Conversations

[Calcifer]

How are you during conversations?

Are you usually the one that's doing all the talking, or are you the one that's usually quiet in the group?
Do you have trouble starting and/or ending them?
What are your thoughts on AS/AS conversations and AS/NT conversations?

For example, I'm poop during conversations. :wtf:
I can't start them, I don't know how to end them, and I have absolutely no idea what to say. Expecially with people who aren't in the immediate family. I'm so awkward at it. I'd just rather not. :nah:

Thoughts?

 

[xxjoleenxx]

I am usually the quiet one in the group, especially if I don't know one or more of the people. If I am approached first with conversation, I will reply. I am not one to approach someone first. I tend to find it easier to have a conversation with another AS, or someone that may be NT and shares one of my interests I know a lot about. it also helps that I work in health care, it pretty much forces me to have to communicate with patients. I find that sometimes it is easier to be relaxed around these people because they are either bed ridden or depend on me to help them with their daily activities. There is also a great deal of time, I spend with non verbal communication at work as well, I zone out and focus on completing a task and it just works. A few people have noticed and commented I am extremely quiet and often in my own world.

I will always remain quiet around someone I don't feel comfortable around when it comes to socializing. If I feel comfortable, I may warm up and just talk and talk away. The few friends I have, do not mind that I blurt out random thoughts, or talk about the weirdest things, or speak exactly whats on my mind. Oddly enough I get asked for a ton of advice which, I do not mind giving my perspective, but sometimes it gets difficult trying to empathize.

I would suggest trying to put yourself around people that you would feel most comfortable or do things that require some form of communication. I am adequate when socializing.It's always difficult. I just talk about random things and if it isn't working I usually get quiet or change the subject.

Hope it helped a little.:coolM:

 

[Droopy]

I'm not great with conversations but I am much better now than what I used to be years ago. I still tend to be the quiet one within the group but I do try to talk and make conversation. I find it helps if the conversation topic is something that I am interested in like computers or gaming.

 

[Spinning Compass]

I am actually becoming less and less skilled at conversation as I am getting older. Many times I just don't say anything unless required to. If I am in a group, I've noticed that people pretty much ignore me, they talk to each other but they don't start conversations with me and if I start conversations I am soon interrupted. This is pretty much across the board. I feel like in some ways I am losing speech.

 

[epheph]

I could talk forever about the things that I'm interested in, but I dread small talk. When I talk to myself, I am very eloquent, but as soon as I have to talk to somebody else, I become anxious about trying to make the right amount of eye contact (which I still have not figured out how to do), make facial expressions, watch my body language, and try to invent the sorts of banal phrases that people always seem to throw around in conversation. The one conversation that could be considered anywhere close to a success that I've had in the past few years was in the dark, so I did not have to worry about facial expressions and everything.

 

[Sylar]

While I would always be the quiet one, I have severe anxiety when it comes to talking to people, I would have to say I'd be more likely to join in if the discussion was about my interest, I have no understanding or interest in small talk. Even if somebody does the work or even starts talking about an interest most of the time I still go blank and just don't know how to continue the conversation.

But in college, while still very awkward, I did find it easier to talk to one person I did hang out with, a few years later I found out he also had Asperger's.

 

[Drake Marino]

I'm usually the quiet one in the group, but my conversation skills are getting better as time goes on. I can't stand it when people tell me I'm quiet, so often when I'm in a group of friends I'll try super hard to be bubbly, boisterous, and gregarious, and sometimes I probably push it to the point where I'm coming off as obnoxious. When it's just me and one other person I don't find it terribly difficult to hold a conversation, but when I'm in a big group of people that I don't know, then it becomes very difficult for me to put myself in the conversation, and I am the quiet one. My social skills are really inconsistent, sometimes I'm super outgoing and I'm not scared to approach new people and I'm able to have fluent conversation without being awkward, other times I'm too scared to say anything or approach anyone, or I simply can't think of things to say.

 

[Explosition_Rooster]

Conversations aren't really my thing and since I'm not really in a position to engage in them enough to improve my skill, I don't see it improving anytime soon. But when I do, I'm quite and observant on everything. Getting involved really isn't my thing.

 

[manca]

I don't know what to say. How to keep conversation going on. For example, I just joined a site to learn turkish. I got a message from someone that I guess wants to chat and it only says hi, how are you, I'm _______ from _______. What I think it would make sense to say back is I'm fine. But it seems that won't work if I want to talk to the person some more. So I'll go with I'm fine thanks, you? I'm Manca from Slovenia. And then I think I should add another question, but I have no idea what. What do you talk about with total stranger? What should I ask?

It seems to me that I mostly just answer people's questions and I don't ask anything, since I'm not really interested.

 

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