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  1. jleeb05

    I'm over it and I can't decide whether that's a good thing

    Yes, it's interesting. I would love to learn more about this topic. Working with my therapist, we had figured out that there was something more at play than me simply wanting relationships/close friendships. I passed on many of the opportunities I did have yet would fixate on others. Clearly...
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    I'm over it and I can't decide whether that's a good thing

    @Suzette I really appreciate you. Everything you said was so kind and thoughtful. It takes a lot to get me teary-eyed but you got me! I am also really thankful for everything that has been shared so far. It makes me feel less alone in my aloneness, so to speak. I guess it may be burnout. I...
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    I'm over it and I can't decide whether that's a good thing

    @Neonatal RRT @SimonSays I definitely related to having friendships that aren't negatively impacted by time or distance. I haven't had many close friends and unfortunately, many of them are far away from me. One of my closest friends moved to Australia in 2015. I was hoping to visit in 2020 or...
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    I'm over it and I can't decide whether that's a good thing

    This is difficult to explain but as an introvert and someone on the spectrum, I consider myself a social person. I've always craved connection and close relationships. One or two clinicians have suggested that this was a special interest of mine. I think about it all the time. I've often thought...
  5. jleeb05

    How well do you sleep?

    I can relate to some of your experience. If left alone, I can sleep 10-12 hours without much interruption. I recall my roommate telling me a year or so ago that our fire alarms malfunctioned and went off early in the morning (they're very loud). My dog, who sleeps with me, was crying and barking...
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    I don't always see the bigger picture

    My guess is she was checking out the crowd. When I'm at the club with my friends its not unusual for one of us to go to the bathroom and do s little sightseeing on the way back. You never who'll catch your eye or vice versa haha.
  7. jleeb05

    Would you give money to a beggar?

    That's exactly what I'm talking about, there are all these urban legends about this sort of thing that we've all heard about but never directly observed. I'm not saying that it has never happened. This is a big world, someone at some point, somewhere has probably begged for money only to get...
  8. jleeb05

    I don't always see the bigger picture

    It's funny because I've always considered myself a big picture person and in many ways, I am. I don't always notice small details. I guess it can be situational though. Babies spend a lot of time observing others because they are learning and trying to understand what's going on around them...
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    Would you give money to a beggar?

    Exactly, I just think that if someone is capable of holding down a full-time job but is instead "choosing" to stand on a street corner asking for money then there is likely some mental health reason for it. It would just be completely irrational. I think we assume that begging for money is...
  10. jleeb05

    Would you give money to a beggar?

    I was being tongue-in-cheek, you need to defend Elon Musk or yourself for driving a Tesla! They're really cool cars. A better choice of words would be that Elon Must doesn't "need" it rather than "deserve." And I can't talk, I hold Tesla shares and also drive a luxury vehicle. That said, I was...
  11. jleeb05

    People think I am selfish.

    I said this in regards to another post but I think we all have to keep in mind that this is a forum for people with autism. Sometimes people are going to behave in ways that seem inexplicable to us. Some people with autism have rigid, inflexible thinking and beliefs. While it may be frustrating...
  12. jleeb05

    Would you give money to a beggar?

    There are posts on here about whether Aspies are susceptible to scams which might be helpful. That said, yes, I have given money/food to people on the street though not often because I rarely carry cash on me anymore. In Boston, there is an area nicknamed "Methadone Mile" because there are a lot...
  13. jleeb05

    Misdiagnosis anyone?

    I never brought up the fact that I had doubts but the clinician performing my assessment noted that I did not fit the stereotypical profile of a male Aspie and that I might, at various points in my life, find myself questioning whether I really have autism. She said that was okay and that the...
  14. jleeb05

    The Three Types of Friendships

    In some ways, I consider myself lucky because I know Aspies often struggle with social connections. I've managed to meet some great people and cobble out some wonderful friendships throughout my life. However, recently I've often found myself disappointed with the quality of my friendships. I...
  15. jleeb05

    Not Revealing My Feelings

    I'm actually a bit on the opposite end of that spectrum. Especially when I was younger, I had a tendency to always reveal my feelings. I would give them poetry, candy, love letters, etc. I would also just walk up and blurt it out. I would not recommend and this definitely created some awkward...
  16. jleeb05

    YouTube video on Asperger's: Not a disorder? Seems minimizing.

    I also didn't connect with the idea that Aspies are "object-oriented." It's almost as if he's suggesting that people on the spectrum just don't care that much about others. We're.just so.focused.on.our.objects. -___-He phrased it as a question rather than a conclusion, but if he's really asking...
  17. jleeb05

    It's all in their heads

    Perhaps you're right that they see signs that would not be obvious to the outside observer but I do wonder how often children (both NT and ND) are silenced or scolded for behaviors that aren't inherently wrong. I think some in my family considered me a problem child because I expressed my...
  18. jleeb05

    Do you attract other NDs to you?

    The above comments remind me of this song.
  19. jleeb05

    Excuse my autism but...

    I think this is definitely a case-by-case, individualized situation. I'm having the same dilemma. Now that I have a diagnosis, it's like I'm realizing all of the ways in which I've been masking or hiding my discomfort. At the same time, I don't want to make excuses. I have disclosed my...
  20. jleeb05

    How Do You Show You Care? (or What's Your Love Language?)

    It's only been a little over six weeks since I've posted this but the update is that I've moved out! This is my first time living on my own and it's probably years overdue. The move was torture but my (now former) roommate and I are still on fairly good terms. It was as if she set me free when...
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