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9 hour panic

Pats

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Yesterday was not good. My grandson opened the door and left it open and Cubby shot out. There's no catching Cubby. I remember my daughter once doing a football tackle in the air to catch him and, as far as I know, that's the only time he's ever been caught. So he disappeared and does not know this area and I live on a busy 2 lane highway and next to woods. I drove around a few times - leaving my door where he could open it and come in if he got home, but nothing. I talked to my daughter and typically when he would take off he stayed close and was back within 30 minutes or so. So as the day drew on I was more and more panicked and tearful. I knew he was lost. I also know people are afraid of him when they see his size, even though, he's the friendliest guy you'll ever meet. It was such a long 9 hours and I'm pretty sure it was for hi, too. It was about 9:30 last night and the upstairs dog had been outside barking - which, I think, helped lead Cubby home. I was so happy to see him at the door. He drank two big bowls of water, ate a big bowl of food and panted for a few hours - so I think he had a rough day, too.
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Why do we humanize our pets? It only adds to stress and worry.
 
Spontaneously bolting out an open door is what most any dog is likely to do. Though if anything, it's not a lesson for you- or Cubby.

But certainly one to pass onto your grandson.

It's something that has happened to me before as well, apart from a friend I knew. One with a happy ending like yours, and one with a tragic ending.
 
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Spontaneously bolting out an open door is what most any dog is likely to do. Though if anything, it's not a lesson for you- or Cubby.

But certainly one to pass onto your grandson.

It's something that has happened to me before as well, apart from a friend I knew. One with a happy ending like yours, and one with a tragic ending.
yes, we've had the tragic endings as well - another reason for the panic. I'm going to put a sign on the door to say keep door shut. - inside and out. Usually I'm at the door when anyone goes in or out, but this time I was doing something at the time.
 
yes, we've had the tragic endings as well - another reason for the panic. I'm going to put a sign on the door to say keep door shut. - inside and out. Usually I'm at the door when anyone goes in or out, but this time I was doing something at the time.

I think that's a spectacular idea, Pats. Keep the importance of it all right in front of anyone who may open that door! ;)
 
Pats I'm glad there was a good result and he came back safe. Lost one of ours once, she ran home and a couple picked her up from our lawn and brought her to their house. Twelve hours later after no sleep and calling every police, spca, city dogcatcher we found her. I walked and drove for a long time that night calling her name, dinner burned on the stove.

Have heard that if you put out the dogs bed or toy with their scent on it in an area nearby, the dog will be drawn to it. A couple lost their dog during a car accident in the mountains during a trip and that's what that they did, placed the dogs bed in the forest. The dog stayed nearby and they found him after two or three days.
 
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As I read your post, I was steeling myself for a sad ending. I know the feeling of relief when reunited with a lost pet. Glad this ended well.
 
Yesterday was not good. My grandson opened the door and left it open and Cubby shot out. There's no catching Cubby. I remember my daughter once doing a football tackle in the air to catch him and, as far as I know, that's the only time he's ever been caught. So he disappeared and does not know this area and I live on a busy 2 lane highway and next to woods. I drove around a few times - leaving my door where he could open it and come in if he got home, but nothing. I talked to my daughter and typically when he would take off he stayed close and was back within 30 minutes or so. So as the day drew on I was more and more panicked and tearful. I knew he was lost. I also know people are afraid of him when they see his size, even though, he's the friendliest guy you'll ever meet. It was such a long 9 hours and I'm pretty sure it was for hi, too. It was about 9:30 last night and the upstairs dog had been outside barking - which, I think, helped lead Cubby home. I was so happy to see him at the door. He drank two big bowls of water, ate a big bowl of food and panted for a few hours - so I think he had a rough day, too.
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Why do we humanize our pets? It only adds to stress and worry.

I am glad that Cubby came home, I know how hard it is lose a pet.
 
Glad this story had a happy ending. While it's true most dogs will bolt out the door proper training can prevent this. The only time Lucy or any other dog I have had will bolt out the door is if there is something or someone out there they want to investigate. I have never had them take off on me but would be going absolutely crazy if I had one that did. Hope you never have to experience it again.
 
I'm realizing today what something like that does to me. @Daydreamer - your thread yesterday on sleep. I answered that lack of sleep causes stress and it's harder to process under stress. Well, it's hard to process after a day of stress, too. I couldn't tell you what I've done today and I needed to run out and pick up a few groceries - ran out of things yesterday but was too worried over Cubby. I wrote a small list and it was harder than usual to make myself go - my little box I live in had shrunk. But if I wanted to have anything to eat I HAD to go so I forced myself. Walking through the grocery store felt like walking through quicksand and I just wanted to get back home. Then, of course, when I got home I only had half of what was on my list.
 
