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Rooftop88

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I hope I don't seem too irate with this post, but I have been going through a hard time lately and need an outlet. My mother, who was the one who first suggested the idea that I was on the spectrum, offered this site as a place to dump my burdens should they ever seem too taxing. This is my first post.

I was joking with my buddy the other day about how I seem to give off a "natural repellent" to women. We both had a good chuckle (I never had a problem making a fool of myself to get a laugh out of people). But, as if the universe had some unseen, guiding hand, instances of my repellent kept popping up and standing out.

This is not to say I didn't have problems before, but that I simply ignored it and chalked it up as my little quirks, maybe even that they couldn't see what I knew was inside. I have been single for the past six years and have noticed the strain on my life it has had. For as much as I gripe and complain about people, I understand that I need them and have tolerated their crap just to continue a relationship with them.

I suppose there is no point to this post other than the fact that I feel so alone. I can feel the isolation killing my mind and eating away at my soul. And I don't even believe in a soul. If anyone wants to respond, I can't promise anything from me.
 
I too feel very alone. I think a lot of people here do. Sometimes it takes determination from me to go online and post here. But when I do, I am always pleased that I did. It took quite a long time for me to feel "at home" here, but now that I do, I feel like I have friends here, even though I have never met any of them or spoken with them.
Rooftop88 said:
I can feel the isolation killing my mind and eating away at my soul.
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For me, I describe the feeling as my mind dripping out of my ears. But I'm pretty sure I know what you mean.

Anyways, welcome. And hopefully you will feel less lonely soon.
 
Welcome :)

Have you thought about seeking out other people on the spectrum in real life? Maybe you would find them easier to communicate/get along with. They would also be more likely to understand some of the problems you may have in terms of the social side of life.
 
i get lonely but just dont want the relationship that most men and women want
im just too ill for that ,nts dont have a close friendship with me thats obvious
i miss my mother but even that wasnt as close at the end of her life
sadly the best time was as her carer
 
Up on my rooftop,
click, click, click
it gets pretty
chilly
and
lonely
too,
Rooftop88.

I came here for some contact also.

Though I haven't been around long, that trends as one of the top reasons people drop in and say hi around here.

Your join date shows you've been a member for awhile, yet your screen name is NeoPhile.

You know your way around here, yet your eager to find new ways to relate and ideas how that may be organized.

The juxtaposition of your experience and appetite for novelty seems a good stock for new relationships.

I am sorry you feel lonely.

You reached out though, Rooftop88.

People heard you.

They reached back.

It's not a relationship, or even a date, but it ain't nothing either.

May a whimsical novelty knock your socks off in a happy good way before Monday morning bell.
 
Hello...!! Welcome, and all that...!! :)

I'm NT, came here for advice ..... and stayed.... I'm new-ish.... (am I still classed as 'new' now...? possibly not.... but there you go...!!)

Its my place to get advice... my son is Aspie and think I'm in a relationship with an undiagnosed Aspie...!! (well, I am in a relationship... and I think he's Aspie- Just read that back and it sounded like I didn't know if i was in a relationship or not.... but saying that its rocky... Ok...so, you're all caught up with me...)
 
Standing O for incredible entrance, open share, and getting us up to speed.

Bet you're a fun, awesome involved mamma bear too.
 
Rooftop88 said:
I hope I don't seem too irate with this post, but I have been going through a hard time lately and need an outlet. My mother, who was the one who first suggested the idea that I was on the spectrum, offered this site as a place to dump my burdens should they ever seem too taxing. This is my first post.

I was joking with my buddy the other day about how I seem to give off a "natural repellent" to women. We both had a good chuckle (I never had a problem making a fool of myself to get a laugh out of people). But, as if the universe had some unseen, guiding hand, instances of my repellent kept popping up and standing out.

This is not to say I didn't have problems before, but that I simply ignored it and chalked it up as my little quirks, maybe even that they couldn't see what I knew was inside. I have been single for the past six years and have noticed the strain on my life it has had. For as much as I gripe and complain about people, I understand that I need them and have tolerated their crap just to continue a relationship with them.

I suppose there is no point to this post other than the fact that I feel so alone. I can feel the isolation killing my mind and eating away at my soul. And I don't even believe in a soul. If anyone wants to respond, I can't promise anything from me.
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"Hi! I'm an NT and still not sure if my male counterpart if you will is on the spectrum but strongly believe that he is. I have stayed by his side for three years now and believe me it's not easy but I have a strong faith and God keeps me strong to never give up. We have not had a date in 2 years and it's been over 1/2 year since he has come over for dinner now, but he has a mother he takes care of and I always try to be respectful of his needs which are many. He doesn't call either, but he does little things that let me know that he is interested and because he has never been in a real relationship, no doubt it is very scary for him and he is older. My point is that I love this man more than breathing and I just want to love him and take care of him because he is such a dear man who deserves to be loved. I would hope there would be more NTs out there who can remain patient in their relationship with someone on the spectrum. I will pray for you tonight that you find peace and someone you can love and trust. God's Blessings if I may call you friend!"
 
I can relate. I've been single for much longer than six years though. I was telling someone that it's been 15 years of nothing and I could see her doing sums in her head. I was like, I'm 35 by the way. She said the best thing she could have said, "Wow, you don't look 35, I thought you were younger"

I'm getting to the point where I hate driving home to an empty house every night. It's a long commute as well, which kind of makes it worse in a way. It's a long journey back to nothing.

I didn't know who I was when I was younger. I couldn't have settled down in my 20s, but I feel more like I know what I want now and everyone has been snapped up. There's no one left for me now, well, the ones who are left don't want me.

I'm thinking I need to just carve out a niche on my own. Maybe i should go and live somewhere nice like the Lake District and have a happy life on my own in a beautiful place.
 
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