Conversation Is A Waste Of Time

[KevinMao133]

Face to face conversation is a waste of time in my opinion

Any conversation is a waste of time in my opinion

I struggle with speaking a lot of the times and I don’t care about issues that’s plaguing most people

Again we don’t need to know about others, how they live, why they live the way they do

I used to care about the world but my family keep telling me to focus on me, me only

So basically they want to become a narcissist, even if they don’t want to admit it

 

[Gerontius]

No.

 

[Matthias]

Conversation may seem like a waste of time if you don't realize you're benefiting from it but the loneliness you'd experience if you didn't talk to anyone for a few months would help you realize it's important.

 

[Raggamuffin]

If conversation was a waste of time - why'd you open this discourse on a forum?

Ed

 

[Progster]

Some conversations are a waste of time.

Small talk is usually a waste of time for me, but some conversations can be informative and interesting, if they are with the right kind of person. I see conversations as an opportunity for information exchange, and if that isn't happening, I quickly switch off. It is possible to learn from conversations.

 

[velociraptor]

Conversations with other alkies at AA meetings has helped keep me sober for over thirty years. That's pretty useful. Conversations with other photographers and foodies may not be useful, but they certainly are agreeable.

 

[Au Naturel]

Conversation is how I find out about the interests of other people. It is knowledge-seeking. In the rare event that the other person is as weird as I am, it can be mutually entertaining.

To the extent other people's actions affect me or my actions affect other people, it is essential that I at least try to talk to the people I meet. If nothing else, I understand who is worth talking to and who is not. How else would I know who is good for advice or who shares a special interest? I might learn about opportunities I wouldn't otherwise. I might learn different perspectives on life. Maybe I'll even find out something important that is going to impact me in the future. If it doesn't go well, I've lost little.

It isn't an attempt to win them over. That is persuasion. It isn't a debate. That is argumentation. I think of it as verbal exploration. Sometimes you're exploring a mineshaft and sometimes it's a mountain meadow in the summer.

 

[Neonatal RRT]

I struggle with speaking a lot of the times and I don’t care about issues that’s plaguing most people

Again we don’t need to know about others, how they live, why they live the way they do

I think this is probably more the heart of the concern you are expressing. I actually think this is a common trait amongst several of us. We have our special interests,...things,most of the time,...and most other people get rather energized talking about their families, themselves, etc....people in their lives,...their experiences. There can be quite a disconnect. Most people that I know, have zero interest in what I am interested in,...nor I, theirs,...so most of the time there is no conversation.

I think I do best when a conversation is about ideas and thoughts,...like yours, for example.

However,...connecting with someone through conversation,...even if you don't care in the least,...but simply asking someone, "How are your kids doing?", "Planning any vacations?", "Do you have any pictures of your last vacation?" Asking another person about their lives may be intellectually "unstimulating", but does open up a dialogue and a bonding experience for them, at least. Those bonding experiences help the other person remember your name, allows them to be more friendly with you,...and a long list of interpersonal "benefits",...because often times "It's not what you know, but rather who you know." and if that means an easier path towards your goals,...then it may be worth it.

 

[Fino]

Conversations can help you grow in knowledge, social skills, empathy, happiness, self-esteem, and can give you ideas in your own life for hobbies, careers, vacation spots, etc. It's an endless plethora of education! Of course, many conversations are entirely pointless but a lot of that is within our power.

 

[Suzanne]

I thrive on conversation - as long as it is one to one, or at least, if there is more, I feel comfortable with them.

I make myself care about others, simply because I hate it when people brush my feelings away.

 

[Jonn]

Face to face conversation is a waste of time in my opinion

The way I see it, if you are a young person, interacting with others is a good way to understand yourself and the world in general better.
I saw it as "data harvesting".

These days, at my age, I advocate for individuals on the spectrum to interact via online forum-like situations. It gives us more time to reflect on what we want to say without the hassle of body-language interpretation and real time misunderstandings that seem to plague those who are on the spectrum.

 

[Slime_Punk]

I used to have similar ideas when I was younger, but more and more in my life, I tend to value other people and the connections we have between them (as well as their opinions, even when they completely oppose mine), because I think it's really important to have other people in our lives. Conversation between two people, no matter how mundane, is just another way to connect to the divine (provided they're not trying to dominate you or get something superficial from you, which is a whole other topic), and maybe in its own way, it's kind of like connecting to god in the process.

Intent matters, but when the intent is good, other humans are really cool. Trying to see life through their point of view can really take you on a unique journey specific to them, even if you'll never fully understand it.

 

[Luca]

I love having conversations, with the right people. In that case I can sometimes keep them going for hours. If I really like and trust a person, I really value socializing with them and I will talk to them all the time.

People don’t generally talk about themselves because they’re “narcissistic.” People are social creatures and like, yes, talking about themselves, but also back-and-forth discussion, learning, bonding, and companionship.

Not a waste of time, in my opinion.

 

[Suzanne]

sometimes keep them going for hours

Me too! Spent 4 hours on the phone talking with a lovely lady yesterday and it was stimulating.

 

[Owliet]

For me, Small talk is often useless but I think that’s because I dont enjoy it. However it is perceived to be a polite and necessary form of conversation (although I perceive it to be filling in the blanks and awkward silences just to have something to talk about. I’ve never come across anyone who genuinely cares about the content of the small talk conversation). I clearly have a biased opinion about it because I don’t enjoy this type of conversation.And I used to be like this a lot when I was younger and still find certain conversation types to be frustrating in Various forms but appreciate that they are necessary And important.

For example. I don’t really mind having conversations online because it’s typing and I can take time in what im thinking and transferring to vocal. In contrast, i find it difficult to keep track of several Conversations in real time at once and have to really concentrate to pinpoint on what’s being said that I often miss out on other information or talking when it’s my turn (if asked a question).. Overall, conversations can be important, beneficial and stimulating if you have them with the right people for you.

It's not what you know, but rather who you know."

Yes, this is very important. Even though I think that small talk conversation is pointless, it’s not really pointless because it’s a form of social networking and if people like you they’ll pass on that to the next.

*i used to see social networking as completely pointless but I see it differently now. It’s a necessary evil. I don’t have to like doing it but I do have to do it.

 

[Judge]

Best to look at the big picture- communication in general.

That in our case while it can be a challenge, it's not productive to look at it as some kind of curse.

 

[velociraptor]

it’s not really pointless because it’s a form of social networking and if people like you they’ll pass on that to the next

It's also important to build up social capital that you can borrow against when you hit a rough patch. It's how I found my current job I've been at for nearly six years - through professional contacts who thought well of me.