An ASD Irony

[GivitToEmPaulie]

I'm sure it has been touched on before, forgive me.

I find it extremely ironic how deep, smart and interesting people on the Autistic spectrum are, and yet we find it difficult to share ourselves uninhibitedly (is that a word?) with the wider population.

Do i have a point?

um, I guess so..point is, they are missing out.

please feel free to discuss, agree and disagree..

 

[kasmanaft08]

I think one thing that does it, is that with my interests, they're purely for me. So I don't have much of an idea to prove anything to anyone, if that makes any sense. I don't think I'm necessarily better than neurotypicals in general who dedicate themselves in jobs and studies, but it does bother me when someone gets ahead by "networking", when I know I could have done way better if I had some social skills.

 

[King_Oni]

I think one thing that does it, is that with my interests, they're purely for me. So I don't have much of an idea to prove anything to anyone, if that makes any sense. I don't think I'm necessarily better than neurotypicals in general who dedicate themselves in jobs and studies, but it does bother me when someone gets ahead by "networking", when I know I could have done way better if I had some social skills.

But... the question is. Would you want to network if you had those same interests if you were NT?

If I look at myself, I don't even care to network and put myself out there that much, and if anything, I'm probably only "good" at a wider range of arts, which is something other people should see.

Also, there's the "how do you network?" and "how do you network too much (or when are you to pushy)?". Because that in fact is something... I do know how to network (I think) but I don't care, because I feel it's pushy. I rather be on the background and kinda wait until someone notices it and get attention that way, instead of (over)exposing myself, create a "hype" of sorts and raise the bar for myself, because I know that I don't care for expectations from others. I really hate it when people are to pushy with their new product, be it a new album, a new set of images or whatever... the same thing as with normal commercials goes up for me, where I just stop caring for the product all together because I feel they're trying to hard.

But yeah, I think that's something that kinda applies to art for most part and not directly if you have an interest in physics or anything.

 

[Spinning Compass]

My dad said once that most people are shallow and that he didn't raise us to be shallow. I said to him, "Perhaps it would have been kinder if you had."

But yes, I agree with the original poster.

 

[GivitToEmPaulie]

My dad said once that most people are shallow and that he didn't raise us to be shallow. I said to him, "Perhaps it would have been kinder if you had."

But yes, I agree with the original poster.

Ah wow, Adunno man like, From a perfectly sane and reasonable point of view I wouldnt call it kind to raise people to be shallow or ignorant etc, or to be 'normal' to the publics standards.

However, although I am by no means shallow.. I can admit to putting a good amount of time and effort into how i present myself, border lining on vanity, which is sad to an extent, but only because people are shallow, and refusal to fit in singles a person out more..

I suppose from a personal point of view it can change daily whether I want to achieve things so's to gain recognition, friendship, etc but when it comes to it, to do so is to deal with people lol

Don't know if its moving off topic, but is kind of related, Social difficulties aside, I also consider it difficult to have asperations with how things are in the world

 

[HelloDizzy]

I often don't share my interests with others because I LITERALLY don't share my interests with others.
Not many people are as highly obsessed with Personality Typology, Suicidology, or stuffed animals as I am.

Also, I don't like the feeling of being "naked" by letting other people into my "cell." Only one person in my real life is allowed within my "cell" other than my therapist. If I start "textbooking" (my nickname in the house is TextBook) about such topics, I later regret it and feel exposed.

 

[kasmanaft08]

I often don't share my interests with others because I LITERALLY don't share my interests with others.
Not many people are as highly obsessed with Personality Typology, Suicidology, or stuffed animals as I am.

Also, I don't like the feeling of being "naked" by letting other people into my "cell." Only one person in my real life is allowed within my "cell" other than my therapist. If I start "textbooking" (my nickname in the house is TextBook) about such topics, I later regret it and feel exposed.

I also share this "exposed" feeling with my interests. Unless they also share the interest, or just the concept of having a seemingly random obsession over something. When I talk to Neurotypicals about my interests, I really quickly feel weird. I cant even feel comfortable pursuing this when they're in the same room or watching what I'm doing. They either think its weird, or it just feels like they're humoring it for some shallow reason, which makes me feel even more weird. I guess I find my obsessions to be a really personal thing, and so I take it as such.

Honestly, the only time I've really felt comfortable talking about something I'm obsessed with is when I've spoken about it on here, or other Aspies online.

 

[HelloDizzy]

Yeah, the naked feeling is awful. I keep my cell extremely small and selective.