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Oz67

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I wish I was good at math and had normal friends from the beginning, I just feel so stupid due to severe features of Dyscalcilia, being eccentric, odd and having communication delay.

I have vivid memories of being made fun of by others in elementary school for being different. I was called "Stupid" , "Loser" and "Idiot" and I get very irritable when people use the word "Retard" or "Retarded". It hurts!
 
Oz67 said:
I wish I was good at math and had normal friends from the beginning, I just feel so stupid due to severe features of Dyscalcilia, being eccentric, odd and having communication delay.

I have vivid memories of being made fun of by others in elementary school for being different. I was called "Stupid" , "Loser" and "Idiot" and I get very irritable when people use the word "Retard" or "Retarded". It hurts!
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You are not that and perfect and beautiful the way you are. ❤
 
Sorry to hear this. I felt oddly out of place in elementary school. But l was in a very small town and l was hanging out with a girl that looked to tall to be in this grade, so we were buddies. Then l was at another school and a friend there, that we talked so much, that the teacher sent us to the back of the school as punishment. Of course we just talked our brains out. Schools back then were so relaxed. Now cops go to the school because a 14 year-old has a gun in his backpack. Maybe try looking for the other kid that seems uncomfortable, sometimes they will turn out to be great buddies. Find a teacher to chat with. Some teachers genuinely want to chat and say hello. Just walk up and say, that you like this chapter you are reading or something about school. Like you like the new exhibit or you might enter the college prep session.
 
Oz67 said:
I just feel so stupid due to severe features of Dyscalcilia
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Hello, fellow Dyscalcilia sufferer.

I too have memories of the effects of Dyscalcilia. Being put on the spot in front of the class, multiple times at primary school and high school. Being sat down and forced into learning things I just couldn't understand, being shouted at by teachers and parents, then accused of not trying hard enough. Plenty of talk of Dyslexia, but not much in the way of love for us Dyscalcilia folks.
 
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Hello, fellow Dyscalcilia sufferer.

I too have memories of the effects of Dyscalcilia. Being put on the spot in front of the class, multiple times at primary school and high school. Being sat down and forced into learning things I just couldn't understand, being shouted at by teachers and parents, then accused of not trying hard enough. Plenty of talk of Dyslexia, but not much in the way of love for us Dyscalcilia folks.
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My family are good. Peers were not so nice to me in the past, and a teacher at that time said that I deserved it, because I am different.
 
Oz67 said:
I wish I was good at math and had normal friends from the beginning, I just feel so stupid due to severe features of Dyscalcilia, being eccentric, odd and having communication delay.

I have vivid memories of being made fun of by others in elementary school for being different. I was called "Stupid" , "Loser" and "Idiot" and I get very irritable when people use the word "Retard" or "Retarded". It hurts!
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I really hear you on all that!

I'm now 71 years old and have lived with that for much of my life, but it has gotten better. I got bullied all through school, being called weird, dull, stupid, idiot, etc. However, the bullies were not other students, they were the teachers, counselors and even the school principal. I was actually diagnosed as retarded.

Eventually, knowing that I am indeed weird and eccentric, odd, etc. I finally decided that, OK, yes, that is me. So, I decided to own those titles and I became proud of it. After that, every time anyone called me weird I would smile and say, "thank you", taking it as a compliment. Surprisingly, that reduced the bullying.

I never new about dyscalculia until I just looked it up, and yea, I have that. I am worse than terrible with math. Realizing that in my early high school years was heartbreaking because I had my heart set on becoming an electronics design engineer. That dream was dashed as I knew that math was paramount for any type of engineering, much less electronics.

As it turned out however, in 2016 I retired from a long prosperous career as an electronics design engineer, math-dumb and all. Yes, math is a hard requirement and was a killer for me, but not for my handy calculator!

I absolutely agree with Florence Zimmerman in the movie, "The House With a Clock in it's Walls" when she exclaimed that there was nothing wrong with being weird! She was proud to be weird, and so am I.
(I love that movie, by the way. A great feel-good movie.)
 
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Great back story @Ken , there are success stories at this forum. Sometimes our initial struggles are what propel us to become successful. Otherwise we are just on that endless treadmill of mediocrity not really stepping up and out of our very small comfort zone. Sometimes being on the spectrum, l feel like l have to try 3 times harder then everybody else.
 
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