her and lead to arguing. A common issue would be something would cause me to me feel angry but she hasn't necessarily "done anything wrong" so I'll...
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    Thoughts on the fermi paradox?

    A recent interest of mine has been the idea of the fermi paradox. I'm interpreting it as, given the large number of plannets around stars even within our galaxy it would seem the odds would stack in favour of life emerging on some of them and some of that life becoming intelligent enough that we...
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    Masking without being disingenuous?

    I feel like when I am in social situations if I act as I would like to I get negative reactions so if I feel it is important for the situation that I do not create this reaction I attempt to mask and say what I think people want to hear. While I still make mistakes I certainly upset people less...
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