Are you a tag along?

[Droopy]

Are you, or do you sometimes feel, like a tag along when with a group of friends?

I feel apart of the group if the group is small but when in bigger groups I seem to be a tag along.

 

[whale_bone]

Yeah I'm crap at big groups too. For small groups it depends: if we're at my house and I know them well than I feel like a part of the group, if I'm somewhere new/ with new people then I tend to lose track of the convo and turn into a bit of a shadow. I guess the difference is control for me.

 

[CJinherPJs]

Are you a tag along?

Yes, especially in larger groups. Heck, I'm not called Creeping Jesus for nothing!

 

[Droopy]

Heck, I'm not called Creeping Jesus for nothing!

Ah, so that's how you got that nickname.

 

[juffur]

I always feel like a tag along. These days I don't really go out anymore, but even at family events I feel like a tag along. Just one on one I feel ok, but anything more and I feel like I don't really belong in the group.

 

[eon]

i gave up trying to tag along long ago.
i can't understand group synchronization.
i usually become irritated when i see a group of kids, like a pack, going about a neighborhood i'm passing through.
it just causes me to perceive ignorance. it's probably a generalization i should get over.

 

[Leiservampir]

Usually. Sometimes I feel really in in a group, but even when at school with my "Closest friends" I usually feel like "Wtf am I doing here?" cause it just feels like I'm left out, but by accident.
For example, I usually hang out with qbout 4 specific people at school, and during the last year of school (The first in my college) they've met up loads outside school and have hung out and stuff, but I never even get invited. I think it's more because they just don't think to than they don't like me, cause I said this too them near the end of school, and one of them has rung me loads int he last 5 weeks of holidays to ask about hanging out, but even so, it still feels like I'm just..there.

 

[Firnafth]

When I am with a small group of people it can be OK, depending on who the people are.

With a large group of people I may fit in for a while, but eventually I will get lost and end up just listening to others or even just sitting there listening to nobody. That's what it means to be a "tag-along" right? The exception is if I am at some party hosted by a professor; I can sit and listen to professors talk for ages.

 

[CJinherPJs]

Ah, so that's how you got that nickname.

That's right!

 

[PanPaniscus]

Yeah usually in larger groups, or groups of 3. I like groups of 4, because 2 pairs can come together. With odd numbers, there will always be a tagalong, almost always me.

 

[CJinherPJs]

Funnily enough I never used to refer to myself as a "tag along". I called myself a "spare part" instead. That was because everyone else in the group would just start talking to me if they got bored. Anyone else get that?

 

[Kodak]

I am a tag-a-long. Even in small groups. I often feel that I am on the outsider of groups.

 

[Droopy]

I called myself a "spare part" instead.

A spare part sounds about right for me.

 

[CJinherPJs]

A spare part sounds about right for me.

Join the club!

LOL yeah, everyone's attention would just turn to me if they ran out of things to talk about. It became quite amusing after a while, they were all so random with the things they said.

 

[lyricalillusions]

I used to occasionally (like a couple times a year lol) go places with my "friend" since childhood & a friend of hers & when I was with them, I always felt like the third wheel. They're both social, outgoing people who like to be around others & I'm the total opposite. They seemed to have this "thing" with one another that I just didn't have. I always felt totally out of place. I've never had many friends & even as a kid when I would be with a friend & was around a cousin or something & that friend, I would always get pushed aside for the more social, talkative cousin, etc. I've always felt like the tag-along when it was more than just myself & one other person.

 

[Arashi222]

I used to occasionally (like a couple times a year lol) go places with my "friend" since childhood & a friend of hers & when I was with them, I always felt like the third wheel. They're both social, outgoing people who like to be around others & I'm the total opposite. They seemed to have this "thing" with one another that I just didn't have. I always felt totally out of place. I've never had many friends & even as a kid when I would be with a friend & was around a cousin or something & that friend, I would always get pushed aside for the more social, talkative cousin, etc. I've always felt like the tag-along when it was more than just myself & one other person.

Sounds exactly how I feel. I have a similar situation that occured until finally they stopped beign friends with me in my case. Because I wouldn't talk much and I would just kinda sit there even though I was having a good time. They had something I just couldn't get or understand this connection that I wanted so badly. I was ok when it was one or the other alone with me but together I just didn't fit.

 

[Droopy]

Recently I have tried to keep the groups small and make sure that the more "elite social status" and very talkative friends of mine aren't about. I feel that without them there it gives me more room to exercise my social skills. The pace is also much slower too without them and their constant talking abilities. So it gives me time to think, process and throw a line or two into the conversation.

I often refer to those friends as the ones who "steal the spotlight" as bad as that may sound.

 

[King_Oni]

I'm not, nor have I really ever been.

I have my own agenda, and my own plans. Sometimes I ask people to tag along with me though, even if it's just for the reason to kill eventual boredom. I never "tag along" cause I want to know what business I have somewhere and I hate being somewhere "just because".

 

[rainbowdragon]

I don't know. I feel like I am always tagging along pretty much every time I hang out with a group of people. However, I agree in that I don't like to tag along with people while they are running errands and such. I feel like im wasting my time. Then again, that's how I feel most of the time I try to hang out with people. I just get so bored or just plain uncomfortable. I don't like people to tag along with me while im doing things. I know I isolate too much but I seem to prefer being alone most of the time. If im hanging out, I like it to be at a planned time set aside just for that.

 

[Butterfly_Lady]

Funnily enough I never used to refer to myself as a "tag along". I called myself a "spare part" instead. That was because everyone else in the group would just start talking to me if they got bored. Anyone else get that?

I have felt like this before but most of the time i just felt like an outsider looking in. like what lyricalillusions and Arashi said. i am the 3rd wheel. if it's a group of more then three i am just "there" and trying to keep up with the convo is very tiring. I definitely don't like to be in large groups because i certainly can't keep up with everything that is going on and i get very overwhelmed!

I used to occasionally (like a couple times a year lol) go places with my "friend" since childhood & a friend of hers & when I was with them, I always felt like the third wheel. They're both social, outgoing people who like to be around others & I'm the total opposite. They seemed to have this "thing" with one another that I just didn't have. I always felt totally out of place. I've never had many friends & even as a kid when I would be with a friend & was around a cousin or something & that friend, I would always get pushed aside for the more social, talkative cousin, etc. I've always felt like the tag-along when it was more than just myself & one other person.

Sounds exactly how I feel. I have a similar situation that occured until finally they stopped beign friends with me in my case. Because I wouldn't talk much and I would just kinda sit there even though I was having a good time. They had something I just couldn't get or understand this connection that I wanted so badly. I was ok when it was one or the other alone with me but together I just didn't fit.