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Abondened my unrealistic rules

Kayla55

Kayla55

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He bought his own phone, do chores for others for pocket money, and every other way to break my holistic rules.

I've allowed pocket money but spent sweets and junk so I prefer not, big problem and I'm not sure why people think it's ok to give my kids money, or fail to ask first.....
Allowed games and study tablet with data and net-nanny but no phones for kids, won't listen
When visit friends on farm, undermine me and go to my friends for support against what I try to do. I was furious

now I've given up, hardly bother around house due to disregard, disrespect and exasperated at wasting my time trying to explain.
worst is how I buy xylitol and he walk through door eating a chocolate, I think I'll just leave no sugar or sweeteners in house, but I'm not going to yell anymore.
 
My twins, one had ASD the other ADHD
Well one with ADHD is too me the difficult one.
Going out without permission is I think wanting more interaction with normal people, he doesn't like ASD we have
 
I tend to respond the same way to things like this, but it really depends on the individual. Some people do better with stricter or looser rules, so it's worth it to consider what works for each person. My parents kind of took a lenient / adaptive approach with their kids, and even though I didn't get any of my diagnoses until adulthood, they really accommodated my AuDHD pretty well just by listening to me and caring.

If you genuinely care, you're probably doing fine. It's becoming a rarity in today's world, so you're ahead of the curve
 
Yeah it's very much pick your battles, you won't be able to spend all day long policing too many things because you will get exhausted.

You have to think about what rules to implement and if you can really carry them out in the future because it's important to be consistent with rules.

I'm sorry that they're disregarding your diet, I do hope you have real needs for it because it can be a stressor.
 
Thanks all, yip it's being ongoing battle. He's missed more school work and I'm less inclined to see a professional such as play therapist as in past I didn't get results.
Maybe it's time I forget required curriculum and just hope I can find something he's interested in, hold his attention.
But insults to brother I won't tolerate this is I think why I'm really angry.
 
What someone said about his siblings social skills is so true, as ADHD he's not likeable for way talks and treats others. So this is exactly the dynamics in our house, and realising what's causing social issues.
 
Therapy takes many years to fulfill and another therapist can be so different. Maybe you will find strength to try again with one, unless they have free therapy in their school and that would be useful and free of charge.
 
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