Basically, the "21 days rule" says that it takes 21 days of someone doing something every day for it to become an ingrained habit.
For instance:
If you exercise every day for 21 days straight, it will become something you do almost without even thinking about it.
If you start having meals at the same time every day for 21 days, you'll start doing that without planning it.
If you think "Right! I'm going to start calling my dad every day from now on!" and you do it for 21 days, it becomes so ingrained in you, that it almost turns into a need.
The only thing is... I've tried this with many different things sooooo many times, and it seems to work for a while. But if, for some reason, I stop doing it even if for just a day or 2, all this "ingrained" stuff flies right out the nearest window, and it doesn't even need to be open!
I tried it with exercise, with taking walks, with practicing my painting, with playing my guitar, with keeping in regular contact with friends and family...
There have been times that I was able to keep at something for a year, or even more. But then I got sick, or had to take a break because of a dental procedure, or simply because I didn't "feel like doing it" for one day. ONE DAY and any progress on habit forming went flying by in an instant.
Are ASDers immune to the "21 days" rule, or is it just me?
It's very frustrating.
For instance:
If you exercise every day for 21 days straight, it will become something you do almost without even thinking about it.
If you start having meals at the same time every day for 21 days, you'll start doing that without planning it.
If you think "Right! I'm going to start calling my dad every day from now on!" and you do it for 21 days, it becomes so ingrained in you, that it almost turns into a need.
The only thing is... I've tried this with many different things sooooo many times, and it seems to work for a while. But if, for some reason, I stop doing it even if for just a day or 2, all this "ingrained" stuff flies right out the nearest window, and it doesn't even need to be open!
I tried it with exercise, with taking walks, with practicing my painting, with playing my guitar, with keeping in regular contact with friends and family...
There have been times that I was able to keep at something for a year, or even more. But then I got sick, or had to take a break because of a dental procedure, or simply because I didn't "feel like doing it" for one day. ONE DAY and any progress on habit forming went flying by in an instant.
Are ASDers immune to the "21 days" rule, or is it just me?
It's very frustrating.