Aspies with Half Siblings

[megacomic]

I know this is going to seem bad but before my parents were married my father had three other kids. I grew up with my full siblings hearing about them very rarely and never meeting them as they lived in Boston and I grew up in Los Angeles. I didn't meet them until my father's funeral six years ago and ever since then our half sister keeps bothering us about a family reunion and getting all my father's children together. My sister wants to do it but honestly I don't care for my half siblings, I don't hate them but as far I'm concerned they don't exist to me as I couldn't care less about my father's previous affairs. I feel terrible about it but I feel nothing for them at all and I really don't like the reminder that my father was with other women besides my mom. How do other Aspies feel about their half siblings?

 

[nowwhat]

Mine are 20+ years older than me, and have attempted to murder me twice, so I'm on the fence about Mom's first litter. On the positive side, I've donned a suit and lowered one of my would-be killers into the earth and their health being what it is, time is on my side. Do I hate them? Nah, but justice is sweet, and you are free to enjoy it when you lifted not one finger to bring it about.

 

[Streetwise]

same as you angry about affairs
he is despicable

 

[ksheehan88]

If you're Dad had them before him and your Mum got married then it wasn't an affair?

Anyway, I have three half siblings and one full sibling.

My Mum and "sperm donor" had me and my full brother.

Then my Mum and my step-dad had my half brother

And my"sperm donor" and his partner had my two half sisters.

I grew up with both my brothers but didn't know about my sisters until I was a teenager, and have only met them once. I'd like to get to know them better but they aren't really interested.

 

[cherryq]

I grew up with my half-sister periodically around as she lived about 3 hours away with her mom (visited every other weekend and some during the summers). When she was in 10th grade, she moved in with us, and I was in 3rd grade. When I think about the details, I get angry with her mom for the way she treated our dad. She is my only sibling, though, so I view her as my big sister. We don't have the close relationship that I see full-siblings have with each other, and many times I am jealous of that. I wish we were closer but she is 7 years older, married, has three kids, etc. Her life is completely different than mine and we currently live 7 hours apart. But regardless, I still view her as my sister, and her kids call me Aunt which makes me feel both old and good at the same time.

That being said, if I had not grown up seeing her every other weekend and if I hadn't found out we weren't full siblings until I was 7 or so, I may feel differently about her. Perhaps under different circumstances, we would have had a much more distant relationship.