ChrisC1983
Well-Known Member
so, pretty much all day long i have conversations with myself (silently).... often, they keep me awake. today i happened to fall asleep very early because i was exhausted, so now i'm stuck awake since night time allows no distractions for my mind
anyway.. here's tonights topic........ it's not about anybody specific and i mean no insult by it. i've come to learn my morality standards are more unique than i originally believed
so.. on the topic of multiple sexual partners (marriage or otherwise)... people often say things like"but the experience they bring to the relationship is a good thing" and i can understand that thought
if i go to a restaurant (stay with me) and i order a food i don't generally eat and can't cook on my own.. lets say a fancy omelet... i expect them to know how to do it right. but on the same hand, if i don't like that omelet.. i'm not living with it as a once per week meal and even if i do like it, i never would have had it before going to the restaurant so not having it at all would not have bothered me
lets say you marry somebody, and they make 20 different omelets... all fantastic omelets. everybody who had them has loved them. but you don't like omelets..... so it's no benefit to you and the skill and knowledge is just wasted time for them. eventually potentially even turning into it's own regret or disappointment because you have no interest in this thing they spent years becoming good at . if i spent years becoming good at something.. anything.. and my partner had no interest in it, it could even become a deal breaker or atleast a cause (underlying or otherwise) of future arguments.... for example.. "oh you want breakfast? well i'd make an omelet but you hate them! go make your own damn breakfast!" (to keep it on the topic of omelets lol)
but lets say they don't even like omelets... but everybody else they've been with has. so again, not only is it a wasted skill and time but now they may wish they never even bothered learning how to make them since neither you nor they like them.
or maybe you do like omelets... but eventhough they know how to make 20 great ones, you don't like any of them. we all have our own preferences...... and i think we can all relate to having issues with food, taste, texture ect here. maybe that ham and cheese omelet uses too big pieces of ham, or slices instead of cubes, or swiss cheese instead of cheddar.. or it's cooked too much.. or there's too little ham and not enough cheese... who knows. but i would know the type of omelet i like...... and even if i don't, they don't know the type of omelet i like either. so if we both figure out what type i like, it just adds one more little special thing we share together
"hey remember when you kept trying to make an omelet and you didn't like it? then i tried and it was better but it just wasn't right..... and 1 day we both said 'lets put onions in it!' and like magic it was perfect?"... now you have a happy and fond memory to look back on as opposed to "well, mike liked his with garlic, but you're allergic... and steve liked provolone cheese but you didn't... tom had OCD and insisted i cut each ham cube into no bigger than 1/4" sizes but you already know you like slices of ham so that was no help...."
i use food because it's a more easily relative example (and honestly because i eat like crap and wish i could have healthy food) and it's something we're all picky about in our own way but also something we tend to figure out on our own if we like it or not. i generally know if i like something or can do something just by thinking about what it entails. again, to use food as an example.. i generally hate fruit/vegtables. but if it's mixed in some way so there's roughly 80% of stuff i do like and 20% of stuff i never tried or do not like by itself.. i'll probably eat it and it will probably be OK. so i may not like carrots alone, or carrots with potatoes and steak (or some kind of meat)... but if you put carrots in a beef stew with other seasonings and such.. i have no problem. granted i know they're not AS healthy because they've been boiled, but it's better than not eating them at all. especially since i'm still eating the broth.
you can ignore that whole topic if you want.. and just pay attention to how long winded it was and overly detailed yet obscure.......... and that is some of what runs through my head 24/7
ontop of music.... almost always playing music in my head too lol
anyway.. here's tonights topic........ it's not about anybody specific and i mean no insult by it. i've come to learn my morality standards are more unique than i originally believed
so.. on the topic of multiple sexual partners (marriage or otherwise)... people often say things like"but the experience they bring to the relationship is a good thing" and i can understand that thought
if i go to a restaurant (stay with me) and i order a food i don't generally eat and can't cook on my own.. lets say a fancy omelet... i expect them to know how to do it right. but on the same hand, if i don't like that omelet.. i'm not living with it as a once per week meal and even if i do like it, i never would have had it before going to the restaurant so not having it at all would not have bothered me
lets say you marry somebody, and they make 20 different omelets... all fantastic omelets. everybody who had them has loved them. but you don't like omelets..... so it's no benefit to you and the skill and knowledge is just wasted time for them. eventually potentially even turning into it's own regret or disappointment because you have no interest in this thing they spent years becoming good at . if i spent years becoming good at something.. anything.. and my partner had no interest in it, it could even become a deal breaker or atleast a cause (underlying or otherwise) of future arguments.... for example.. "oh you want breakfast? well i'd make an omelet but you hate them! go make your own damn breakfast!" (to keep it on the topic of omelets lol)
but lets say they don't even like omelets... but everybody else they've been with has. so again, not only is it a wasted skill and time but now they may wish they never even bothered learning how to make them since neither you nor they like them.
or maybe you do like omelets... but eventhough they know how to make 20 great ones, you don't like any of them. we all have our own preferences...... and i think we can all relate to having issues with food, taste, texture ect here. maybe that ham and cheese omelet uses too big pieces of ham, or slices instead of cubes, or swiss cheese instead of cheddar.. or it's cooked too much.. or there's too little ham and not enough cheese... who knows. but i would know the type of omelet i like...... and even if i don't, they don't know the type of omelet i like either. so if we both figure out what type i like, it just adds one more little special thing we share together
"hey remember when you kept trying to make an omelet and you didn't like it? then i tried and it was better but it just wasn't right..... and 1 day we both said 'lets put onions in it!' and like magic it was perfect?"... now you have a happy and fond memory to look back on as opposed to "well, mike liked his with garlic, but you're allergic... and steve liked provolone cheese but you didn't... tom had OCD and insisted i cut each ham cube into no bigger than 1/4" sizes but you already know you like slices of ham so that was no help...."
i use food because it's a more easily relative example (and honestly because i eat like crap and wish i could have healthy food) and it's something we're all picky about in our own way but also something we tend to figure out on our own if we like it or not. i generally know if i like something or can do something just by thinking about what it entails. again, to use food as an example.. i generally hate fruit/vegtables. but if it's mixed in some way so there's roughly 80% of stuff i do like and 20% of stuff i never tried or do not like by itself.. i'll probably eat it and it will probably be OK. so i may not like carrots alone, or carrots with potatoes and steak (or some kind of meat)... but if you put carrots in a beef stew with other seasonings and such.. i have no problem. granted i know they're not AS healthy because they've been boiled, but it's better than not eating them at all. especially since i'm still eating the broth.
you can ignore that whole topic if you want.. and just pay attention to how long winded it was and overly detailed yet obscure.......... and that is some of what runs through my head 24/7
ontop of music.... almost always playing music in my head too lol
