Bullied at every job and false accusations

[Bulliedperson]

I’ve always know there is something different about me and at over 40 I realize I have asd high functioning in a woman.

The issue is I had a false accusation when I was young and I actually had no idea about it till 20 years later. I believe this false accusation has been spread at every job I’ve been at and it’s a severe enough accusation compounded by my social behavior that I’ve been bullied or harassed at every job and even in the dating world and it’s lead me to either quit or be fired. I believe people have even caused car accidents and tried to get me in car accidents with my kids in the car as retaliation. The even crazier thing is I’m such a mild mannered person that the accusation is crazy. I’m actually afraid of legal issues from it and I don’t leave the house now

My question is will this ever stop?

 

[Xinyta]

I’ve always know there is something different about me and at over 40 I realize I have asd high functioning in a woman.

The issue is I had a false accusation when I was young and I actually had no idea about it till 20 years later. I believe this false accusation has been spread at every job I’ve been at and it’s a severe enough accusation compounded by my social behavior that I’ve been bullied or harassed at every job and even in the dating world and it’s lead me to either quit or be fired. I believe people have even caused car accidents and tried to get me in car accidents with my kids in the car as retaliation. The even crazier thing is I’m such a mild mannered person that the accusation is crazy. I’m actually afraid of legal issues from it and I don’t leave the house now

My question is will this ever stop?

Could you be able to please specify what this false accusation is?

It's unfortunate you are the target of such a thing and that a large number of people are using it against you. Is it possible you can talk it out with anyone? Or it that even possible?

 

[Bulliedperson]

A sexual accusation but I hadn’t even kissed or anything at that point. It’s extremely scary living in this country with asd. I believe the police believe I’m guilty too which is why I’ve been pulled over so many times

 

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A lot of us really struggle with workplace relationships. The biggest problem for me was The Hen Pecking Order. I don't play that game and I refuse to try and pacify those who do. I changed jobs a lot.

Thread 'Hierarchal Social Structures'

Jun 19, 2023

This is something I've struggled to put in to words for many years. I still don't think I have it quite right though and would appreciate feedback.

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Hierarchal Social Structures


Most people live with and require a hierarchal structure in their social groups. There will be a leader of the group, second rank, third rank, etc. right down to the lowliest and newest member of the group. Most people seem to be able to navigate these structures of hierarchy with ease and effortlessly place themselves in the correct rank without even realising that they are doing so.

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[Bulliedperson]

Freaking sucks and to be old like you and never known what is wrong with you or given any help is even worse. I’ve never got this competitive bullying crap

 

[Masked Man]

I’ve always know there is something different about me and at over 40 I realize I have asd high functioning in a woman.

The issue is I had a false accusation when I was young and I actually had no idea about it till 20 years later. I believe this false accusation has been spread at every job I’ve been at and it’s a severe enough accusation compounded by my social behavior that I’ve been bullied or harassed at every job and even in the dating world and it’s lead me to either quit or be fired. I believe people have even caused car accidents and tried to get me in car accidents with my kids in the car as retaliation. The even crazier thing is I’m such a mild mannered person that the accusation is crazy. I’m actually afraid of legal issues from it and I don’t leave the house now

My question is will this ever stop?

Please take this in the spirit in which it's intended: You should talk to a counselor or a doctor because it sounds like you may have some paranoia issues. I highly doubt that people are causing car accidents and the police are stopping you because they heard a rumor about you about something that happened two decades ago. Those are irrational thoughts. Strangers don't know and therefore can't care about your personal history. Please, for the sake of your kids, talk to someone.

 

[Xinyta]

A sexual accusation but I hadn’t even kissed or anything at that point. It’s extremely scary living in this country with asd. I believe the police believe I’m guilty too which is why I’ve been pulled over so many times

It sounds like someone either is gossiping and/or framing you for someone else's promiscuity. Both are equally nasty things.

How are you sure the police feel you are guilty? From what I understand. Police are trained to be impartial enforcers of the law.

 

[Crossbreed]

It’s extremely scary living in this country with asd.

Which country is that?

 

[WhitewaterWoman]

I also had totally unfounded sexual rumors about me when I was a young teen. At the time I was horrified and felt shame. But it’s hardly followed me throughout my life.

I am now retired, but I was also a professional woman who found out very late in life that I was high functioning autistic. That information made a lot of things that happened make sense. I was always considered weird. I was bullied. I had a difficult time with employment until I became successfully self-employed.

I would say also that getting some help could be beneficial in sorting things in your life.

 

[velociraptor]

My question is will this ever stop?

Yes, but likely with medical oversight and medication. It sounds like you are suffering from delusional or psychotic thinking, not just autism. This is me speaking as someone who has ASD and also schizophrenia, so I am pretty aware of what it means when you think everyone is out to get you: It's your illness talking. (Psychosis can be caused by things other than SZ so please see a doctor.)

Sorry you're going through this.