Brittany Young
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hello.
just thought i would share my story on a guy i met on tinder that i dated for 2 1/2 weeks that has 3 mental health illness. when we first started talking he told me that he suffered from social anxiety. which i was completely ok with seeing as that it’s very common and most people have it. when we first met up we went and got food ( i paid for myself) and went back to his place to eat and watch movies. we cuddled and talked. than i left. we texted almost everyday. which was good. and at one point he sent me a good morning text. the second time we hung out he came over to my house and he met my cousin and my sister. which was good as well since he told me that we were dating. which i thought was kinda fast. he than told me that he showed my pictures to his friends and his family. which i thought was kinda weird but i guess if we were dating than it was ok. he later texted me that night and asked did he make a good impression. i told him he did and my family liked him. he than bought up the subject of sex. and said since we are dating we should make each other feel good. and than he apologized and said sorry if my labedio is showing. i told him i would have sex when I’m in a relationship. but than later on we decided on christmas eve. just last week i started to get overwhelmed with everything. finals, school, work, everyday life, and than he’s telling me he has other mental illnesses. so than i decided it was best if we just stayed friends and not date. he than went on about how i was suppose to take him out for is birthday dinner and make him homemade tiramisu which was his favorite dessert. which made me feel really bad. so i said well i guess we can give it a try. but we should take it slow. just this tuesday i went over to his house and on my way i texted him and told him how far i was. he never answered back. so than i texted him and said hey I’m like down the street. still no answer. so than i texted him and asked was he up? and than he said yes. so i told him i needed for him to start answering my texts. i came over and hung out with him and than we just talked and chilled. i laid on his bed and than he came over and started to cuddle me. i felt him so i said wow your really excited he said oh yeah I’m sorry but can i get a little more excited and i said uh ok? so than we started making out and than we ended up having sex. afterwards we went to get lunch( which i paid for) and than i dropped him off. after that i asked him was it ok if i spent the night? and he said sure but he’ll let me know what was up. so than he texted me later and told me that he was gonna cancel on me because his friend, she had wanted to go for drinks. i got upset and said that all i got out of it was that he is canceling on me for another girl. ask he canceled with her and than told me to come over. everything was great. wednesday came and i wanted to see him again. so i asked him what was he up to and he said he was in chicago helping a friend. so i asked was it the girl that you mentioned and he said yes. so i got mad and said you totally went against what i said. and he said stop if i wasn’t gonna be like that than we could end it now. i said than you go date her. he kept telling me that her mom was sick and that she was going through a lot of things and i told him that my grandma had a stroke and she’s in the hospital and she isn’t doing good. like she’s not the only person with problems. than he said that she had a boyfriend and he lives in wisconsin. but why wasn’t her boyfriend here with her? noone ever told me that. so than he stopped messaging me and than i called him and wouldn’t take my calls. so my sister messaged him and he said that we broke up because i crossed some lines. he never said what lines i crossed. and he never told me that we broke up. so than i went to sleep. yesterday i got up and i called him. and answer. so than i texted him and said that i was coming by after class. he said he wasn’t gonna be there. i said well im still gonna come over this is silly. he said that he was gonna have someone remove me from the premises if i came. i said can you just talk to me? he said no my decision is final. i said please this is ridiculous. your blowing up over nothing. he said that he had to watch his friends dead mother be carried out the hospital room. and that he was up all night with her. i said well im sorry but you didn’t tell me that. i tried calling and texting but you didn’t answer. he said i assaulted him with calls and texts. i asked if i could talk to his friend but than he told me that she would tear me to shreds. that she wasn’t happy about last night. so than i decided to go to his house. i pondered for a minute. i couldn’t suck up enough courage to go to his door. his car was there but i couldn’t do it. so i parked somewhere and texted him that i wasn’t outside his house. he never responded. than i called him my number was blocked. i said oh wow this is ridiculous. and that’s not right. i than turned the car around and pulled up to his house, got out and than knocked on his door. i could hear him yell so he came and answered and than he said leave go away i don’t wanna talk. i said why? this is crazy. he said go away leave . i said please come ouside and talk to me. i said you have to understand that your friends problems are not yours. and than he opened the door more and i see her in the bed and she flicks me off. i said you have this girl in your bed?! he said i slept on the couch and gave her my bed. seen didn’t sleep together she has a boyfriend. i said are you serious? so my thought was he had sex with me and now he’s with this girl. so upon arguing i get super upset and i walk away and than i picked up a rock and threw it at his car. it didn’t do any damage. so i drive off. than later i get a call from the cops saying he just wants to hear my side of the story. and i told him. he said that he wasn’t pressing any charges against me. ask i said ok cool. so my friend was texting him and he was telling her that he didn’t want any contact. and that hes sorry we broke up but it was for the best. he never told us why she was at his house in the suburbs but her mom was in the hospital in chicago. he said she was there for 6 days and he brought her back to his house so she can have a good nights rest. she didn’t have no car. but how did she get to Chicago? and was he seriously the only friend she had? it was so many unanswered questions. he wasn’t sympathetic to my feelings about my grandma. but he ran to her. i feel used and taken advantage of. do you think he will try to reaching out later on? or is he done? was i wrong in this situation?
