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A few things

Keith

Keith

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1) I have a fear of lying, mostly due to a fear of the consequences of what will happen if it is revealed I was not telling the truth.

2) I have a tendency to notice dangerously-convenient things. For example, I have been recovering from an EEG for over a month now and I know how easy it is to take Tylenol to help with the pain. However, I have been told not to (even though I do not exceed the recommended dose) because it is bad on the system.

3) In contrast to #1, I also have a fear of being too honest, specifically saying something inappropriate to the situation. I especially fear people's reactions.
 
I know exactly what you mean by lying. When one tells one lie, one often finds that one needs even more lies to support the first lie. One lie leads to another and the more lies you tell, the harder they become to maintain and the more obvious it becomes that you're lying the whole thing becomes a vicious circle spiraling out of control. It's not worth it. One doesn't wish to hurt a person's feelings by being blunt about the truth either, but on the other hand, it's also up to other people to be able to handle criticism, and if they can't do this, then it's not your fault. Personally I much prefer to be told the truth, because I like to know where I stand with people, and if I know a person is telling the truth, then I feel I can trust that person and I feel more secure around them. Knowing that a person told me a lie hurts me a lot more than an unpleasant truth. If I'm not sure about a situation, I usually don't say anything, but that's not always possible. I don't like lying at all, and if I'm forced into a situation where the truth may cause offense, I still choose to tell the truth, or give my honest opinion, whatever the consequence. If one can't lie convincingly, then one shouldn't lie at all.
 
I am the same!! I have to seriously concentrate on not blurting out things, because I fear the consequences. It is always on the very tip of my tongue to say or not say and I have to walk out of situations, so as to not say something I would regret.

I am not sure I understood number 2 right, but for me, if I know I should not take something, it is like a fear of I will take it, just because I cannot! Like an invisible string dragging me to the very thing that could cause harm.

Life as an aspie is very, very hard!
 
You are correct about number 2. I often have the impulse to do or take something when I know I shouldn't. Just worrying about that makes me consider it more.
 
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