Why do we humanize our pets? It only adds to stress and worry.

I realise that this might be a rhetorical question, but if it isn't then I have an explanation. Humans are often drawn to puppies and kittens because of their baby-like features. Most brains are programmed to find babies cute because if we didn't then we'd be less inclined to raise them. In fact, have you ever wondered what makes something cute? Well, if you take something, make it smaller and rounder, then chances are it'll seem cuter. Depending on what it is. It triggers a part of the brain that thinks "Aw, it's so small and adorable, I must take care of it and protect them from harm".

When we see baby animals such as kittens and puppies, the brain recognises how it looks and our instincts kick in. This is noticeable with selective breeding practices, Persians, for example have flatter, rounder faces because some people find that cute. The same could be said for Pugs, who also have been bred to have flatter features. Unfortunately, this leads to health problems, particularly breathing difficulties.

People with purebred dogs are more likely to choose one that looks like them without thinking about it. More specifically, one that looks similar to what their children would probably look like. This isn't always the case though.

Dogs and cats remain in an infant-like state due to domestication. Adult wolves don't bark, that behaviour is more common among cubs and many grow out of it. However, dogs bark even in old age because humans have responded positively to that for a long time. So now it's common behaviour. We find adult animals to be cute because to a degree they still act and look similar to babies.

Cats differ from dogs in that they have been domesticated for a shorter amount of time, and we didn't interfere as much in the process. We kept them around because of their ability to hunt, and because we enjoyed their company.

In comparison, we bred certain dogs for particular purposes. The Komondor, for example, was bred to blend in with sheep so that it could sneakily attack any wolves trying to steal sheep from a Shepard. From hunting, pointing, retrieving, and much more, dog breeds vary so much from each other that it still amazes me. I mean, this is an animal that can be a Chihuahua or a Great Dane. :eek:

Why some people humanise snakes or spiders is beyond my understanding. Perhaps because we are a social species for the most part, so we crave companionship. Some people find spiders and snakes cute...I certainly don't.

...Uh, apologies, you hit an interest there. I am somewhat obsessed with the subject of domestication and also how certain traits developed in animals. Best stop here so I don't accidentally write a novel. :p

I'm realizing today what something like that does to me. @Daydreamer - your thread yesterday on sleep. I answered that lack of sleep causes stress and it's harder to process under stress. Well, it's hard to process after a day of stress, too. I couldn't tell you what I've done today and I needed to run out and pick up a few groceries - ran out of things yesterday but was too worried over Cubby. I wrote a small list and it was harder than usual to make myself go - my little box I live in had shrunk. But if I wanted to have anything to eat I HAD to go so I forced myself. Walking through the grocery store felt like walking through quicksand and I just wanted to get back home. Then, of course, when I got home I only had half of what was on my list.

Stress can be a positive, but only in certain amounts. The same goes for anxiety. If we were completely carefree, we'd be careless. So, in small doses stress can act as a motivator as it calls for immediate action. Anxiety makes sure we take care of what we are doing, and that we stay on track.

However, when either or both of them get too high they get in the way of progress and have a negative effect on processing information or making a decision. Stress is great for situations that require immediate action, but can have long term negative effects. Especially in unhealthy amounts. It can even lead to you feeling physically sick. Monitoring your stress levels is important. I find that breathing in and out slowly can help calm my nerves.
 
@Daydreamer all that was very interesting. I also think it's pretty cool the way dogs have been domesticated and bred for whatever uses they are for. (And I enjoyed reading your book - I mean essay. lol) I really did enjoy it.
What I actually meant by humanizing, though, is a little different. It's why we place human characteristics onto an animal (or even objects sometimes). I had to include objects because I had a moose figurine that broke but when I referred to it as he and said about 'him', my daughter couldn't throw it out. lol
Anyway - I have 2 dogs. 1 is a dog, a pet. Cubby, on the other hand is more than just a dog or pet. He smiles (he has this huge smile). But, yesterday, instead of convincing myself he's a dog, he'll be okay, blah blah blah, I'm putting emotions on him - he's lost and he's scared and maybe wondering why I've not come to find him, and so on.

I have had dogs that are dogs, but I have only a couple that are way more than that and it's probably because I've given them human qualities.

And stress can be interesting. I was always the kind (with my kids) who could get through emergencies and do exactly what I need to do. But the minute everything is over - that's another story. I've taken one of my kids to the er (many many trips to the er) and people always made fun of me because they'd wheel the child in and me out every time. I get them there. I make sure they are okay. Once it's over I bout pass out. lol Every time. Usually a nurse will notice and tell me I look like I need to sit down and, sure enough, they are wheeling me back out. It's kind of weird, though. It's like the stress is continuing to build throughout the situation and, even once it's over.
Anyhow - I also enjoy writing. lol
 
@Pats when I read about humanizing pets, (which I always do), my first thought was because I've lived
so isolated, close to only a few people because I just can't seem to bond and yet I want companionship
and something I can connect to is my reason.

