Being bullied

[Aspergers_Aspie]

I found this article online about autistic people sadly being bullied. For me my bullying and wondering if I could get bullied has made me anxious and to use alcohol to some extent, has anyone else felt similar to me:-
'Disabled young people and those with special educational needs and disabilities (SEND) are significantly more likely to experience bullying - including online bullying - than their peers. Children who have learning disabilities and autism are particularly at risk'.Article online

 

[FayetheAspie]

Yes, to the feeling anxious due to past bullying part. I don't do the drinking though. The alcohol could have additional negative impacts on your mind. I'm not trying to sound judgemental. I'm just concerned for you. I would recommend finding something you enjoy that will be a healthier coping mechanism. Personally, walking around outside or listening to uplifting music when inside helps when I feel anxious.

 

[Aspergers_Aspie]

Yes, to the feeling anxious due to past bullying part. I don't do the drinking though. The alcohol could have additional negative impacts on your mind. I'm not trying to sound judgemental. I'm just concerned for you. I would recommend finding something you enjoy that will be a healthier coping mechanism. Personally, walking around outside or listening to uplifting music when inside helps when I feel anxious.

Thanks

 

[Jumpinbare]

Yeah, the bullying sucked. It's conceivable I could have become an actual social person without it. Hard to say though. Self isolating came pretty natural.

 

[NB79]

I believe lots of autistics could be a lot more social, is not all about the social interaction difficulty, but also that they were bullied into closing themselves.

 

[SusanLR]

I tried some socializing with other kids in grade school and always got made fun of.
Home schooled through high school and being alone became natural. I enjoyed my greenhouse, gardening and animals.

By the time I went to college, it didn't really matter that I had no friends.
The few I would call a friend in my lifetime always drifted away.
Only in the senior years with health problems do I find not having any family or friends is an inconvenience. ADLs, (activities of daily life), get rough with no one
close.

 

[FayetheAspie]

I was a bubbly outgoing child (even if a bit obsessive about my interests such as science and certain books/movies), but between being bullied by other children and trying to please a dad who had started getting panicked and angry if he caught my Mama or me speaking to anyone he didn't know first, I gradually started seeming more introverted. I would have probably considered myself an introvert during most of my teens and twenties; however, I don't believe the introversion was real. I spent hours a day daydreaming up scenarios in my mind where I was interacting with others while I would pace back and forth in the hall. Basically, I became a maladaptive daydreamer to compensate for my lack of socialization. I would stare at the ground , avoid eye contact and give short curt answers if I had to interact during most of my teens and still feel anxious inside afraid that something I had said or done made me seem like a whore. I would brag about not speaking to anyone just to hear my dad praise me only to be in trouble for something else (such as his napkin not being folded perfectly enough) anyway. Ironically, my efforts to please him opened the door for him to later convince people that I was crazy and he would even instigate bullying of me at work.Now I am trying to get back to being my real self and have noticed major improvements, but it is rough. I really should have listened to my Mama when I was growing up and kept being my natural bubbly self, pursued a degree straight out of highschool ect. and just ignored him when he yelled or if he called me bad things. I think I kinda knew Mama loved me either way and wanted both my parents to love me plus I was terrified of him when he would pitch his fits. I should have known that isolating myself and throwing away opportunities would not really make him care about me or be proud of me.

 

[Aspergers_Aspie]

The NHS have never referred me for counselling and have only given me twenty mins a month of mental health nurse appointments! I feel seriously let down by them. I am lucky that as a student I am receiving counselling!

 

[JayD210]

I spent a lifetime being bullied.
I was brutally bullied in School with administrators turning a blind eye.
I was bullied in the neighborhood by kids from down the street.
I was bullied by one of my own older sisters at home too.
I had literally no escape from it growing up.
Add the abuse from my Dad to all that and it was Hell on Earth for me.
My Mom and Oldest Sister among many others constantly found themselves stepping in to put a stop to it. Cops were even called and lawyers were involved at times.
Because of my Dad, I was uprooted at 14 and we went from Texas to California in fear for our lives. Bullying was the worst during my Freshman Year in High School.

My oldest Sister died in 2021. My older Sister who bullied me turned 40 yesterday. She’s an Autism Mom herself now, but the problem is that she uses his Autism as a weapon to get her way, has isolated him from our Family, passed horrible accusations, and has recently attempted manipulation on me to do the bidding for her. I’m not about to put up with that crap. She has completely disregarded the fact that I’m a professional in the Security Field coming up on 21 years of experience. She accuses my Mom, Aunts, Uncles, and Cousins of treating my Better half and myself differently. No they haven’t, she has. If there’s something that my Better Half hasn’t experienced that I have, my relatives have made sure that’s not the case anymore.

As for the others who once bullied me, I’m actually now friends with a large number of them. Some of them are now Autism Dads and I give pointers when asked.