Cry when overwhelmed

[Suzanne]

Have not felt overwhelmed for some years ( probably due to one: receiving my diagnosis of ASD and two, the covid situation). However, spent nearly the whole day out yesterday associating with others and Saturday, is another day of all day activity and my husband has been offered a paid holiday. So we are going away for 3 nights and I do not have to cook at all. However, I am feeling HIGHLY STRESSED! And it is manifestering into tears of panic. I want to be left alone in my routine, but being forced to escape it and feel frustrated that what is being asked of me, I am unable to achieve.

Not only that, but Saturday, I have to entertain 7 or potentially 9 people! And hospitality is not my strong suit.

This is the issue when the disability is hidden. I look "normal" and someone said yesterday that if I had not said I have Asperger's syndrome, they would never have guessed!

 

[Aspychata]

I have worked thru many intense situations in my life just crying. It's my personal meltdown style. I usually sit down in a shower mode, and cry out all those intense feelings. And l feel like l worked thru very intense emotions in my way. Everybody needs to find their way of working thru, regurgitating these hard emotions and letting go. My way is showers, and just being in the moment. Thanks for this post. Hey, Suzanne, l hope you get thru this.

 

[Suzanne]

I have worked thru many intense situations in my life just crying. It's my personal meltdown style. I usually sit down in a shower mode, and cry out all those intense feelings. And l feel like l worked thru very intense emotions in my way. Everybody needs to find their way of working thru, regurgitating these hard emotions and letting go. My way is showers, and just being in the moment. Thanks for this post. Hey, Suzanne, l hope you get thru this.

I feel a little better from sobbing and a firm decision to not participate in some activities.

I always need a mental plan and when it is hazy, I panic.

 

[Mary Terry]

Pack your suitcase early for the trip and try to enjoy it. I assume you'll stay in a hotel so there would be little need to talk to anyone other than your husband.

To entertain people: put out some good food and some things to drink, napkins and utensils if needed. Add some flowers or a houseplant as a table centerpiece. Let guests serve themselves.

As hostess, you can disappear into the kitchen and hide out for a while without having to explain what you're doing.

You can do it, Suzanne!

 

[NDR2]

I’m sure crying would help me. But it’s very hard for me to cry.

 

[AngelaS267]

I am a crier. If I'm overwhelmed, feel like I'm not measuring up socially to a catastrophic degree or the likes, I will cry like a baby. I think the saving grace is my self talk after and making sure I think productively after. Like it wasn't that bad, and I am okay, and just more positive thoughts. It's okay to cry.

 

[Midnights11]

I cry sometimes, but I also binge eat. It’s not healthy but it’s a stress reliever for me in the moment

 

[Neri]

I cry most days. It is a release valve for me. Small cries are good, I prefer them to stuffing down the stress for a major melt down or shut down later, but big cries leave me feeling washed out and and kind of hung over, often into the next day or longer and it's quite unpleasant. But, it is what it is.

I cry over happy things, people being kind can have me really undone and I cry over any and every conflict I ever have, really. I cry from movies, books, other peoples suffering, disasters, people being cruel to others, just all sorts of stuff and it can send me non verbal, so I've recently learned to give myself time out and also to reframe the shame of crying.

Being female, I think, makes that easier and I think, is a female privilege kind of thing.

I feel for you with the entertaining stress @Suzanne, I know it well. I hope it all goes better than expected and that you get some support and plenty of gratitude for your efforts.