Anger issues

[myk384]

Guys, I am asking for your help regarding my anger issues which I face. Oftentimes, whenever I feel left out by some of my close friends (like excluding me in conversations and group works) and result to shouting inside the classroom and often saying undesirable things or kicking chairs which my close friends would avoid me for the said reason. My classmates keep me calm and one professor of mine (who incidentally is our adviser for a school based organization I work for) confronted us. It happened just last Wednesday night when some of my close friends discussed about a potential grouping for the business week in our school especially the previous class (which is not our professor) left their groups and their products. They assumed that our professor (who arrived just last friday) will have one so they talked and invited two other people outside. I approached them outside and talked to them at a loud voice (different one) and approached one male classmate (the person in the first incident) and shouted. I said sorry and we bumped at one another (think like Pacquiao during the press conferences). I shouted to a female companion that they are making sides to that guy and went away. The reason for shouting that the guy is talking to them that much and getting my companions, therefore losing someone to talk with.

We met the other day and said that he was good enough not to report me to authorities. I told them about my aspie to them so they can know what am I facing which my mother told me that it was stupid for me to do it.

This anger problem caused me a lot, and this persisted since elementary. Even though my parents remind me, I do have the tendency to forget and repeat and cause my mother to lose trust in me. For now, I just avoid them and join with other people to refresh my mind.

I hope you understand my case, I usually shout and curse to myself that why am I having this syndrome. That's why I joined this forums to ask help and seek improvements to myself.

Thank you for reading my long story and have a great evening!

 

[Gulas]

Hi there! Sorry for long response.

People are probably thinking you're using AS as a excuse to be anger (I've read this somewhere on the web). What they don't understand is how to be in your skin, what **** you deal everyday. It's hard to understand.

When I'm angry, I usually just build a little bubble, and will go play video games. Nothing better that the feeling of you're powerful, you're great, you can build and destroy things, even if it's a virtual world. I know sometimes it just numb the anger and pain, not heal it, but it's a better way than tv, drinking or smoking.

So my advise is video games. :showoff:

In the long run, I'd seek help from professionals. If you can't afford it, try download some books. David Burns is one of my favorites about dealing with anger and depression.

I wish you the best!!!

 

[myk384]

Thanks for the reply! Actually, the very hectic time for schooling leaves me no time for video games. Today, I will ask for the guidance conselor's advice so that this anger might lessen, if not totally removed.

All the best!

 

[Gulas]

I used to think that I had no time for video games because of university. But I can't neglect something I love. At least play 1 hour a day for me is fine. It's enough to keep me sane. layfull:

When I try find guidance on somebody else, what they say is usually helpful. But the TRUE change comes from one self. That's mine opinion.

Good luck, friend!

 

[myk384]

Sir, the consultation with the guidance made me relieved and told me that a bottle of water can calm me down. Last week was the beginning, today is a new journey.

More of our conversation with the guidance on a blog post

 

[myk384]

Ok, the water idea was a great suggestion especially it calmed me down.

 

[Ereth]

The water will also keep you hydrated, and provided you don't drink enough to give you water poisoning, that's always a good thing.

 

[myk384]

The water will also keep you hydrated, and provided you don't drink enough to give you water poisoning, that's always a good thing.

But gives me trips to the rest room harrump

 

[emmvee]

I have been known to lash out quite severely in "meltdown mode"- when I feel I'm at the absolute end of my tether, and sometimes my anger is totally unexplained to everyone around me, so it might seem strange.
But I have exploded, sometimes publicly, but luckily in most cases I was able to focus enough to direct the destructive energy onto myself instead of someone else or an object that might have some value.
I think, as an aspie, we tend to look a lot deeper and analyse things that a lot of other people don't really care about. Social interactions is one thing in particular that I know I can obsess on, trying to work out why someone prefers someone else, and why certain people gravitate towards certain people. I think that if you think about some things too much, they can begin to give you a negative spin on it without seeing what people's real motivations were...
You gotta not think about it so much!