Awaiting diagnosis for my son

[Korimom]

Hi All,

My name is Kori and I am here because my 9yo son Jack has been identified as "probably" on the spectrum. We have a follow up appointment with a specialist next week. The last couple of weeks have been emotional as I am forced to confront all the stuff I chose to ignore as he grew up, coupled with the guilt of trying to fit him in a box that clearly wasn't his size. He is the oldest in our family of five children (I also have a 7yo daughter, a 5yo daughter, a 4yo son and a 8month old son). I'm looking forward to browsing the forums and looking for answers and for questions that I don't even know I should be asking yet.

Thanks.
Kori

 

[Korimom]

I should also probably mention that we are homeschoolers, so also have to deal with the fact that had he been in school someone somewhere might have picked this up earlier. :-/

Hi All,

My name is Kori and I am here because my 9yo son Jack has been identified as "probably" on the spectrum. We have a follow up appointment with a specialist next week. The last couple of weeks have been emotional as I am forced to confront all the stuff I chose to ignore as he grew up, coupled with the guilt of trying to fit him in a box that clearly wasn't his size. He is the oldest in our family of five children (I also have a 7yo daughter, a 5yo daughter, a 4yo son and a 8month old son). I'm looking forward to browsing the forums and looking for answers and for questions that I don't even know I should be asking yet.

Thanks.
Kori

 

[Ereth]

Hello, Kori! Welcome to AspiesCentral.

Don't beat yourself up about this too much. Diagnosis is never an easy thing for parents to handle, no matter when it happens. I'm not a mother myself, but because I was diagnosed comparatively late (I'm twenty-four and it happened a few years ago) my family took a very long time to understand what it means for me. In many ways, my parents and brother still don't understand.

Best wishes to you and your family.

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[Vanilla]

Welcome

Ereth is right, don't blame yourself for the past. If anything, home schooling is actually a great idea, as children on the spectrum can sometimes struggle with integrating with others at school.

There are quite a few parents on this site, as you will find, so you're bound to find many answers here. Be sure to check out our resources section too for books related to the spectrum. Tony Attwood's book is a popular favourite.

Aspies Central Resources:
Asperger's & Autism Resources | AspiesCentral.com

Tony Attwood:
The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome | AspiesCentral.com

 

[Ste11aeres]

I was homeschooled. I'm glad for it. Don't feel guilty for it, as, based on what I've heard from others, conventional schooling seems to often be a painful painful experience for many kids on the spectrum.
"Someone picking up on it earlier" in a school could be the result of "someone noticing this kid is not fitting in and is having a painful difficult time."

 

[Turk]

Hi Kori and welcome,
As many have said, forgive yourself in order to move on Guilt is such a time expensive resource that can be better focused on helping your son. Ive known many a child, over 9 yrs old in the education system, that have had their symptoms missed. So give yourself a pat on the back for spotting it in first place. As parents, when we know better, we do better

Cheers
Turk

 

[Warwick C]

Hi Kori and welcome, I am sure you will get a lot of help and support here.

 

[Salmongirl17]

Welcome!!