A rather strange phone call...

[Sherlock77]

The nub is that back in 2017 I photographed Amber at a local car show (that's her in the middle, with I assume her boyfriend at the time)... Story continued below

At that time, in 2017, I shared the photo with her on Facebook, and she friended me

Fast forward to today (literally today), I came home to a Facebook message from Amber asking if I could call her, curiosity... I took a look at her account and it was all legitimate

So, a long story short, we called each other... I believe she was just reaching out because she has been going through a tough time... We talked for about 30 minutes, her speech was a little unclear and hard to understand but I got the basic idea of her struggles...

She wants to get together just to talk and go for a walk in a local park... I think she is trustworthy, I will only meet her in a public place anyway

Just another interesting day, and I know it won't be me looking for a girlfriend, she is 34, I'm 51

A rather interesting situation I'm in, and I'm not a professional counselor, but... She clearly connected with me - in a sense - through my photography that I post... Maybe I am making a difference more than I realize ...

In the meantime, another friend just called me immediately after who is having some trouble and wanted to chat, I almost didn't answer his phone call, starting to feel mentally drained for the night, just got off the phone with him now too...

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

You would be surprised who notices, you. why I check my LinkedIn account weekly. Got a notice from linkedIn this week that 46 people have looked at my profile not sure what they are looking for looks like dutch head hunters
must be hard up I'm retired and my dutch is pretty rusty,

 

[Judge]

I recall your comments about street photography. I suspect this confirms what you already told us.

That you are indeed a very good listener. So much so people pick up on it. Well done.

 

[Gerald Wilgus]

Being a good photographer of people needs some skill in empathy. That somebody trusts you in such a way is a great positive. Be kind.

Personally, I would be very cautious as I have had younger women attempt to use me for $$.

 

[Sherlock77]

I recall your comments about street photography. I suspect this confirms what you already told us.

That you are indeed a very good listener. So much so people pick up on it. Well done.

And I don't fully understand it really

 

[Sherlock77]

Being a good photographer of people needs some skill in empathy. That somebody trusts you in such a way is a great positive. Be kind.

Personally, I would be very cautious as I have had younger women attempt to use me for $$.

I will be cautious, I don't have much money to give out anyway...

 

[Judge]

And I don't fully understand it really

Life can occasionally be full of surprises.

 

[Aspychata]

First of all, just listen. You decide the outcome of your life.

 

[Hypnalis]

If Amber called "out of the blue", and wasn't coherent, don't ever be alone with her, even in a public place.

Parks aren't necessarily safe any more.
The probably of an issue isn't high of course, but the "downside risk" is huge.

 

[TBRS1]

People inevitably have a far larger impact on the health and well being of others than they realize - both for good and bad.

People are right, though - danger exists.

My advice? Channel your inner porcupine. Don't be afraid of people coming near you, but get prickly about anything that feels like "to close."

 

[Magna]

I'm glad you're mindful about being careful, @Sherlock77 That's cool if it's all legit, but...a call out of the blue after six years and then incoherent speech? My mind always goes to the worst case scenario and then works backward from that. Naturally I always hope that the worst does NOT happen, but I feel it prepares me for the possibility of such an outcome rather than being completely blindsided and unawares.

Where did my mind go thinking about your situation with the limited details? Hopefully she's not severely addicted to drugs and she (and her boyfriend she still might have) don't try to rob you, even in a public place.

 

[tree]

@Sherlock77

You mentioned Amber friending you on facebook in 2017.

And then calling you this week.

How much contact have you had with her in between
2017 and now?

 

[Sherlock77]

Just on a work break right now... I've had zero contact since 2017, even then only knew her a little through car shows...

 

[Sherlock77]

@Sherlock77

You mentioned Amber friending you on facebook in 2017.

And then calling you this week.

How much contact have you had with her in between
2017 and now?

To be more specific, my FB account is fairly public, lots of people friend my account, re: my photography and also my involvement in the arts scene... So lots of my friends/contacts are people I don't know that well...

 

[Aspychata]

I had a email from someone from about 30 years back, kind of surprising. But we were friends, l went thru something very traumatic and now l guess l have trauma bond with them. It's difficult. But we are still friends.

 

[Toirtis]

I mean, you may not be looking for a girlfriend, but who knows what might occur?

 

[Sherlock77]

I mean, you may not be looking for a girlfriend, but who knows what might occur?

True enough...

 

[Shevek]

I have had an amazing number of people decide to share things with me that nobody else knew. Even my physiotherapist would chatter away about her business plans, without expecting much useful feedback.

 

[Sherlock77]

I have had an amazing number of people decide to share things with me that nobody else knew. Even my physiotherapist would chatter away about her business plans, without expecting much useful feedback.

I've certainly had that experience through street photography