I am "friends" with this couple. I met the man through a video game group we are both in, and later on, his girl friend came to live with him, about 1.5 months later on. She was at school in Chicago and I believe has family there and in China. They are both very flaky people. Everything they flaked on, whether it was asking me at the last minute and not committing until the last minute, it was with stuff that was not a big deal.
However, yesterday they told me they would help me at the last minute with sorting CDs, (about 300) even asked me to stay overnight at their place, and then that we would eat breakfast and head out afterward. I politely declined and headed back. Later on, I got up at 10 AM and started sorting on my own. I get a call at 1 PM telling me that they just got up and that they would be there at 4 PM. I said okay. At 2 PM, I get a call cancelling the meetup because they want to spend alone time before the girlfriend goes away.
There was no concern about my time and energy. I won't be initiating with them anymore, and will just say I don't feel like doing stuff if they ask me to do anything. It seems like they could cancel last minute any time or even leave me in the cold. . . I got to be friends with the man because basically I misunderstood his online posts, and then he forgot and assumed I wasn't meeting up since others had cancelled even though I told him beforehand that I will still meetup if he was okay with being the only person available. He not only came late, but he gave me a 6-pack b/c he felt bad about the whole thing. That's how our friendship started.
I don't want to get in the middle of him and his girlfriend. They deserve to spend more time with each other than the other friends. But to commit to something like that at the last minute as a nice favor, and then cancel on me and potentially have held me up had I stayed at their place overnight, they crossed the line. I wasn't expecting much consideration from flaky people (it's okay to be that way if it doesn't affect other people. Generally, it does affect other people though), but "beggars" can't be choosers either. Trust me, I won't be "begging" anymore.
This whole situation confuses me because the man staffs for an anime con that I am very likely to staff next year. If we are both staffing the same con next year, do I request not to room with him? I do feel safe around these people, but I guess I have to just try to not hang out with them and not do non-business things with them anymore. Sometimes, it's hard to separate, especially when the staffing is volunteer based, so it implies a potentially different level of socializing than what might normally not occur in a paid position. It's like I've "half-solved' my own problem, but yes, I'm venting and frustrated. Tired of crappy people and BS. Help!!
However, yesterday they told me they would help me at the last minute with sorting CDs, (about 300) even asked me to stay overnight at their place, and then that we would eat breakfast and head out afterward. I politely declined and headed back. Later on, I got up at 10 AM and started sorting on my own. I get a call at 1 PM telling me that they just got up and that they would be there at 4 PM. I said okay. At 2 PM, I get a call cancelling the meetup because they want to spend alone time before the girlfriend goes away.
There was no concern about my time and energy. I won't be initiating with them anymore, and will just say I don't feel like doing stuff if they ask me to do anything. It seems like they could cancel last minute any time or even leave me in the cold. . . I got to be friends with the man because basically I misunderstood his online posts, and then he forgot and assumed I wasn't meeting up since others had cancelled even though I told him beforehand that I will still meetup if he was okay with being the only person available. He not only came late, but he gave me a 6-pack b/c he felt bad about the whole thing. That's how our friendship started.
I don't want to get in the middle of him and his girlfriend. They deserve to spend more time with each other than the other friends. But to commit to something like that at the last minute as a nice favor, and then cancel on me and potentially have held me up had I stayed at their place overnight, they crossed the line. I wasn't expecting much consideration from flaky people (it's okay to be that way if it doesn't affect other people. Generally, it does affect other people though), but "beggars" can't be choosers either. Trust me, I won't be "begging" anymore.
This whole situation confuses me because the man staffs for an anime con that I am very likely to staff next year. If we are both staffing the same con next year, do I request not to room with him? I do feel safe around these people, but I guess I have to just try to not hang out with them and not do non-business things with them anymore. Sometimes, it's hard to separate, especially when the staffing is volunteer based, so it implies a potentially different level of socializing than what might normally not occur in a paid position. It's like I've "half-solved' my own problem, but yes, I'm venting and frustrated. Tired of crappy people and BS. Help!!
