Autistic Brain

[Aet1985]

I was very concerned lately, is it possible we are more prone to emotional instability or anger? I ask because I had a huge meltdown with raising my voice, and going to my room scream crying into a pillow. I just don't know why I have issues with people, for example one Woman in work I feel she treats me differently, so I raised my voice to her saying excuse me in Spanish, and also said if you have a problem with me now is the time to say it. I see the other people in work and they seem fine, maybe it's just I had bad luck with women so I am cautious or read wrong? quick to get angry or feel a slight

 

[TBRS1]

For me, this is likely to happen because I am already under stress from something else.

I'm autistic, so I'm frequently experiencing things that stress me that don't seem to affect most others (at least, not to the same extent).

I would suspect that this is true of many other people as well.

 

[Jumpinbare]

Emotional instability is common among autistic people. Anger is an emotion, so yeah.

 

[Nervous Rex]

I can’t speak for everyone but I definitely have anger issues. Stupid little things can instantly trigger anger in me - things that “mature adults” should be able to brush off and forget about.

I try so hard to keep it bottled up and be a good person. I work every day at being polite, courteous, and compassionate.

So far, the best I can do is to tell myself, “Remember to be kind” before I leave the house, and then to try to pay attention to how I’m doing and try not react immediately. It helps a ton if my wife or some other high-emotional-iq person is with me because I can gauge their reaction and copy it.

I also found that my good nature and my anger are 99% correlated with how tired I am. If I am well-rested, it’s so easy for me to be the nicest person in the world. If I’m tired, I am short-tempered, snappy, and irritable.

So I work at it every day. I keep wondering, “When will being nice be natural for me?”