It's hard to know what to say here. I'm in my last year of undergraduate university in California, and the thought that I might have Asperger's has occurred to me more than once during my years here, but I've always brushed it off. It wasn't until these last few months that I took the thought seriously and did better research. As I read, I felt more and more that this was a possibility. I've talked about it with a couple very close friends and with my therapist, and the conversations have gone well.
Previously, I've brushed off thoughts in the past because I've developed reasonable social habits on my own, from a mix of being deeply interested in psychology and by getting into trouble at school and working hard not to get in trouble for the same thing twice. When I was in elementary school, I was bullied a lot, but I changed cities in middle school and things got better after that. I made friends, though I was acutely aware that, even though I was accepted, I didn't fit in. I decided I must be an alien, and to a certain degree I still enjoy this sentiment, mostly because I am very fond of aliens and scifi.
I didn't experience many problems with the differences in the way I interacted with people until I got to college, when I was surrounded by people my own age all the time. I began to feel left out and isolated, as if something were missing. I found a few part-time jobs, and the interaction with my coworkers has helped, but I still feel wrong for being satisfied with this when I hear about other students going to each other's houses or hanging out together off campus. The biggest problems have been in romantic relationships. I can never seem to make my feelings understood, and my partners have always told me that I don't really love them, because to them I don't show or say it enough. Physical relationships have been very difficult as well. I can generally stand being touched, but a lot of the time it's overwhelming, and I am not afraid to say so. I'm very sensitive to smells and sounds, and while smells only annoy me certain sounds make me really angry, to the point where I will need to be alone for some time so that I don't explode. These things have been hard for me to explain, but I'm hoping to work with my therapist and loved ones to improve in this area most of all. I have this friend, and we have both expressed romantic interest in each other, but I am afraid that it will end up bad if I am not more self-aware.
Previously, I've brushed off thoughts in the past because I've developed reasonable social habits on my own, from a mix of being deeply interested in psychology and by getting into trouble at school and working hard not to get in trouble for the same thing twice. When I was in elementary school, I was bullied a lot, but I changed cities in middle school and things got better after that. I made friends, though I was acutely aware that, even though I was accepted, I didn't fit in. I decided I must be an alien, and to a certain degree I still enjoy this sentiment, mostly because I am very fond of aliens and scifi.
I didn't experience many problems with the differences in the way I interacted with people until I got to college, when I was surrounded by people my own age all the time. I began to feel left out and isolated, as if something were missing. I found a few part-time jobs, and the interaction with my coworkers has helped, but I still feel wrong for being satisfied with this when I hear about other students going to each other's houses or hanging out together off campus. The biggest problems have been in romantic relationships. I can never seem to make my feelings understood, and my partners have always told me that I don't really love them, because to them I don't show or say it enough. Physical relationships have been very difficult as well. I can generally stand being touched, but a lot of the time it's overwhelming, and I am not afraid to say so. I'm very sensitive to smells and sounds, and while smells only annoy me certain sounds make me really angry, to the point where I will need to be alone for some time so that I don't explode. These things have been hard for me to explain, but I'm hoping to work with my therapist and loved ones to improve in this area most of all. I have this friend, and we have both expressed romantic interest in each other, but I am afraid that it will end up bad if I am not more self-aware.
I'm in the UK, just been told yesterday that I have Aspergers. I'm glad to find a forum with other people that might actually understand how I feel! I know what you mean about it being hard to explain. There are a lot books about Aspergers and some specifically about relationships. There are also a couple aimed at the partners of Aspies that you might find helpful. I haven't read any yet but if you look on Amazon or something then I'm sure you can pick one from the reviews. Good luck with your new relationship 
