Alexithymia - How to Unsuppress Emotions

[Alexej]

Here is a youtube video on how to unsuppress emotions

and this is an article on alexithymia
Alexithymia

Note these items come from a perspective of online gamers - but are more generally applicable.

 

[Puggelicious]

i prefer to suppress as if i show my true self and im angry its not social acceptable so i always pretend to be happy and smile. It exhausting masking 24/7

 

[Kayla55]

Maybe being a Complex person just means you take longer as young adult to figure out where your feet are!! And time to shift through fake nonsense, the hypocrisy and find yourself again.

Once you centred in who you are, it's easier like being older and having figured some of it out. Once you can relax in this way then taking a quiet social stand is easier....go out with friend you know, sit where you comfortable. Wait for others to start a conversation.
This reserved approach removes the needs to meet n greet and be forced to understanding the social standing of the crowd. Doing this few times may help you to relax more as you have time to watch others from a distance.
No pressure to socialise, if you must go out try a comedy club that way you don't need to make too much conversation while you get to know the person

 

[Kayla55]

Here is a youtube video on how to unsuppress emotions

and this is an article on alexithymia
Alexithymia

Note these items come from a perspective of online gamers - but are more generally applicable.

Took some time to watch video, and sometimes my reply is slow... I really like the idea here...I think subconscious mind absorbs more than we realise, it is processing info even if we are unconscious of it. I like

 

[Kayla55]

I always avoided therapy as I had same feelings as puddilicious when I was younger.
Now that it was said when you older and look back and realise how beautiful life could've being, how much enjoyment was lost that I wish I'd known what I knew now. Seriously.
I hardly cried, I wasn't allowed to cry...
Breaking down and crying and letting all things they did wrong to me was such a release, but I'm older so my life is about my children and like my Mom I sit on my self help therapy shelf and wonder.
Now power you take back is amazing, I always thought crying was a weakness, of course I prefer to cry alone. It's true the memories, the pain, for a while I thought I'd had a nervous breakdown....memories of abuse flooded me, and in therapy they say it's important to shift through this to get to the end of unlocking your true feelings, becoming free and finding happiness.
Unless you breaking the law or behaving psychotic in public there are relative freedoms for individual. You must learn to stop pleasing others and do what makes you happy. Really, really be like a bird and stop caring what they think.
It's insane I met this Italian women and the life skill she taught me were awesome, now for neuuro-typucsls it's easy to express things for me as abuse survivors it was hard. But I learnt slang and back hat and really about asserting or even standing up for one's self.
When others apy expectations that derived from usual of using me and sometimes nasty insults it still hurts,but pain is subdued and it goes away eventually when your harder exoskeleton forms. Unless you moving to aspies town and never having the essence of your soul broken in then it's not just life skills to survive, what about thrive, love, feel express and do what makes you happy.

 

[Kayla55]

The relevance here isn't to state your parents were text book narcissists, no. It's to understand western dogmatic society uses narcisstic attitudes all the time. It also teaches you to respond to gaslighting without feeling someone gobbled up your soul. Takes a bit of time to conceptualise what narcisstic abuse is