Do group homes expect you to fit in?

[SchrodingersMeerkat]

I was talking to a friend of mine about group homes and he said from what they know about me, it probably would not go over very well because I wouldn't be able to integrate and fit in with the other people. This person is from a European country and spent some time in a group home like place as a child. They say they really like it and wish they could go back if they could. But then they are from a European country that seems to have their act together and know what they are doing. I could never say the US knows what they are doing. Anyhow, do people who run group homes expect people to fit in? I was kind of thinking they didn't, but then I'm just thinking of US ones.

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[The Penguin]

I never been in a group home but been into many foster homes which is some what similar.

Anyhow, I don't think they expect people to fit in.

 

[Judge]

"Fitting in" ?

Sounds like a question relative to Neurotypical people going into a group home, whatever the theme might be.

However for people on the spectrum, I'd think such a goal would be somewhere between an abstraction and a non-sequitur. Not making much sense for autistic people. That more likely those running such a group home would strive for compliance and tolerance.

Then again when the likelihood of those in charge running such group homes are Neurotypical, who knows?

 

[SchrodingersMeerkat]

"Fitting in" ?

Sounds like a question relative to Neurotypical people going into a group home, whatever the theme might be.

However for people on the spectrum, I'd think such a goal would be somewhere between an abstraction and a non-sequitur. Not making much sense for autistic people. That more likely those running such a group home would strive for compliance and tolerance.

Then again when the likelihood of those in charge running such group homes are Neurotypical, who knows?

My mom was in a nursing home after knee surgery for a month and people weren't allowed to stay in their rooms because they were expected to "socialize". I've heard all kinds of horrible stories about that particular nursing home before.

 

[Judge]

My mom was in a nursing home after knee surgery for a month and people weren't allowed to stay in their rooms because they were expected to "socialize". I've heard all kinds of horrible stories about that particular nursing home before.

My grandfather as well. But then he was NT and the nursing home in question had no provisions regarding Neurodiverse residents.

 

[toothless]

I was talking to a friend of mine about group homes and he said from what they know about me, it probably would not go over very well because I wouldn't be able to integrate and fit in with the other people. This person is from a European country and spent some time in a group home like place as a child. They say they really like it and wish they could go back if they could. But then they are from a European country that seems to have their act together and know what they are doing. I could never say the US knows what they are doing. Anyhow, do people who run group homes expect people to fit in? I was kind of thinking they didn't, but then I'm just thinking of US ones.

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ive spent my older teenager years onwards locked up in intellectual disability institutions and care homes and every one of them apart from the institutions made sure i was compatible with the other service users before bringing me in,i also had visits at them for a while,i was moved around every year though as they said i was a burden on everyone else and the staff with my severe challenging behaviors and i needed a more secure environment.

however,i will never,ever recommend a care home for autistic people no matter where you are on the spectrum,always aim for your own apartment in a supported living facility OR private sector with as much support as granted to you,in care homes for autism you will see and experience noise and challenging behavior and possibly be a target of this yourself,you get choices taken away from you such as what food you want to eat or when you want to do an activity/go out.
i am LFA and with fulltime constant day and night support i now have my own ground floor apartment with patio doors and entrance into the garden,in a supported living facility so all of us are disabled here in different ways,i would NEVER go back to carehomes,and i will NOT be put in one when im old and derranged.

 

[SchrodingersMeerkat]

My grandfather as well. But then he was NT and the nursing home in question had no provisions regarding Neurodiverse residents.

I highly, highly doubt my mom is NT.

 

[Judge]

I highly, highly doubt my mom is NT.

My point is that some- maybe many "nursing homes" may not cater to neurodiverse residents at all. Where everyone is treated as if they were NT, whether or not it's true. Of course when my grandfather was in a nursing home, it was before Aspergers was even recognized professionally speaking.