A girl on Facebook Messenger wants to come to UK to meet me!

[Mr Allen]

She's from New York, normally this kind of thing would set Alarm bells in my head but at my age I'd settle for almost anything female that would take a second glance at me.

On the other hand, Internet dating is a no no to me, they're doing a story on Coronation St at the moment, Bethany Platt is dating a lad who's loads too old for her who she met in a chat room, and at 3 weeks shy of 41 I suspect I'm loads too old for this Anna Smith woman from New York.

I've tried to wriggle out of saying anything to her about a relationship of any sort, but she wants me to discuss with my Parents about her coming over.

I know for a fact Dad in particular would shoot the idea down immediately, what should I say to this girl/woman?

 

[nowwhat]

Sounds legit.

(heavy, heavy sarcasm)

 

[tree]

@Rich Allen
Who's supposed to pay for the trip?
Wouldn't it be better to refer to her by first name with
an initial, instead of full name, when posting?
Unless you are certain that she is a fake and just
want to her expose her......

 

[Judge]

She's from New York, normally this kind of thing would set Alarm bells in my head but at my age I'd settle for almost anything female that would take a second glance at me.

And rest assured, criminal scammers know it.

For every "perfect person" out there there's tens of thousands of predatory criminals ready to fraudulently be that person so many are so desperate to find. But don't take my word for this. Read some accounts of those in similar situations who got taken, and how it happened.

Nigerian Dating Scams

Scammer Gallery: Women Named Ana, Ann, Anne, Anna, Anita, or Annie

https://www.consumer.ftc.gov/blog/faking-it-scammers-tricks-steal-your-heart-and-money?page=3

 

[xDominiel]

Does she have more on her profile than that one stock image of flowers uploaded two days ago, and "from New York, New York"?

It looks like an obvious fake account.

 

[Suzanne]

First of all, I am in contact with 3 female aspies and all 3 are based in America and they are amazing and so, are those I know on facebook ( not aspies; but of my faith), so please, do not prejudge ones on past experiences online. Oh and I am also from the uk, but live in France.

As for the question of this woman. I am assuming that you have told her your age and do you know her age and have you skyped together? If no to some or all, then get cracking on it man lol

When my husband says to me: oh do get some REAL friends. I say: that means I am not authentic either. No comment from him.

Yes, there are many who fabricate who they are, but also most do not.

If you want to meet up, go to a place that is nowhere, where you live and do not give out any personal details.

 

[nowwhat]

Look, as one middle-aged aspie to another. Even assuming the person is s female of the age and name given (which is not the case), and looking for a romance online, he/she/it is in one of the largest cities on earth, full of guys her age who make lots of money. What are the odds? Seriously. Don't be so gullible.

 

[xDominiel]

I've reported the account to Facebook for review. You're likely not the only desperate bachelor they've been trying to reel in.

 

[Southern Discomfort]

Yeah, sorry guy, but this sounds like someone trying to take advantage of lonely and/or vulnerable people.

 

[paloftoon]

As long as she's willing to pay and it's not an inconvenience to you, then it might be worth it to try. It would be better to Skype or use Facebook video. Facebook video now exists. A person did this with me before we actually met in-person. He was surprised I took an interest in him.

 

[midlife aspie]

'Anna Smith', could it be a play on Anna Nicole Smith? Has she made any mention of money? Play it safe; tell her she is responsible for ALL of her required expenditures. Personally, I'm inclined to think that life would be easier at this point without the hassle of intimate relationships (at least for me).

 

[Questella]

'Anna Smith', could it be a play on Anna Nicole Smith? Has she made any mention of money? Play it safe; tell her she is responsible for ALL of her required expenditures. Personally, I'm inclined to think that life would be easier at this point without the hassle of intimate relationships (at least for me).

I was thinking that exact same thing! (Anna Nicole Smith) weird, right?

 

[Rich Gray]

She could be interested in seeing another country, want a place to crash, and get a built in tour guide. As long as she pays for her trip, I think you could give it a try (if she wants you to send her money, then it is likely a scam). Ask her what she expects out of the trip. Take safety measures (put valuables at your folks house, and such). Perhaps get some relative or friend to get a read of her when she comes over.