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Do you consider people you speak to online as being friends?

I absolutely do. My best friends are online friends. I've met some in person after a few years, but my very best friend lives in England and it's just too far away for now. :( I talk to these people for hours on end day after day, and I can't know them as well as someone I eat lunch with once a week? Nonsense. :) I've never understood why people feel that way about online friends. They're still people even if you can't see their faces, you know.
 
It depends. I don't consider someone a friend just after speaking to them once and then I never do again. I also don't consider someone a friend after having a PM chat and then we never again.
 
Yeah but only after a good while.
I wouldn't refer them as a friend to someone I know IRL.
I'm meeting up with GetM on the Easter holidays 'cause I've known him for a while online but we fell out and didn't talk for around 6 months and now we're friends and only been friends for around a month but meeting up (Y).
If it ****s up it ****s up but yeah (Y).
EMZ=]
 
it depends. If they live in another country or something and I know them for ages then possibly. But if they live in my city and never want to meet up after knowing them for 2 years then they are not friends just someone who gonna upset me in the end. I dont realy have anyone who would be considered a friend to be honest.
 
Depends. When I was younger I might have considered them friends... but now I'm under no illusion, sure I have online friends and such, but the best friendships are re-enforced by real-life experiences, despite them being my weak point. :P

Ah well, I only have a minority of friends in real life anyway.

That's another thing... when I was 7-13 I made loads of friends online, it just seemed to happen! Hundreds on my contact list on msn that I was on good terms with... now I just don't seem to be make any friends anymore online, even when I try... don't understand!
 
TBH I don't really like doing shizzle irl... There's not that much one can do with another human that you can't do online... Only like 5 things come to mind and most of them are just gestures :/.
And I don't like social recreational activities like going to the cinema with people(I enjoy it on my own), or going to town with people, etc.
I have friends irl but they don't know me tbh. People online don't but they know more about me in terms of important stuff, not how tall I am, my voice, face, etc.
But I obv. have a bias.
EMZ=]
 
I agree with you, Emor. That's how I feel, too. I suppose I think there are lots of things you can do irl with friends that you can't do online, but nothing important to me. I just like to talk. Maybe play games. Sometimes we write together. We make each other laugh, advise and support each other. That's all I want from a friend anyhow.
 
Yeah they are friends and as much as I like them I don't value them as much as I do my IRL friends. I think it would hurt a lot more if I lost an IRL friend than it would an online friend. I think it's important to go out and see my friends and have as much of a social life as I can manage, even if I only have a very small group of them it's better than being completely lonely.
 
I actually see a real life friend as a problem if I have to talk to them every day tbh... like a proper friend... I don't mind someone just being friendly as such... but friends who hang around with you and stuff I'm just like, 'Crap. How to get rid of this one?'
I know that's bad but I just can't be bothered with real life friends because they're too high maintenance.
I think that's why I dislike non-long-distace relationships too. They're bloody ridiculous tbh, and even when you're not with them they expect you to reply to their texts constantly and stuff.
I can't cope with real life friends but I don't mind real life acquaintances as long as I don't have to give up my free time outside of school(I see socialising as a chore) to talk to them or meet up with them, and they don't constantly follow me at school(people see me staring into space at school and assume I want someone to talk to when I'm actually perfectly happy, or even when I'm reading a book[I'm sorry, but I seriously don't see why people- god I'm ranting, this has nothing to do with the subject]).
I know that sounds bad but yeah.
Even online friends who talk to me too much and expect me to constantly go on skype(I hate skype anyway for the most part, unless it's a group call and I'm not busy[I still prefer listening to music and being able to talk to 10+ people on MSN than no auditory stimulus and talking to only 3 people and expected to give 100% attention and not being allowed to bring up taboo subjects) I'll avoid talking to after a while.
God I need to get my social life sorted out. LOL.
I consider my best friends to be the people who only talk to me a couple of times a week max. I do have two friends I talk to like 5 hours a day but I guess they make me feel good that someone cares about me but I think we'd be better friends if we only talked a couple of times a week too.
EMZ=]
 
Online people I talk to are usually seen as acquaintances. I consider a friend to be someone that I am in closer contact with such as texting or phone or in person. And no, they don't have to be in the same city. I used to have a really good friend up in Alaska that I texted every day and spoke to on the phone on holidays. Online just seems too cold for me.
 
For me I can see it both ways, I can see it as a stepping stone to making friends in person a I consider some members to be close friends as well.
 
I try to consider people that I talk to online as my friends, but sadly I get stabbed in the back a lot :| I'm not quite sure if calling them my friends is smart as a few of them has made it clear that I'm only there to serve them :( For example,I 'd like to say that people who watch me on DA are my friends but as soon I stopped submitting art they leave, plus they don't really talk to me.

It's not all bad as I have some friends at least :D
 
I am not sure that I know what a friend really is. I feel safe here and relate to many of you more than anyone in my real life, although as in life, do not really seem to make a personal connection with anyone. I would love too and I like most everybody.
Someday I hope to have someone I can feel close too. Someone who looks forward to talking to me like I do with them.
 
I'd say so, I have friends I've kept in touch with before average people were on the Internet. Friends from an online service called Prodigy* from the late 80's, I still keep in touch with about half a dozen!
 
Arrogant Penguin said:
I'd say so, I have friends I've kept in touch with before average people were on the Internet. Friends from an online service called Prodigy* from the late 80's, I still keep in touch with about half a dozen!
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I had such fun on Prodigy. Then came payment based on timed usage. Everyone scattered to the four winds.

It was like seeing video killing the radio star....until this thing called the "Internet" came.
 
Judge said:
I had such fun on Prodigy. Then came payment based on timed usage. Everyone scattered to the four winds.

It was like seeing video killing the radio star....until this thing called the "Internet" came.
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Yup, I moved over to GEnie with a few of my Prodigy friends. Of course there were also the local BBS's I used to hang out on.
 
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