I've had many types of pets from what most think of as the usual, cats/dogs, to the ones a lot of people couldn't relate to like snakes, frogs, reptiles and even certain insects, but not spiders.
I always felt close to animals because they seem to like me no matter what and I don't have to act a certain way to make them like me. I just talk to them occasionally like a person and treat them good.
I don't feel alone then.

I couldn't relate to Daydreamers thoughts of humanizing them because of cuteness
or comparing them to a baby because I've never been around babies to feel any attachment to.
I've never even held a human baby. So for me there's nothing to compare that with.
But, the need for social living in humans I think.
 
Forgot to mention in my earlier post that with male dogs getting them neutered at seven to eight months also helps to keep them from running off as they can smell a female in heat from two miles away.
 
Forgot to mention in my earlier post that with male dogs getting them neutered at seven to eight months also helps to keep them from running off as they can smell a female in heat from two miles away.
Oh yeah - there is that. He Is neutered. Actually, I think it's the husky in him - they tend to wander and get lost. His dad and sister were the same way.
 
@Daydreamer all that was very interesting. I also think it's pretty cool the way dogs have been domesticated and bred for whatever uses they are for. (And I enjoyed reading your book - I mean essay. lol) I really did enjoy it.

In a similar vein, I actually wrote an essay on cat domestication once, we got to pick what video we based our essays on. However, the main focus was on how and why visual design choices were made to illustrate certain facts/stories in the video.

What I actually meant by humanizing, though, is a little different. It's why we place human characteristics onto an animal (or even objects sometimes).

My mistake. It is indeed quite common to place human characteristics onto objects. The wind complained, the stairs groaned...I do enjoy some good personification so long as it isn't overdone. We humanise objects or natural events for different reasons. It can be to create an effect, or because we have a particular emotional connection to that thing/item. For example, as a child I would name almost all of my toys. I'd pick up a teddy bear, and it wouldn't just be a teddy bear. No, that teddy bear had a name and a story. An assigned personality. Even now I'll pick up one of my old teddy bears when tidying my room, and I'll say "Oh, it's *insert name here*" instead of "Oh, my old toy".

Emotions aren't always logical. I think that it can be actually quite cool how humans can tie certain feelings and almost an identity by itself to an inanimate object. Whenever finding out about an old house or a boat, I'm more likely to be interested if it has a name and a history. Have you ever been somewhere old, and there's just this feeling in the air that something is off about that place? Buildings can comes across as miserable or playful, even though we know that it's just a bunch of bricks and other materials. Our homes, work buildings, friend's homes...they all carry emotional connections.

A boat can just be a boat, or it can be something associated with pleasant personal memories. It has a pronoun and a name. The boat is thought to be happy, because that's what the person feels when thinking about that boat in particular. Or it could be terrifying/ seems as though it's taunting you (even though you know that's irrational) if you'd had a bad experience with one. You give the boat a personality based on your own feelings. A big part of graphic design is understanding what people associate with certain colours, fonts and objects, as well as why that is. Perfume, deodorant and cologne adverts try to sell a lifestyle behind a product. It doesn't always say it directly, but there's often an implication that if you buy their product then you'll be successful/lead a better life/ everyone will want you. :rolleyes: Truth is, you might just smell a bit better. :p

Now, let's talk about animals. I don't connect with every dog and cat I meet either. Which is understandable, as the same goes for humans. Animals have different personalities, some we get on with, others we don't, and some remain acquaintances. I will say that I get on with most cats though, since I am indeed that lady who knows all the neighbourhood cats and gets excited when she meets one that's new to the area. :D Or spends a party socialising with the host's pets instead of talking to people.

Humans do have a habit of applying human expectations to animals. I see threads sometimes where people ask "Are cats autistic?" or "Do dogs have ADHD?" but the problem with that is what is average for a dog or a cat is different to what is average in a human. Take a look at the eyes of a cat. No visible white. Human eyes are often quite expressive, the white allows for more visual communication through facial expressions. You can tell someone is looking to the side easily, even if their head is forward. The iris and pupil are in the direction of what they are looking at. Humans often mostly use eyes, other facial features, their arms and hands, plus other overall gestures to communicate non-verbally. As a generalisation, obviously various factors apply.

Whereas cats rely on their ears, tail, etc. There was less development geared towards socialising between cats because they are a fairly solitary species, or at least compared to human society. Many cats hunt alone, with an obvious exception being lions. Although I have seen a few feral cats work together. :eek: Where did the time go? I should end it here. :D
 

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