Broken families

[Geordie]

Does anyone here share an experience of broken families?

 

[eon]

yes.

my family has been barely intact. when i was 9 my mother died.
since then i went through 3 different family configurations, because my dad made the mistake of thinking that he had to re-marry to provide a caregiver for the 3 sons. however, in theory that would have worked, except for the part where the giving of care happens.

first one had 2 older step siblings... who were evil.
that didnt last because the wife was actually a con artist, who couldn't con my dad's money since he put it in a separate bank account. the scam was to marry, encourage new house purchase, and then steal the money from the previous house sale equity, and disappear. i've just now been told this the last time my dad came to visit. i never knew she had a specific con. all i knew was my life being destroyed by the 2 step brothers.

so being unable to steal the money, she just skipped to the disappear step. after 3 years of destruction of my life. following what could be considered the most catastrophic loss a child could go through (Short of the loss of both parents at once).

after this, there was 1 year or so of peace. the best year of my life since age 9.

then for some reason my dad thought he would remarry. this time just a genuine lunatic, manipulation expert. i am pretty sure i begged him not to do it. it's tough to remember much detail as my attention was usually devoted to my interests. the insane wife propagated what could be compared to a fascist takeover of my life. every idea or project i wanted to do was utterly sabotaged by her evil agenda.... she turned everyone in my family against each other. 10 years later my dad finally got free of her after she nearly burned his financial stability to the ground with her compulsive spending and hoarding.

 

[Geordie]

yes.

my family has been barely intact. when i was 9 my mother died.
since then i went through 3 different family configurations, because my dad made the mistake of thinking that he had to re-marry to provide a caregiver for the 3 sons. however, in theory that would have worked, except for the part where the giving of care happens.

first one had 2 older step siblings... who were evil.
that didnt last because the wife was actually a con artist, who couldn't con my dad's money since he put it in a separate bank account. the scam was to marry, encourage new house purchase, and then steal the money from the previous house sale equity, and disappear. i've just now been told this the last time my dad came to visit. i never knew she had a specific con. all i knew was my life being destroyed by the 2 step brothers.

so being unable to steal the money, she just skipped to the disappear step. after 3 years of destruction of my life. following what could be considered the most catastrophic loss a child could go through (Short of the loss of both parents at once).

after this, there was 1 year or so of peace. the best year of my life since age 9.

then for some reason my dad thought he would remarry. this time just a genuine lunatic, manipulation expert. i am pretty sure i begged him not to do it. it's tough to remember much detail as my attention was usually devoted to my interests. the insane wife propagated what could be compared to a fascist takeover of my life. every idea or project i wanted to do was utterly sabotaged by her evil agenda.... she turned everyone in my family against each other. 10 years later my dad finally got free of her after she nearly burned his financial stability to the ground with her compulsive spending and hoarding.

I hope eventually, you'll find stability through your independent will to live on strong.

 

[klaatu]

in listening to humans discuss the london riots, it's always mentioned that the looters had hard family lives. little direction. bulls..t.

my father hated me, starting when i was born. i'm sure the only reason he did not kill me was because he liked to torment me. my mother was severely manic-depressive and spent much of her life either in a bed or in hospitals. i stayed with my grandmother who had schizophrenia and tortured me frequently. at least her abuse was due to insanity and not cruelty. worked all the time to survive. rarely went to school even though i was generally the smartest person in class. teachers wouldn't help me because i came from the slums and they were afraid of what might happen.....and of course, i was the weird kid because of a.s. never was a criminal. never a gangster. none of the rioters in london had it as bad as i did as a child. just because you've had a tough life, a horrific life.....that's no reason to riot.

joined the military at 17, just as soon as i graduated from high school. it was wonderful. they gave me a safe place to sleep, provided great food, new clothes, let me be a leader. all the other guys bitched constantly about how terrible it all was. i just laughed.

not that it was easy. i was certainly a duck out of water. found out i had been circumcised while in the showers. how would you know if no one had ever told you?

 

[klaatu]

for some reason, above reply cut off ending. do not know why. sorry.

 

[Geordie]

Sometimes, all we need is strength to overcome our shortcomings, including a broken family

 

[Nolan1971]

Yes my sister ran away at 14 and has not kept much contact over the years the last time we spoke was 8yrs ago.
My father never had anything to do with us and I only reconciled with him shortly before he died in 2006.
I no longer hate him but I was much closer to my friends than he ever was.:unhappy:

 

[Geordie]

When we, people with Asperger's or Autism, are already without social skills to navigate through the storms of life living with other people, the challenges of raising us or being with us may escalate. So there could be a high incidence of divorces or separation, amongst people with Autism, perhaps higher than NTs.

I believe everyone deserves brotherly and sisterly love, regardless of their conditions.

This is why I really think AC is a supportive forum. We may have broken families or less-than-ideal family situations, but here in AC, we are a family, and we support each other

 

[WildCat]

Hehehe, broken AND dysfunctional from the get go for sure.

I've been without my father for years now, my late grandmother was an alcoholic and heavy smoker, much of my family of family has resorted to drugs, and for the those of us with our sanity and rational thinking intact, we're so busy with our jobs and obligations that we barely are able to make time to enjoy the company of each other.