Do you speak incoherently?

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When speaking to people (orally), do you speak incoherently?

I'm an embarrassingly incoherent speaker. I blame my lack of talking on my incoherent way of speaking. I hardly ever use my mouth to talk which is probably why in the rare event that I actually do talk, I fail miserably. I'll often use the wrong words in my sentences and sometimes forget what I was saying mid-sentence . . . it's so bloody embarrassing. I wish I could express myself better.

I know that most people on the spectrum aren't that great at expressing themselves, but I'm probably far worse at it than the average person on the spectrum.

I think that my lack of talking is the cause of my incoherent speaking because I've noticed that when I've been speaking to people a lot, my speaking quickly becomes more coherent.

 

[King_Oni]

I think most people think I talk incoherent.

Most of the time it's not even that I stumble upon words, but it's some sort of verbal hyperactivity I use. I used to have it as a kid a lot, where my thoughts really went way faster than my ability to speak so I'd stumble upon words way to often. Nowadays I just display such things because it to me feels like the way I am. I don't see it as being incoherent, I'm even having a blast keeping a conversations rather "fresh" and full of random small anekdotes, but I figure it might be a strain on some people.

I talk a lot to myself if I'm thinking stuff through. Just random monologues I have, so I kinda have enough practice in speech. It doesn't help a lot that I ramble to myself often in a local dialect, and sometimes english, rarely in dutch, though that would be my native tongue. I stumble less if I'm speaking english for such a reason than whenever I'm talking dutch. Another thing that is a bit "annoying" is the region where I live, that has different accent, and thus some letters are pronounced differently, so unless people from across the country are actually intending to put some effort in it and listen to me, chances are they wont even have a clue what I'm saying a lot of times.

Sometimes people told me I make no sense, but I blame them for having a limited vocabulary. I can and will not differentiate between people in my choice of words, I'm either too arrogant or lazy (or both) to make distinctions between people for such. So in general if you connect with me on a certain level from the start, chances are we'll get along fine in the long run (by communication at least)

 

[Gomendosi]

I used to get that a lot, as stuttering was a thing I did a lot as a child and I used to constantly wuddle my mords, I think that’s called Spoonerism.
My family used to mercilessly pick on me for my speech and thus I turned it into a joke for their amusement and would deliberately misspeak as though it had been intentional all along, this approach doesn’t work in the real world though and so I just stick to the facts in as much dialogue as I can, facts are easier to get out unfettered.
Whenever I need to 'free' talk I tend to over explain things as that also helps to concentrate the thought stream, I have always thought that my face was built from a different set of plans than my brain and so nothing lines up, words can get lodged in corners and come out at the wrong time or all together or in a mixed order. I even find the same thing typing if you can believe that ; ]

 

[epath13]

I've always been like that. I often have to rehearse all the possible conversations I might have several times. It doesn't really change when I talk more often but it usually becomes worse when I'm tired. I would disregard situations when the difficulties while talking are caused by anxiety, because that's pretty normal. Sometimes it can go completely out of control but usually I'm doing OK. and I'm kinda tired of being embarrassed about it, I don't care any more.

 

[Daft]

When I was a child I had a speech impediment, primarily with my "r" and "s" sounds. It's mostly corrected itself over the years - mostly. A lot of people think I have a slight accent and must be foreign. I really have no idea what to tell them some days.

 

[GhettoButterFly]

I wish I knew. :S All I know people understand me when I speak and that's about it. Sometimes I get tongue tied but that is ok.

Aillas, try to talk to some more people and your speech will start to flow. Be it real life or via online voice chat. ^_^;

As for myself, I can't tell and I don't think any of y'all want to be the judge. So I guess I'll upload a voice clip another time.

 

[kasmanaft08]

I think it depends how anxious I am, really, or how interested I am.

My mind wanders around really fast- if I'm not interested in what I'm saying, sometimes- out of laziness, I just don't explain myself well and try to move on. It ends up making things more confusing. For example, if someone tries to illicit a debate out of me, and I'm not interested in it, I explain myself horribly or just go a bit weird with it and try to blow it off, even if I actually have a thought-out opinion on the topic. So I may hate their opinion of it, express it, but I don't feel like explaining it because that means more debate.

Heh...if that makes any sense. I'm generally the same with confrontation or defensiveness...I usually just don't care enough and feel uncomfortable at the unwanted attention. But I have a really hard time lying or faking body language, so I usually get stuck in moments like that when it happens.

That's usually when I seem a bit incoherent. I've also been told I have an odd way of explaining things sometimes, which can often make me sound dumber than I am or just really strange. Probably why I identify with Karl Pilkington so much when I watched Idiot Abroad. I feel stupid talking to a lot of people, really. But I swear there's always a connection or train of thought that goes with what I say.

It also depends how tired and focused I am. If there's a lot going on or if I'm just low on energy I won't come off well. Usually when I have a good amount of quiet/alone time, I'm better able to talk about things in general to be honest.

But sometimes, I can explain myself really well- better than most people I think. At least on a lot of topics.

So I guess it just depends who you ask and when. People who I'm comfortable with tend to find me well-spoken and would consider me smart in at least some ways. Then again, I'm not comfortable around most people.

 

[epath13]

I think it depends how anxious I am, really, or how interested I am.

