Aspie Girls Everyday Hack

[Vitamin Sea]

My NT friends and I have something in common, we all don’t want to end up like someone who is letting their looks go, especially a married woman/mother who has lost all her charms. So we try to look good as much as possible, and since I’ve been masking my aspie traits in order to fit in, they dont know what my real struggles are.

I know people in the spectrum try hard to keep up with their daily routine, so an aspie woman trying to understand the art of make up has more dilemmas.(Sometimes, I wish I were a man to make things simpler.) I am really clumsy, even the shape of my fingers are just odd and funny. I have watched youtube tutorials, but I just can’t follow through. Here are some comments that receive from day to day:

Your foundation isnt well-blended.
Your eye shadow on the right is darker than the other.
Your lipstick smudges a little.
You stained your collar with your foundation.
30 minutes of make up and still nothing has changed on your face.

When I decide to go without make up, this is what I hear:

Are you okay?
You look so tired/sick.
I think you should at least do your brows.
You are too plain and simple. (Like someone who just stepped into the big city.)
You really need a total make over.

I dont want to make this post too lengthy, I mean Im not too vain to talk too much about my appearance nor about make up. In fact, I really appreciate beauty in me and in everyone, with or without personal effects.

Aspie girls, I want to know what is your quick and easy everyday make up routine?

 

[Progster]

My solution to this is simple: I don't! It's just not me, and wearing makeup is optional, not an obligation. There's no law that says that you have to wear it. In fact, people would wonder what was wrong with me if I suddenly decided to wear it. Perhaps you could compromise by wearing less, or less often, only for special occasions - let your friends get used to seeing you without it if it's something that you aren't comfortable with. Not everyone likes to wear it and not everyone does, regardless of being on the spectrum or not. You shouldn't have to wear it just to fit in.

 

[Vitamin Sea]

Thanks! I also believe less is more. In developing countries, it is like your self worth goes with the personal effects that you have. I can really notice the difference, like people giving me that condescending look, or at times ignoring me in customer service.

That's why Im learning and training to have at least a professional look. Yet I have to tame my clumsy fingers.

I hope people start to treat each other equally, without the material illusion.

 

[Catana]

Going by a few decades of observation, I'd say that the vast majority of women don't wear makeup at all. Maybe for special occasions, but if you pay attention to women you see in public, I doubt you'll see a lot of makeup. I haven't worn any since my attempts in my first year of college. It's uncomfortable; it doesn't look natural, and it's a pain in the butt to try to keep it always looking good.

Who cares what other people think? If you just quit wearing it, your "friends" will get used to it. You don't have to keep up with anyone else in how you look. Unless you're actually a professional who's expected to appear a certain way, why are you working to hard to achieve a "professional" look?

 

[Vitamin Sea]

Thanks Catana.

In Asian countries, it is just different. Some men even shape their brows, whiten their skin, and apply foundation. I basically feel good about myself, but getting ignored in a crowd for choosing to be simple is another story.

 

[Vitamin Sea]

This is just an example:

 

[VioletHaze_03]

I feel like wearing makeup every day is kinda stupid. Make is supposed to be special, only for fancy occasions to really bring out your best features . Caking your face all the time is like going to work or school in a wedding dress - Wearing it constantly ruins the specialness of it. My friend first brought up that opinion and I totally agree with it. I'll wear a little bit of foundation sometimes, or some lipgloss. I can barely get up in the morning, so i'd just say go with a little bit of concealer for most of your face, and maybe some darker foundation for the back of your eyelids. The more you emphasize that little backspace, the healthier you'll look. Just go for something discreet, a lot of those chemicals are really gross anyway, and can really hurt if you don't know what you're doing (Clumped mascara is so uncomfortable, I used to think that was the only way you could put it on!)

 

[Gracey]

My NT friends and I have something in common, we all don’t want to end up like someone who is letting their looks go, especially a married woman/mother who has lost all her charms. So we try to look good as much as possible, and since I’ve been masking my aspie traits in order to fit in, they dont know what my real struggles are.

I know people in the spectrum try hard to keep up with their daily routine, so an aspie woman trying to understand the art of make up has more dilemmas.(Sometimes, I wish I were a man to make things simpler.) I am really clumsy, even the shape of my fingers are just odd and funny. I have watched youtube tutorials, but I just can’t follow through. Here are some comments that receive from day to day:

Your foundation isnt well-blended.
Your eye shadow on the right is darker than the other.
Your lipstick smudges a little.
You stained your collar with your foundation.
30 minutes of make up and still nothing has changed on your face.

When I decide to go without make up, this is what I hear:

Are you okay?
You look so tired/sick.
I think you should at least do your brows.
You are too plain and simple. (Like someone who just stepped into the big city.)
You really need a total make over.

I dont want to make this post too lengthy, I mean Im not too vain to talk too much about my appearance nor about make up. In fact, I really appreciate beauty in me and in everyone, with or without personal effects.

Aspie girls, I want to know what is your quick and easy everyday make up routine?

Why are you even listening to those comments from others?

