Are you a clingy person?

[Drake Marino]

So one of my biggest flaws is how clingy I am. I'm not very good at making friends, so when I finally do make a friend I tend to get really clingy with them and want them to always hang out with me at school, although I know that they have other friends that want to spend time with them, too. It's ruined a few of my friendships in the past. Are any of you guys clingy?

 

[King_Oni]

I wouldn't see myself as clingy. However, I expect some kind of dedication to maintain a friendship when talking friends. I can't deal with people that show up once every month or so, and might just want to hang out because it suits them right now. There's a reason I don't have many close personal friends myself. I don't have any interest to maintain a lot of these contacts.

On the other hand, I tend to have a lot of personal projects and solitary hobbies going on, which makes me less reliant on other people. And clearly I have my own agenda of stuff to do. I never really got into the entire "let's hang out" just for the sake of hanging out and keeping up friends. I need a mutual interest to share at least, and those are often quite specific. That might be a reason why it's hard for me to find people in my area to share some common ground with.

 

[Explosition_Rooster]

I suppose that I am, though I'm also clingy in other areas, which kinda bit me in the butt, but that's another story.

Generally, I'm not clingy, as I've spent most of my life in solitude with only my self to keep me company. Now, I don't think I could go back to that which is probably what made me clingy in the first place.

 

[Judge]

I haven't had the opportunity to be "clingy" in so long, I'm not even sure what it really means any more. Good, bad, sad or strange. I literally don't no what to call it. Solitary living does that, I suppose.

Also being raised in a military family where you move every one or two years. You just aren't around long enough to make those critical relationships. At least I wasn't. I can see now how this particular dynamic compounded my problems having AS. For years I actually thought having moved so much had a great deal with my personality and inability to socialize. Never imagined it centered around a neurological condition.

 

[Thesaurusrex]

I think I would certainly class myself as a clingy person, but I don't think it is necessarily a flaw. If I find somebody interesting or I like someone I can become an insane attention whore, and have a tendency to sulk when the same level of interest/attention is not reciprocated. In saying that, it's rare that it happens, and it hasn't seemed to be too detrimental to friendships/relationships, since the people who have been on the receiving end of my clingy-ness seem to have liked it! :unsure:

 

[Soup]

Nope. I'm the exact polar opposite of clingy.

 

[wyverary]

I used to be when I was younger, but in the past few years I have found my way to the complete opposite end of the spectrum, and now I am a TOTAL FLAKE. It is terrible. I am not entirely sure why that happened, either.

 

[Arashi222]

People have said I am clingy. I guess I can be when I am afraid of losing them but honestly I don't think I am clingy I think its more that I get frustrated with my inability to keep friends that when people treat me badly I get upset and try to hold onto the relationship but I haven't done that in a long time... I think my ex-friend had a lot to do with it.

 

[Historianthomas]

I was in the past very clingy. While, I know I have the capacity to be that again, I fight really hard not to.

 

[Judge]

I used to be when I was younger, but in the past few years I have found my way to the complete opposite end of the spectrum, and now I am a TOTAL FLAKE. It is terrible. I am not entirely sure why that happened, either.

I'm a bit confused by it all myself. Wondering if perhaps subconsciously I go out of my way not to appear clingy because of resentment I may harbor from being mistreated by others over the years. Just another "shield" I may be putting up when I shouldn't. I just don't know...

I hate the feeling of craving human company while loathing it at the same time. Something I see a lot posted in this forum.

 

[Ste11aeres]

I used to be really really really clingy. Now I just avoid forming new friendships in the first place. I got tired of things that seemed to be the beginnings of friendship turning out not to be. Didn't want to be hurt anymore, don't want to accidentally hurt people who are similar to how I used to be. So I avoid forming friendships etc.
Still, I ended up with one friend. With him, I decided to trade clinginess for its similar brother: loyalty.

 

[Chopstick]

When I encounter clingy people I generally flee. I'm not yet comfortable with the idea that I need to hang out with anyone. And besides, kids at school view me as someone who acts sort of nutty and says odd and random things that are sometimes beyond their grasp.

 

[Sparticus]

Nope not clingy. I get lost in my hobbies

 

[LikeyouToMe]

I am quite clingy and will never really learn from previous mistakes either :-( I've pushed people away with how clingy I am and I wish I didn't get so attached to people so quickly.

 

[arnoldmcguire335]

Sometimes, esp. if that's the only friend you had in your life. Or if you had 1 friend not from church. (True Story.)

 

[Sparticus]

I have to correct myself. If a woman wants to be clingy with me I can be close to her for awhile. Then I get interested in things especially needing my own space to think, exercise, talk to others [ha ha ha ha@] watch a movie etc. But I am loyal and sometimes don't understand the boundary between loyalty & giving someone enough space. Then again I can zone out...and feel resentful if I don't have my own time.

What the heck did I just say!@?

 

[anne.bc]

I'm clingy but I'm clinging to almost nothing. It's because I'm having a hard time making friends out of acquaintances, and it's probably because I seem desperate about it... Does that make any sense? lol

 

[Blade_Runner]

I think I would certainly class myself as a clingy person, but I don't think it is necessarily a flaw. If I find somebody interesting or I like someone I can become an insane attention whore, and have a tendency to sulk when the same level of interest/attention is not reciprocated. In saying that, it's rare that it happens, and it hasn't seemed to be too detrimental to friendships/relationships, since the people who have been on the receiving end of my clingy-ness seem to have liked it! :unsure:

I can definitely relate to that! I can cling to people like a limpet and end up thinking about them all the time. It takes a while for me to realise the sad truth that they are not as interested as I'd like them to be...I just border on being infatuated. <3 When I realise we're not on the same level, I sink into depression ugh ... :{

 

[MoCoffee]

I am the opposite of clingy myself, and if someone tries to cling to me my anxiety goes right through the roof. This is not a good way to be, because it results in almost complete isolation in my case. I know my family and friends wish I wanted to be with them as much as they want to be with me, but I just can't handle it. At least with my diagnosis they know it's not something they've done, it's just the way I was born.

 

[Judge]

I am the opposite of clingy myself, and if someone tries to cling to me my anxiety goes right through the roof. This is not a good way to be, because it results in almost complete isolation in my case. I know my family and friends wish I wanted to be with them as much as they want to be with me, but I just can't handle it. At least with my diagnosis they know it's not something they've done, it's just the way I was born.

Pretty much describes me as well. Of course in my case it greatly contributed to the demise of one of my relationships. Something I regret very much, and hold myself totally at fault over.