My mind wanders around really fast- if I'm not interested in what I'm saying, sometimes- out of laziness, I just don't explain myself well and try to move on. It ends up making things more confusing. For example, if someone tries to illicit a debate out of me, and I'm not interested in it, I explain myself horribly or just go a bit weird with it and try to blow it off, even if I actually have a thought-out opinion on the topic. So I may hate their opinion of it, express it, but I don't feel like explaining it because that means more debate.
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I'm actually pretty bad at explanations as well unless I'm prepared for the conversation or debate. In college my professor told me once that I was well spoken it's just that not many people could understand what I meant, she was trying to teach me how to be clearer... Too bad I quitted school

 

[WildCat]

I remember starting a thread about something like this, don't know what happened to it but...anyways, this is a huge issue of mine. Really, I'm no different than a non-verbal autistic who communicates through written text...I still repeat things to myself to this day and all that mess. I'm more comfortable writing or typing what I need to say, but due to the fact that I now work in a public environment I've pretty much forced myself to be somewhat verbally proficient. It's not that my verbal skills suck; rather, the speed at which I can queue up my thoughts into spoken words and process what's being said to me like every other person I know is what kills me.

 

[HelloDizzy]

I tend to speak as if I am reading from a textbook. My nickname is Textbook.
My southern accent helps it to not be quite as creepy.

When I was younger I mumbled. A lot. I can't speak loudly. My accent is so strong that it can be difficult even if I do not mumble, for people to understand.
I also say "uh" a lot due to the fact that I'm usually thinking about way too much at once.

 

[NeverEnder]

I tend to speak as if I am reading from a textbook. My nickname is Textbook.
My southern accent helps it to not be quite as creepy.

When I was younger I mumbled. A lot. I can't speak loudly. My accent is so strong that it can be difficult even if I do not mumble, for people to understand.
I also say "uh" a lot due to the fact that I'm usually thinking about way too much at once.

I lived right on the border of Louisiana for many years (East Texas). I believe I would understand your accent just fine. View attachment 2248

 

[HelloDizzy]

Lol why have we not crossed paths until now?

 

[NeverEnder]

Lol why have we not crossed paths until now?

Very good question... View attachment 2249

 

[HelloDizzy]

Wahaha.

I do believe many on the Spectrum have speech issues, whether they can read well above average or not, also.

 

[RavenSly]

Yeah, my example of this is weird. For the most part, I actually speak entirely normally. I don't really have any problems with my tone, accent, or annunciations, so if someone speaks to me, they can't really tell I have Asperger's just from hearing me speak [I have a close friend who despite having met many people with Asperger's before, told me she didn't know I had it until I told her] I also know a number of people who have it, and I can usually tell just from hearing them speak one sentence. Although you might not be able to tell from my voice, I do have other stuff, like I still do the spouting of trivia and anecdotal facts/stories, as well as the verbose, formal speech that denotes someone with our condition. I also have problems with volume. When I talk to people I often hear from them that they have trouble hearing me because of how quiet my voice is. People who speak to me over the phone almost always tell me to speak up at least once [often even my own family members].

The weird thing about this is that until just a few years ago, I was the exact opposite. I spoke loudly, confidently, and when I was much younger, was literally uncomfortable if I wasn't talking while around other people. Now though, in addition to being quiet, I'm also much more introverted, I talk a lot less, and I'm not arrogant and boastful like I used to be.

 

[Mr. Jones]

It is common for me to talk incoherently when out in public or talking to those I don’t know. Considering where I am when this happens, I have attributed it to mostly anxiety, though I did have a significant speech impediment when I was a child and received speech therapy at a hospital. When I do talk incoherently it is like I am stumbling all the time.

Most of the time I am content being silent and I am far better at expressing myself through writing or typing than I am through speech. The thoughts are there, they just don’t come out right… :S

 

[earthsteward70]

Sometimes, when I feel anxious, I will try to speak and the sentence will be spit out in the wrong grammatical order. If it's really bad, I lose my nouns and replace a noun with a different noun. My kids know what I'm talking about at the time, but I shake my head at myself. And when it's at the worst I will speak a gibberish word. It's as if my brain to tongue connection short circuits.

 

[Bay]

Sometimes my tongue cannot keep with my mind, other times the word order of sentences is jumbled. Sometimes I try to use idioms or colloquialisms and choose the wrong words, making the phrase either meaningless (to others) or hilariously stupid. Sometimes I talk and then end up saying "Wait. That didn't come out right."

 

[Caspar]

Yes. It gets especially bad when I am anxious, then I slur my speech as though I have a foreign accent. I often mix up the order of words and become very incoherent when thinking and talking at the same time (it's not easy translating logic/pictures into words...). Maybe I would have an easier time if natural languages were more like programming languages...or not.

 

[Arashi222]

Sometimes my tongue cannot keep with my mind, other times the word order of sentences is jumbled. Sometimes I try to use idioms or colloquialisms and choose the wrong words, making the phrase either meaningless (to others) or hilariously stupid. Sometimes I talk and then end up saying "Wait. That didn't come out right."

Heh me too. I do this all the time. I get so caught up in trying to get things out right that I stumble my words and think of the wrong things to say and use the wrong words or ideas. I too often say "wait back up try again." Shrugs I guess its something that isn't changeable:cute:.