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Am I an inspiration? (photography related)

Sherlock77

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This isn't a post to puff myself up that much, despite the title...

I had an exchange with a friend on the weekend, which followed over briefly to Facebook Messenger, she has sometimes told me that the photography I post on my account inspires her and brings cheer to her day (me?), given that many of my photos are rather gritty and rather urban

Her: Thanks James, I always find what you are doing fascinating. You make the everyday fresh - which we so often miss out on

Me: And I often think of what I do as ordinary (which is in a sense what I think)

Her: It’s not ordinary - it’s insight. To pause and take that moment to ‘see’.


She had also told me on the weekend that she is dealing with long Covid and having some struggles with that, and it was clear that in her recent health struggles the photo I take make her day

Then tonight, thinking along those lines, I followed my nose over to another account of a friend, a friend who has been dealing with cancer the last few years and has told me much the same thing, in different words... I was aware that he wasn't well recently and had not seen any recent activity from him on my account, he often liked my photos and/or made a comment... I discovered that he passed away on June 1 :( I had texted him on May 18 regarding my photo show and on that day he was in a hospice so I knew he wasn't well...

And I can tell you about other people who tell me that as well, perhaps other people who don't specifically tell me...

I still don't feel good quite often about my photography, I certainly don't fit neatly in specific genres (which likely guarantees more popularity, if I even care any more)... But, if I think about people in my life (who aren't photographers, maybe are) who enjoying seeing my interpretation of the world, that is enough, should be enough... And my fan club is rather small, but that's totally okay :)...

And maybe I should post more in the media section of the website, I always forget to! When I try to handle too much social media my head gets a little "spinny"
 
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I always appreciate your postings here, you get some interesting pics, you should indeed post more.

I'm sorry to hear that your friend died. That's a sad loss, after a brave fight it seems. I expect he appreciated you remembering him and sending the invite, that was kind.
 
I always appreciate your postings here, you get some interesting pics, you should indeed post more.

I'm sorry to hear that your friend died. That's a sad loss, after a brave fight it seems. I expect he appreciated you remembering him and sending the invite, that was kind.

He passed away basically the same day as I took my show off the wall... I will miss him
 
I would like to see your photos. Just post or link them. Nowadays there are ways to share photos with every body in the world and also monetize them if they happen to be used to make profit.

Top 11 Best Places to Sell Photos Online and Make Money

I surfed many of those websites to find free pictures for a videogame I wanted to do (one of those unfinished projects). I find many of those pics very inspiring. :)
 
I would like to see your photos. Just post or link them. Nowadays there are ways to share photos with every body in the world and also monetize them if they happen to be used to make profit.

Top 11 Best Places to Sell Photos Online and Make Money

I surfed many of those websites to find free pictures for a videogame I wanted to do (one of those unfinished projects). I find many of those pics very inspiring. :)

There is always a link in my signature
 
I sometimes see how people see me in a different way that I see myself. It is illuminating, but sometimes confuses me when I hear the positive. I am the same person that I have always been and cannot reconcile it with feeling ignored and judged earlier in life.
 
I sometimes see how people see me in a different way that I see myself. It is illuminating, but sometimes confuses me when I hear the positive. I am the same person that I have always been and cannot reconcile it with feeling ignored and judged earlier in life.

I also have that feeling and I wonder how many steps backs on my masking and soft skills would take me to be rejected and despised by those same people who are liking "me" now.

And I get the same feeling when I do more exercice and my body get in better shape. I then get attention of females who ignored me.

And the same again when the company bought me a new, expensive and nice looking car. My neighbours became so friendly...

Or when I received a promotion, or when I dress myself better...

I think that even understanding humans mechanics on paper, I still get surprised by them. It many have to do with my autistic traits. But the more I learn on this forum how some of you work the more I think it has more to do with my lack of envy.

I am more and more convinced that envy is part of a mechanism to know our place in humans groups, and I may have this mechanisms disabled.
 
I also have that feeling and I wonder how many steps backs on my masking and soft skills would take me to be rejected and despised by those same people who are liking "me" now.

And I get the same feeling when I do more exercice and my body get in better shape. I then get attention of females who ignored me.

And the same again when the company bought me a new, expensive and nice looking car. My neighbours became so friendly...

Or when I received a promotion, or when I dress myself better...

I think that even understanding humans mechanics on paper, I still get surprised by them. It many have to do with my autistic traits. But the more I learn on this forum how some of you work the more I think it has more to do with my lack of envy.

I am more and more convinced that envy is part of a mechanism to know our place in humans groups, and I may have this mechanisms disabled.
You are fortunate. Despite working on a career protecting the safety of people using drugs and devices, learning skills to play in hazardous environments, widespread travel, saving and investing furiously, and working to benefit my community, I was NEVER noticed by anybody save my spouse and few friends Even wearing a bespoke suit. I don't understand what I have done wrong in my life.
 
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You are fortunate. Despite working on a career protecting the safety of people using drugs and devices, learning skills to play in hazardous environments, widespread travel, saving and investing furiously, and working to benefit my community, I was NEVER noticed by anybody save my spouse and few friends. I don't understand what I have done wrong in my life.
Being noticed so they try to get something from you isnt much better ...

I do notice and apreciate you. :)
 
Being noticed so they try to get something from you isnt much better ...

I do notice and apreciate you. :)
Thank you. Much of the time I feel like I could walk up to somebody and piss on their shoes and not get noticed. I have always done things to please myself, though sometimes trying for connection it would be nice to be noticed.

 
You are fortunate. Despite working on a career protecting the safety of people using drugs and devices, learning skills to play in hazardous environments, widespread travel, saving and investing furiously, and working to benefit my community, I was NEVER noticed by anybody save my spouse and few friends Even wearing a bespoke suit. I don't understand what I have done wrong in my life.

I think you are noticed here a lot, so you may be quite defended against noticing you are noticed? I often find your posts interesting, positive, and helpful, and potentially useful to the OP of the thread. I like how you offer examples of your life experiences to help others. You are not doing things wrong.

I often feel unseen, in the outer world, think this is because I am introverted and tend to look away or walk through groups, it's deeply natural to me to do that. I actually enjoy and prefer mostly that it works like that.
 
Like seeing the world thru your camera eyes. It made me have more appreciation for where l live. I think how would Sherlock77 compose this, would he find the slant of this image bouncing off that surface a keeper?

Thank you for sharing your art images with us.
 

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