 

[kay]

This is just an example:

That's a horrible commercial. How mean to insinuate that the woman is scary and ugly. The pressure for women to conform to a certain look is pretty much everywhere. I ignore it as much as possible because I am not here to make strangers happy. I value my comfort and my own sense of what looks good far more than what everyone else thinks. Burt's Bees lip balm to keep my lips from chapping in cold, dry winter air is as close to makeup as I am willing to go. Of course I do wash my face and it's a lot easier without makeup to remove.

 

[Progster]

Beyond being a social convention in many countries, I really don't see the point in makeup.

 

[Streetwise]

 

[Vitamin Sea]

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Thanks Streetwise! I love this picture.

 

[Vitamin Sea]

I feel like wearing makeup every day is kinda stupid. Make is supposed to be special, only for fancy occasions to really bring out your best features . Caking your face all the time is like going to work or school in a wedding dress - Wearing it constantly ruins the specialness of it. My friend first brought up that opinion and I totally agree with it. I'll wear a little bit of foundation sometimes, or some lipgloss. I can barely get up in the morning, so i'd just say go with a little bit of concealer for most of your face, and maybe some darker foundation for the back of your eyelids. The more you emphasize that little backspace, the healthier you'll look. Just go for something discreet, a lot of those chemicals are really gross anyway, and can really hurt if you don't know what you're doing (Clumped mascara is so uncomfortable, I used to think that was the only way you could put it on!)

Thanks @VioletHaze_03 for your tips.
Now I know most aspie women like barely there/less or even no make up.

 

[Vitamin Sea]

Why are you even listening to those comments from others?

It doesnt bother me much seriously. Yet it has become too ingrained in our urban culture that we get vaccumed in it. Even my husband uses cream for pink glowing skin and his friends also put on some make up too.

As an aspie, it adds up to more hassles in my morning routine.

I also want to know other aspie women's daily routine.

 

[Vitamin Sea]

Welcome Vitamin Sea, to the autism forums.

When I used to wear makeup in my twenties and thirties, it was eye makeup, and face powder and lipstick. I haven't in many years, but I can still give you some tips. If you don't already know them.

Lightly powder your face first, with a light skin colour facial powder. And then put the foundation on with a moist sponge. That way you use less, and you have more even coverage.

To avoid too much eyeshadow on one eyelid. Check after putting in on, and wipe it a little with a tissue to blend a little. You could also use a blush brush to blend it a little more.

Lipstick will adhere better if you use some powder on your lips and outlining will prevent it from bleeding into the skin.

Do all the makeup and your hair, before you get dressed. To prevent it staining your clothing. So in your bathrobe for example.

One of my earlier jobs, and I've had many. Was doing makeup at Eaton's, so I had to learn how to do it. Might also suggest that you buy things like eyeshadow and lipstick in precise tubes, that release the exact right amount for each application.

Less is better, the minimal amount to do the job. In future don't ask people their opinions on how you look and don't invite any comments. Seems like some, are too critical and have some sort of agenda related to their comments. If they make these sorts of comments regularly, I personally would find something about them to criticize. No one's perfect.

Thanks Mia. I like the powder trick. You're like a sister to me.

 

[Adora]

Opinions of others shouldn’t affect you,I wear makeup and I don’t do it to impress people,I do it because I enjoy it,I like experimenting with colours especially with eyeshadows since I find you can be the most creative with the colours within a eyeshadow palette.

 

[Vitamin Sea]

Opinions of others shouldn’t affect you,I wear makeup and I don’t do it to impress people,I do it because I enjoy it,I like experimenting with colours especially with eyeshadows since I find you can be the most creative with the colours within a eyeshadow palette.

Thanks Adora!

 

[Bolletje]

I hardly ever wear make-up. When I do, I usually stick to mascara, very rarely adding BB cream, eye shadow and lipstick.
If people get used to the fact that you’re not wearing make-up, you won’t get comments asking you if you’re sick or tired as much. Although I can imagine those comments aren’t exactly encouraging

 

[Thinx]

Makeup?

I don't. But it sounds like the cultural pressure for you is strong, and as you say divergence is more noticeable than compliance.

Sorry I have no tips on this! As a young person I recall for example, using a great deal of blue eyeshadow that I saw was the same as my blue and white striped dress. I suppose people just held back as I never got comments yet probably might have! But in the feminist 80s I dropped the mask... it was an option. However I did have a scary to look back on curly highlighted perm... But it was common to do so and I guess it helped me fit in.

 

[Vitamin Sea]

Makeup?

I don't. But it sounds like the cultural pressure for you is strong, and as you say divergence is more noticeable than compliance.

Sorry I have no tips on this! As a young person I recall for example, using a great deal of blue eyeshadow that I saw was the same as my blue and white striped dress. I suppose people just held back as I never got comments yet probably might have! But in the feminist 80s I dropped the mask... it was an option. However I did have a scary to look back on curly highlighted perm... But it was common to do so and I guess it helped me fit in.

I had that awkward perm too, about 12 years ago. I fancied those big curls that actresses had in soap operas but mine were so tiny they looked like instant noodles.