anxiety and worrying about my new college year

[Dillon]

i have less than a month before I move back into my college campus. I don’t know what going on through my head at the moment but I’m worried about some things and such. I’m not worried about how my classes and work will go while I’m down there but it’s the people down there.
I’ll be stuck down there yet again with no car while a lot of the students have one getting to go off the island for the weekend (why I chose to work on weekends instead of being in a dorm all day)
I am not going to have these people make fun of me again like last year cause I don’t have the things they do due to personal issues.
I also worry somewhat about fitting in again since it’s all a lot of ignorant, spoiled and entitled rich kids who go to the campus. I do not have that many friends at all and the ones I did had turned me away telling me what a both t I am to be around. I’ve been excluded in quite a few things down there to where I get sick of it I just do my own thing.
I had problems with a couple roommates forcing me to move rooms about three times during my first year. Everyone of them hated me but everyone of them drank and vaped (which I cannot stand) in the dorms when we are not allowed to smoke and drink at all calming it’s a
“dry campus” but the administration can care less. I had one roommate who made drug deals when I was in the same room, told someone in private and guess what nothing happened. I wish I had a room to myself this semester but that will never happen.
I do not like the head faculty up there. They claim that they do not tolerate or condone any bad behavior from the students but I know that’s a lie I’ve seen it all and it’s disturbing to me.
I tried to explain some problems I had with people just plain bullying me and such and the guy’s response was “its college, that’s how college people are” and talks about how he monitors the campus through “Snapchat” which made no sense. so I guess it’s acceptable to be a arrogant, selfish and let people harass others at this college campus I go to??


Maybe im just over reacting about some things maybe it will turn out ok but it just freaks me out knowing if this stuff will be the same again. I trying to finish my degree as fast as I can in less than two years so I don’t have to deal with it no more.

 

[Dadwith2Autisticsons]

This does not sound like over reacting to me. I had severe social anxiety and shyness when I went to college, and then when I transferred to a university a few years later, to the point I could not talk to any at most but a voice wavering yes or no, if asked something, but usually I stayed silent. I was very poor socially, and very sensitive to criticism and rejection and would not be able to study until I calmed down from any perceived mistreatment, which could be days, if not weeks later. I would quit anything where I felt others wete judging me badly.

So, at that time I could never even have even considered a dorm college or university room. I took college loans out to live off campus, in a small apartment where I could study alone without distractions, and where I could avoid that harassment, bullying, criticism and rejection. I had a new car though, and could get around. I would have had to take a bus otherwise, though I would have dreaded that. I wish I had other answers. The fact you put up with that for a year shows you had more strength than I, or more ability to fight through that without running away. I feel you do not deserve that treatment though.

I wish I had better answers that I gave. I wish they had a single dorm room for you, or university apartment housing whereby could be by yourself, if you cannot somehow miraculously find a roomate with a condition similar to yours. I am not sure about their reasonable accommodation policy, for instance if you said you require a single room because of a condition, but that would require specific disclosure of that, and it would seem like taking many future risks there. That may not be the answer for your case. I hope those here on tne spectrum can provide other suggestions. Good luck.

 

[Dillon]

This does not sound like over reacting to me. I had severe social anxiety and shyness when I went to college, and then when I transferred to a university a few years later, to the point I could not talk to any at most but a voice wavering yes or no, if asked something, but usually I stayed silent. I was very poor socially, and very sensitive to criticism and rejection and would not be able to study until I calmed down from any perceived mistreatment, which could be days, if not weeks later. I would quit anything where I felt others wete judging me badly.

So, at that time I could never even have even considered a dorm college or university room. I took college loans out to live off campus, in a small apartment where I could study alone without distractions, and where I could avoid that harassment, bullying, criticism and rejection. I had a new car though, and could get around. I would have had to take a bus otherwise, though I would have dreaded that. I wish I had other answers. The fact you put up with that for a year shows you had more strength than I, or more ability to fight through that without running away. I feel you do not deserve that treatment though.

I wish I had better answers that I gave. I wish they had a single dorm room for you, or university apartment housing whereby could be by yourself, if you cannot somehow miraculously find a roomate with a condition similar to yours. I am not sure about their reasonable accommodation policy, for instance if you said you require a single room because of a condition, but that would require specific disclosure of that, and it would seem like taking many future risks there. That may not be the answer for your case. I hope those here on tne spectrum can provide other suggestions. Good luck.

Unfortunately they do not do single rooms at all for students there except for the ones who are “community leaders” that we have in each floor of our dorms. All they do is to make sure your room is in order and basically following the hall rules which most people don’t.

It’s such a small campus part of the A&M system. The campus is at the coast of Galveston Texas USA. You have the main city island and a smaller isolated island just 1 mile north of it where the campus sits on. There’s not much there at all besides a conivent store and wetlands with a small beach access. In between the two island is a draw bridge and you cannot walk or bike there since there is a four way intersection that really dangerous if you were to cross it without a car. So I’m basically stuck down on the little island without a car for a while which has kicked on my depression of and on last semester knowing I live 7 hours away from home. I can get off the island if I’m Lucky enough to carpool with someone and that happens very little so I don’t get to go to the grocery store to buy food that often which is why I lost 10 pounds last semester in the spring. Once a month I do have a friend from few hours away how comes and we hang out which makes me feel better.
I was told by the school that there were shuttle buses that take you from the school to anywhere you want to go but turned out not to be true at all she I’m screwed on that part.
We do have a dining hall/cafeteria which is our only food place to eat and I go there sometimes when there food actually tastes decent and not like cardboard.
This is what I will be having to deal with.

I am hoping to finally meet someone who is on the spectrum on campus this year like me cause i feel like I’m the only one really. I can’t relate to many of NTs sometimes.

 

[DCA]

My college experience was 20 years past but I understand what you're going through. First of all if your roommate is doing drug deals out of your dorm room you have every right to be upset about that. But as far as roommates are concerned I had a few till I moved off campus. 1 was good (comic book fan & art major so we had a lot of shared interests), another so-so (chem engineering major that stayed up all night but slept all day...but at least he listened to decent music & had a sardonic sense of humor) & one downright awful that forced me to change rooms. So it happens & if you don't get along with your roommate then switching is a good option.

 

[Dillon]

My college experience was 20 years past but I understand what you're going through. First of all if your roommate is doing drug deals out of your dorm room you have every right to be upset about that. But as far as roommates are concerned I had a few till I moved off campus. 1 was good (comic book fan & art major so we had a lot of shared interests), another so-so (chem engineering major that stayed up all night but slept all day...but at least he listened to decent music & had a sardonic sense of humor) & one downright awful that forced me to change rooms. So it happens & if you don't get along with your roommate then switching is a good option.

That’s the thing I will not be doing again is switching dorm/rooms since I’ve already done that 3 times in less than a year. I probably won’t see my roommate that much since I’m all and about anyway and have the new job on campus which I found out I’m required to work on weekends which is fine by me.
Hopefully whoever it is I took with will be much better and decent to talk to.

 

[Progster]

That sounds like an abslolute nightmare! I remember being at uni, when I first arrived they put me in a room in a big building in the middle of the campus ,with another person in a noisy corridor with students who seemed to be more interested in going out and getting pissed and having a good time that studying, and I didn't like it - I moved to a quiter block with more serious students on the edge of the campus with green fields all around, I got the room at the end of the corridor so it was a bit more isolated and most important, it was quiet.