just thought i would share my story on a guy i met on tinder that i dated for 2 1/2 weeks that has 3 mental health illness. when we first started talking he told me that he suffered from social anxiety. which i was completely ok with seeing as that it’s very common and most people have it. when we first met up we went and got food ( i paid for myself) and went back to his place to eat and watch movies. we cuddled and talked. than i left. we texted almost everyday. which was good. and at one point he sent me a good morning text. the second time we hung out he came over to my house and he met my cousin and my sister. which was good as well since he told me that we were dating. which i thought was kinda fast. he than told me that he showed my pictures to his friends and his family. which i thought was kinda weird but i guess if we were dating than it was ok. he later texted me that night and asked did he make a good impression. i told him he did and my family liked him. he than bought up the subject of sex. and said since we are dating we should make each other feel good. and than he apologized and said sorry if my labedio is showing. i told him i would have sex when I’m in a relationship. but than later on we decided on christmas eve. just last week i started to get overwhelmed with everything. finals, school, work, everyday life, and than he’s telling me he has other mental illnesses. so than i decided it was best if we just stayed friends and not date. he than went on about how i was suppose to take him out for is birthday dinner and make him homemade tiramisu which was his favorite dessert. which made me feel really bad. so i said well i guess we can give it a try. but we should take it slow. just this tuesday i went over to his house and on my way i texted him and told him how far i was. he never answered back. so than i texted him and said hey I’m like down the street. still no answer. so than i texted him and asked was he up? and than he said yes. so i told him i needed for him to start answering my texts. i came over and hung out with him and than we just talked and chilled. i laid on his bed and than he came over and started to cuddle me. i felt him so i said wow your really excited he said oh yeah I’m sorry but can i get a little more excited and i said uh ok? so than we started making out and than we ended up having sex. afterwards we went to get lunch( which i paid for) and than i dropped him off. after that i asked him was it ok if i spent the night? and he said sure but he’ll let me know what was up. so than he texted me later and told me that he was gonna cancel on me because his friend, she had wanted to go for drinks. i got upset and said that all i got out of it was that he is canceling on me for another girl. ask he canceled with her and than told me to come over. everything was great. wednesday came and i wanted to see him again. so i asked him what was he up to and he said he was in chicago helping a friend. so i asked was it the girl that you mentioned and he said yes. so i got mad and said you totally went against what i said. and he said stop if i wasn’t gonna be like that than we could end it now. i said than you go date her. he kept telling me that her mom was sick and that she was going through a lot of things and i told him that my grandma had a stroke and she’s in the hospital and she isn’t doing good. like she’s not the only person with problems. than he said that she had a boyfriend and he lives in wisconsin. but why wasn’t her boyfriend here with her? noone ever told me that. so than he stopped messaging me and than i called him and wouldn’t take my calls. so my sister messaged him and he said that we broke up because i crossed some lines. he never said what lines i crossed. and he never told me that we broke up. so than i went to sleep. yesterday i got up and i called him. and answer. so than i texted him and said that i was coming by after class. he said he wasn’t gonna be there. i said well im still gonna come over this is silly. he said that he was gonna have someone remove me from the premises if i came. i said can you just talk to me? he said no my decision is final. i said please this is ridiculous. your blowing up over nothing. he said that he had to watch his friends dead mother be carried out the hospital room. and that he was up all night with her. i said well im sorry but you didn’t tell me that. i tried calling and texting but you didn’t answer. he said i assaulted him with calls and texts. i asked if i could talk to his friend but than he told me that she would tear me to shreds. that she wasn’t happy about last night. so than i decided to go to his house. i pondered for a minute. i couldn’t suck up enough courage to go to his door. his car was there but i couldn’t do it. so i parked somewhere and texted him that i wasn’t outside his house. he never responded. than i called him my number was blocked. i said oh wow this is ridiculous. and that’s not right. i than turned the car around and pulled up to his house, got out and than knocked on his door. i could hear him yell so he came and answered and than he said leave go away i don’t wanna talk. i said why? this is crazy. he said go away leave . i said please come ouside and talk to me. i said you have to understand that your friends problems are not yours. and than he opened the door more and i see her in the bed and she flicks me off. i said you have this girl in your bed?! he said i slept on the couch and gave her my bed. seen didn’t sleep together she has a boyfriend. i said are you serious? so my thought was he had sex with me and now he’s with this girl. so upon arguing i get super upset and i walk away and than i picked up a rock and threw it at his car. it didn’t do any damage. so i drive off. than later i get a call from the cops saying he just wants to hear my side of the story. and i told him. he said that he wasn’t pressing any charges against me. ask i said ok cool. so my friend was texting him and he was telling her that he didn’t want any contact. and that hes sorry we broke up but it was for the best. he never told us why she was at his house in the suburbs but her mom was in the hospital in chicago. he said she was there for 6 days and he brought her back to his house so she can have a good nights rest. she didn’t have no car. but how did she get to Chicago? and was he seriously the only friend she had? it was so many unanswered questions. he wasn’t sympathetic to my feelings about my grandma. but he ran to her. i feel used and taken advantage of. do you think he will try to reaching out later on? or is he done? was i wrong in this situation?
Don't get me wrong the guy's a dick for his behaviour but at the same time OPs behaviour is very "bunny boiler" and if she had said/done all that in that very short space of time I'm not surprised he would've lost interest
